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Milwaukee, WI

Members-only BDSM/lifestyle community center (brand sunset — venue continues at the same address as Inversion MKE)

Club EASSEL ran for about four years as Milwaukee's self-described "BDSM/Lifestyle Community Center" — a sex-positive, body-positive, kink-inclusive members space built out of a suite inside a multi-tenant 1950s flex/industrial building at 615 S 89th Street, on the western edge of Milwaukee proper at the West Allis border. The club shared the building with a mechanical contractor, a junk-removal franchise and a construction firm — daytime industrial tenants who closed up by the time EASSEL's doors opened. The brand name is a stylised respelling of "easel" — the artist's stand — and that framing recurred in the club's own copy: "fun and exciting ways to explore your sexuality in a safe and sex-positive environment" and "explore your art in a body positive space." Eassel LLC was registered in Wisconsin on 11 December 2020 with Kathryn S. Huntington listed as registered agent; the club opened to the public not long after. EASSEL ran an unusual format for the US lifestyle scene — kink/BDSM-forward rather than swing-forward, members-only and application-based but unusually transparent for the niche (LLC on public record, BBB profile under "Adult Entertainment" with an A+ rating, Facebook and Instagram both maintained). It sat outside the standard swinger directories — not on SDC, Kasidie, SwingLifestyle or SwingersHelp — and lived instead on FetLife, Instagram, a Wisconsin Facebook lifestyle group, and a handful of community-centre listings (including a Madison sex-positive therapist's referral page). Programming ran Tuesday 7:30–10:30pm and Friday/Saturday 8pm–2am, with a regular Karaoke Night anchoring the weekly cadence and BDSM munches and play parties filling the rest. The Church of Ecstasy lifestyle aggregator rated it the highest-scoring Milwaukee venue at 4.2/5. The only public-facing peer in the city was The Key Social Club — a 21+ swinger-leaning social — and the two operated as complements rather than competitors. In the second half of 2024 the EASSEL name sunset and the venue rebranded as Inversion MKE. The change is documented in the City of Milwaukee Board of Zoning Appeals agenda for 12 September 2024, which lists "Inversion MKE, LLC" applying for a special use permit at 615 S 89th Street, and was confirmed in an r/milwaukee thread by a regular who clarified that "EASSEL did not close, just renamed to Inversion a few months ago. The management changed. It's now one of the best run establishments I know of. Everyone is super nice and there is a great culture of safety and consent." The clubeassel.com domain went offline shortly after, displaying a developer placeholder dated 2025. The Instagram, Facebook and FetLife accounts remain visible but inactive under the old name. The Club EASSEL brand is closed; the venue itself continues, under new ownership and a new identity, at the same address.

BiZarre Events

London, London

BDSM Club

BiZarre Events is one of London's boldest and most unapologetically extreme fetish party producers, founded in April 2012 by Nina and Aidan BiZarre — two lifelong practitioners who created the events they wished existed. Operating as a private members club across rotating London venues disclosed only to confirmed guests, BiZarre isn't a nightclub with a kink corner — it's a play-first, immersive experience where fetish, kink, and sexual exploration take centre stage. Their lineup includes the long-running Bi-Kink Club for bisexual and pansexual fetishists, Club Labrys — a women-only safe space launched in 2019 — and the notorious PisSoir nights. Events run monthly on Saturdays, typically 9 PM to 3 AM, at purpose-fitted venues including world-renowned BDSM dungeons equipped with St. Andrew's crosses, bondage beds, suspension frames, and dedicated play spaces. Admission includes complimentary drinks, coat check, towels, showers, and supplies — an unusually all-inclusive package for the London fetish scene. The strict dress code is enforced at the door, and professional floor stewards ensure consent is always upheld. BiZarre explicitly welcomes everyone — straight, bi, gay, lesbian, trans, gender-fluid, crossdressers, singles, couples, and poly groups — making it one of the most genuinely pan-sexual events in London. Featured in Time Out London and Kinky Compass's Top 15 Kink Events, BiZarre has earned a devoted following over 14 years with consistently positive reviews praising the friendly atmosphere, professional staff, and immersive play-focused environment. Annual membership is £30, with per-event pricing from £25 for couples to £50 for non-member singles.

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The Night Game

Houston, TX

on-premise nightclub

Billed as the largest and most luxurious private member lifestyle club in Texas, The Night Game sits off FM 1960 in north Houston and pulls off a rare double act: upscale enough to enforce a date-night dress code, yet relaxed enough to welcome everyone from curious first-timers to seasoned regulars. The vibe leans high-class-meets-cozy — think polished nightclub energy on the main floor and something warmer in the back. The crowd skews broad, reflecting the club's openly inclusive philosophy: swinging, BDSM, polyamory, LGBTQ+ and everything in between are all explicitly welcomed. The main floor centres on a 1,200 sq ft dance floor fitted with a dance cage, two dance poles and a shadow box for silhouette shows, all driven by resident professional DJs. Complimentary drink set-ups and full waitstaff keep the social side humming, and a covered patio offers breathing room between dances. Beyond the dancefloor, fully-stocked private playrooms are staffed with dedicated security and cleaning personnel — playroom doors are required to stay closed during play, and single unaccompanied men must be invited in by a couple or partner before entering. A Selfie Station in the main hall lets guests snap photos with mutual consent while keeping cameras out of private areas entirely. Entry requires valid photo ID and adherence to a firm dress code: cocktail and clubwear for ladies, collared or solid fashion shirts and clean shoes for men — no logo tees, athletic gear, cargo shorts or flip-flops will get you through the door. The club is strictly BYOB (no alcohol sold or served), has a zero-tolerance drugs policy, and operates under Harris County regulations requiring nipples and genitals to be covered in all common areas. Reservations are available online, pricing adjusts for holiday and special-event nights, and the club actively encourages guests with non-binary gender identities to contact them directly about pricing and access.

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Allures Lifestyle

Sacramento, CA

Event Organizer (Hotel Takeover Parties)

Allures Lifestyle is Sacramento's longest-running lifestyle event organizer — a pop-up operation that descends on the DoubleTree by Hilton Sacramento's grand ballroom and transforms it into what the group bills as Northern California's premier swinger dance-play party. Operating under the tagline "the force of irresistible attraction," Allures has run monthly hotel parties for over a decade and draws couples from across the greater Sacramento area and beyond. The setup reads more nightclub than back-room affair: romantic candlelight, fog machines, sensual mood lighting, and two large projector screens broadcasting music videos accompany a state-of-the-art DJ spinning Old School, R&B, Hip Hop, Latin, Pop, EDM, and Classic Rock. The main ballroom floor centers on a full dance floor with a stripper pole and go-go stage, flanked by reserved VIP round tables (seating eight each) and 10-by-7-foot draped VIP cabanas — each fitted with a sofa, loveseat, and coffee table — right on the dance floor. Adjacent to the ballroom, the "Boom Boom Room" play suite provides multiple beds, a double-sided St. Andrew's Cross, a multi-positional sex horse, and a sex swing, staffed by Allures personnel throughout the evening. Guests in the play suite are asked to be in lingerie or less; voyeurs are welcome but may be asked to vacate if space is needed. Overnight sleeping rooms — standard rooms through two-bedroom suites — can be reserved in the Allures hotel block, placing guests on dedicated Allures floors and including a goodie bag at check-in. The event calendar runs to monthly themed hotel dances plus more intimate "Fantasy Fridays" at rotating venues, casual Meet & Greets at nightclubs and lifestyle bars, and an ambitious roster of destination programming: a clothing-optional takeover in Jaco, Costa Rica, Hedonism II Jamaica dates, Bliss and Desire cruise ship charters, Vegas weekends, Gold Country motorcycle runs, boating flotillas, and camping trips. The signature event is the annual New Year's Eve "SEXabration Ball," which drew national news coverage in January 2020 after nearly 1,000 guests filled the DoubleTree. All hotel events are 21+; a full cash bar is on-site.

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Lacey's PlayHouse

Myrtle Beach, SC

Lacey's PlayHouse is an upscale, hosted lifestyle party venue near Myrtle Beach, South Carolina. The venue offers a safe, judgment-free environment for couples and open-minded adults in an intimate, curated setting.

Club Safe Word

San Diego, CA

Club Safe Word is a private lifestyle club in San Diego, CA welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

Hacienda

Brooklyn, NY

On-Premise Club

Rooted in Bushwick since 2009, Hacienda operates across multiple townhouses in Brooklyn's most creative neighborhood, functioning as both a members-only sex-positive club and an intentional living community. The flagship venue features multiple floors with distinct play areas, social lounges, a hot tub, indoor and outdoor spaces, and room for DJs and live performances. The crowd skews late twenties and thirties, draws a notably gender-balanced mix of couples, singles, and non-monogamous folk, and sets a tone that members describe as intimate rather than nightclub-loud. Access runs entirely through a referral-based membership system. Applicants must be vouched for by an existing member, watch a mandatory consent-policy video, and pay $40/quarter or $120/year; individual event tickets run $45–$85. Three event tiers exist: public themed nights, private members-only play parties, and educational workshops. First-time guests must complete an in-person orientation before their first play party. Play parties feature multiple socializing and play zones, themed decor, DJ sets, and a full meal served around 2am. Trained volunteers called Guardians — identifiable by light-up armbands — circulate throughout every event and do not participate in play. The consent policy is opt-in: all touch requires explicit verbal agreement. Phones and recording devices are not permitted in play areas.

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KC Book Club

Liberty, MO

On-Premise Club

KC Book Club is a by-invitation-only lifestyle house party set on five acres of secluded land just north of Liberty, Missouri — a quiet, rural setting that ensures complete privacy for its guests. Owned and personally run by Eddie, the venue is a custom-built entertaining space that has earned a reputation as one of the Midwest most recognized lifestyle destinations, drawing regulars and curious newcomers alike from as far as Nebraska, Iowa, Oklahoma, and Arkansas. The club has been featured on national lifestyle podcasts, and its welcoming, consent-forward atmosphere keeps the crowd firmly in living-room-party territory rather than nightclub territory. Saturday nights are the club's exclusive rhythm, and the format is BYOE — guests bring their own drinks and snacks, while the house provides soft drinks, hors d'oeuvres, ice, soda mixers, and bottled water. Inside, a large social area and a dance floor (complete with stripper pole) set the tone for mingling before the evening deepens. Private play rooms and dedicated kink and lifestyle spaces are available on site, and the venue also features a pool, hot tub, and showers. When the weather cooperates, the five acres open up for clothing-optional volleyball, swimming, and sunbathing. The club is kink-friendly, swinger-friendly, and welcoming to the genuinely curious — but it is strictly couples and single women only; single men are not admitted. Access is by invitation only, and the BYOE policy keeps the vibe communal and intimate. The location near Liberty Triangle puts guests within easy reach of hotels, restaurants, and retail for before or after the party.

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Braven Manor

Burnaby, British Columbia

Private Residence

Braven Manor is a long-running, community-oriented kink and lifestyle venue operating from a private home in North Burnaby, just outside Vancouver. Since 2008, the space has served as an intimate alternative to commercial clubs, offering a fully equipped dungeon, themed play rooms, and flexible event programming that spans BDSM, swinging, fetish play, and group encounters — all at an accessible price point of $30 per person. The house features a dedicated dungeon with suspension frame, bondage table, cage, and spanking benches, plus a garage play space, whipping room with St Andrew's Cross, a medical room with a fucking machine, a school room, and multiple private lockable bedrooms. Supplies including condoms, lube, gloves, cleaning products, towels, and unlimited soft drinks are all included with admission. A Sybian is available during events, and the space can be rented privately for couples or small groups at hourly rates. Run as a non-profit by operator Seann Lyncaster, the venue hosts rotating events on its own calendar system — from gangbangs and BDSM play parties to swinger nights and private bookings. Membership signup is free, the atmosphere is pansexual and LGBTQ+ welcoming, and newcomers receive an orientation tour on arrival. The BYOB format keeps costs low, and a house safeword system underscores the consent-first culture that defines the space.

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Club Giggity

Philadelphia, PA

Club Giggity is a traveling lifestyle-events company — a subsidiary of The Forever Young Experience — rather than a fixed-address club, producing 'upscale events for sexy sophisticated couples & singles' across the Northeast. Its own site describes a roster that runs the gamut from 'small intimate house parties, on premise clubs, lifestyle meet & greets, hotel & resort takeovers and private affairs,' with events deliberately built for 'every alternative lifestyle including swingers, LGBT, the BDSM/Fetish community and anyone interested in an adult party experience like no other.' The operators tout 'over 20 years of professional DJ, promotion, marketing, graphic design, site procurement and event planning in NY, Miami, Philly & Atlantic City,' and the company promotes, hosts and DJs events throughout PA, NJ, NY, MD, DE and CT. The crowd is pitched as broad and unpretentious: 'From Doctors to lawyers, nurses to teachers and everyone in between,' spanning 'different races, heights and weights,' with parties framed as 'no pressure affairs open to all ages over 21' that 'do not discriminate based on age, race, religion, physical appearance, or lifestyle level of play.' Newcomers are eased in via low-pressure meet & greets 'designed for socializing without pressure,' and the site stresses going 'at your own flow' — whether that means observing or full partner exchanges — with open communication between partners encouraged throughout. Swinging is described as 'a lifestyle open to couples and singles alike'; single women are welcomed, while single men are admitted to 'certain nights at clubs and certain parties.' Because Club Giggity is an event producer, the experience changes with the venue — from a club night to a multi-day resort takeover — and it offers an all-inclusive production service (planning, DJ & lighting, web graphics & promotion, social-media promotion, personalized favors, clothing & posters), plus optional add-ons such as massage therapists, photographers, adult toy & lingerie vendors, body painters and BDSM/fetish services. The site maintains a live Takeover Schedule and an Events calendar, and has run flagship trips such as a Hedonism resort 'Hedo Invasion,' confirming the operation is active and booking forward-dated events.

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Scarlet Ranch

Littleton, CO

On-Premise Club

Set on five acres of park-like grounds in Littleton's south Denver suburbs, Scarlet Ranch has operated since 2003 as an upscale lifestyle club, occupying a roughly 24,000-square-foot modern mountain lodge known as Squirrel Creek Lodge. Soaring split-log ceilings, river-rock bars and rustic touches lend a Swiss-chalet warmth; the main floor holds two bars, high-top tables, leather lounges, a billiard room and shuffleboard, opening onto a large dance floor with a raised DJ booth and a stage. Downstairs are the play spaces: a group area of four queen beds, six curtained private alcoves and voyeuristic showers. Open Wednesday through Sunday with themed events nearly every night and major weekly parties, the Ranch draws a well-dressed, upscale crowd averaging about 37, spanning late-20s to 60s. It welcomes couples and single women, with select single men admitted. Amenities include hot tubs, the on-site Oreads steakhouse, a praised Sunday brunch, BYOB bar service, and outdoor cabanas, a fire-pit teepee and seasonal pool-style parties.

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NSFW (New Society for Wellness)

New York, NY

On-Premise Club

Founded in 2018 by Daniel Saynt — the self-described 'Chief Conspirator' — NSFW (New Society for Wellness) began as an intimate gathering in lower Manhattan and grew into one of New York's most talked-about members-only sex clubs. The current clubhouse, a 4,000 sq ft space in Chelsea near Penn Station, replaced earlier venues in Brooklyn and lower Manhattan and opened in August 2025. Entry is past a velvet rope and front-desk check-in, with arrivals capped at 60 members per event. The crowd — drawn heavily from entertainment, fashion, and media, averaging around 28 years old and running roughly 60 percent female — sets a tone one attendee described as 'civilized debauchery.' All guests dress in all-black to put everyone on an equal playing field. The weekly rhythm runs to PlayDates every Saturday (21:00–02:00) and Netflix & Chill Sundays (18:00–22:00), with workshops Tuesdays and Thursdays (18:00–21:00) covering pleasure education, rope play, and BDSM. A monthly Send Noobs introductory session walks prospective members through the community's consent framework before they set foot in the Clubhouse. The space features plush communal areas, a sex swing, shibari play zones, walls of floggers and paddles, and private by-reservation rooms. Membership requires a vetted profile granted at roughly a 30% acceptance rate, evaluated across 14 criteria. Tiers range from Pay-Per-Play ($29/month or $169/year plus per-event passes) to Unlimited Solo ($250/month) and Unlimited Couples ($350/month) plans. An online community of 7,500+ member profiles, an NSFW Magazine, and sex-education resources extend the experience beyond the physical Clubhouse.

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The Korral

Spring Grove, PA

On-Premise Club

Set on a private rural property in York County, Pennsylvania — and sharing its grounds with Kim's Krypt Haunted Mill — The Korral has grown into one of the most-decorated lifestyle clubs on the East Coast, twice named ASN LS Magazine's top Adult Entertainment Venue (2022 and 2023). The complex spans a large main building housing a stage-and-pole dance floor, full-service bar, dining room, pool tables, air hockey, locker rooms with showers, a selfie room, the Pyretta Blayze in-house store, and a warren of 18 themed playrooms kept stocked with fresh towels and sanitizing supplies. Outside, a heated saltwater pool with a wide deck and Tiki Hut runs from Memorial Day through September, flanked by two hot tubs set into a grotto. Parties run Friday and Saturday from 7 pm to 2 am (8 pm-3 am on New Year's Eve), and the crowd skews a broad 30-55 in median age. The dedicated BDSM hallway, a glory hole, and an open group room sit alongside more intimate themed suites, while a CCTV room and house-wide phone policy keep the atmosphere relaxed and discreet. Monthly Kink Nights shift the dance floor into an educational play space — one discipline per session, with a demo and opt-in tastings — followed by a Sunday munch. The Korral also hosts two annual Kink Intensives alongside a packed calendar of costumed theme nights. For those who want to extend the evening, eight private stay rooms (king bed, chaise, keyed entry) book out for the full weekend — Friday check-in, Sunday checkout — while 20-plus after-party rooms open at 2 am for single- or two-night stays. All rooms are first-come, first-served with a non-refundable deposit.

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616

Grand Rapids, MI

Rotating hotel takeover event organizer - no fixed venue

Club 616 is a members-only lifestyle club serving West Michigan, running themed hotel-takeover events in Kalamazoo, Grand Rapids, and Newaygo. Current hosts took over in January 2012, building on a group dating to the 1990s. Membership welcomes couples, single ladies, and sponsored single gentlemen; the club calls itself BDSM, kink, and LGBTQ+ friendly. Joining requires an application, photo ID, and signed consent forms. Signature parties - Red Carpet NYE, Halloween, and a spring weekend - bring a dance floor, DJ, dance pole, light show, a pool party, and a VIP room with bench swings, a St. Andrew's cross, and a ladies-only bed. A recent Halloween filled a 182-room hotel, dress shifting by zone: lobby street clothes, g-strings/pasties minimum poolside, none in the VIP room. Entry is 21-and-up, reservation-only, ID checked at registration. Consent policy bars unwanted touching; cameras banned at events.

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CKJ Studio (Club Kink Jax)

Jacksonville, FL

BDSM Club

CKJ Studio, also known as Club Kink Jax, occupies a 5,300-square-foot space at 6221 Samuel Wells Drive, Suite 1500, in Jacksonville, Florida. Billed as "Northeast Florida's Premier Membership Lifestyle Club," it welcomes couples, singles, and polyamorous guests across the kink, BDSM, swinger, nudist, and LGBT communities, with a stated ethos of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual." The building holds lounges, themed play rooms, dungeon spaces, a VIP area called La Intima, showers and locker rooms, an outdoor smoking patio, and free on-site parking. The club runs on a fixed weekly rhythm: Wednesday (7pm-12am), Friday (7pm-2am), and Saturday (7pm-2am), each opening with a 7-9pm social hour before shifting into members-only hours. Newcomers must complete a paid, appointment-only orientation, capped at 12 people per session, before applying for membership; walk-ins are not accepted. Membership tiers include a per-person Trial ($69, not available to single men), Annual ($149 plus $25 per visit), and Annual VIP ($599, unlimited visits and events). Dress code runs from street-legal attire outside to business-casual, dressy, or fetish wear inside, loosening toward lingerie or optional clothing after 9pm.

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Ignite Club

Heathrow, London

On-Premise Club

Ignite Club is London's largest lifestyle club — a genuine dual-identity venue that runs as Kestrels Spa by day and Club Ignite by night, set on Bath Road in Longford right next to Heathrow's Terminal 5. The January 2025 rebrand of the former AbFab/Kestrels (and before that Kestrel Hydro Spa) keeps the same sprawling 422 Bath Road building but gives it a fresh identity under new operator Caroline Towers. The headline feature is a large heated nude swimming pool — reportedly the only one at any UK lifestyle club — alongside three hot tubs, a sauna and steam room, a porn cinema with comfy seating, what the operators call the largest dark room in London, a dungeon, grope boxes, nine play rooms (three private plus three with viewing windows downstairs, two two-way-mirror "sheds" and one private room upstairs, all lockable from the inside), a dedicated couples-only play room, plus a licensed bar and disco. There's off-road parking for around 30 cars with an ANPR system. Daytime Silks & Skins spa days run Mon/Wed/Thu/Fri/Sun 11am–6pm (Mon/Wed extend to 10pm as clothing-optional, Sunday runs to 8pm) with a strict naturist dress code in the wet areas — robes, towels, or nothing, and footwear required everywhere. Thursday and Sunday days allow lingerie as an alternative ("Silks & Skins"). Evening swingers parties run Friday and Saturday 9pm–2am (last entry 11:30pm) as "AbFabulous Fridays" and "Sensational Saturdays", with smart-casual enforced: collared shirts and smart shoes for men, sexy attire for women — no towels upstairs, no trainers, no leisurewear. Once a month one Saturday is exclusively couples and single ladies with no single men admitted at all. Themed nights rotate through Wicked Vixens, Asian Darkside, Latex & Leather, Mocha Nights, Half-Off Fridays, and an NYE 'Oscars' Ball. Pricing: Mon/Wed/Sun spa £40 couples / £17 ladies / £43 gents, Thu/Fri spa £35 / £15 / £40, Fri/Sat parties £35 / £15 / £50 (single gents must pre-book with £10 deposit, no walk-ins). Ignite is a private members' club — individual membership is £25 per person per year (no couples membership, everyone applies separately), or first-timers can buy a £10 day/night pass and upgrade for £15 extra. Two forms of ID are required at first visit (one photo, one proof of address — UK driving licence covers both) and you'll complete an online application in advance. Phones are collected at reception, bagged with a numbered tag, and stored under CCTV — no photography or filming anywhere in the venue. Consent is heavily emphasised: "don't touch anyone unless you're clearly invited to." Play is welcome throughout the building except in the pool, hot tubs, steam room, and outdoor smoking area. One complimentary towel per guest (extras £2.50). Worth knowing: despite the naturist spa format, this is NOT a British Naturism affiliated venue — play is permitted in playrooms throughout the day, which distinguishes it sharply from mainstream UK naturist spas like Clover Spa.

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AfterDark Events

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer (Pop-Up Play Parties)

AfterDark is a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled led org producing curated kink and alt-sex events across the SF Bay Area. Founded 2021 with 10+ years of ethical organizing, running signature parties like SPANK! Pop-ups at Stopgap in SoMa, 100-200 attendees. Each party has zones for socializing, dancing, kink play, and aftercare. Safer-sex supplies, food (vegan/GF/DF), and non-alcoholic drinks provided. Drug/alcohol-free, no phones, no photography, ID required. Consent-centered: dungeon monitors, house safeword, no breath play or open flame.

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Bliss Cruise

Fort Lauderdale, FL

Cruise

Celebrating a decade on the water, Bliss Cruise is a full-ship charter lifestyle experience that charters some of the world's largest vessels including Royal Caribbean's Wonder of the Seas and Celebrity Reflection out of Fort Lauderdale and Miami for week-long voyages to Caribbean ports such as Cozumel, Aruba, Curacao, and Grand Turk. Founded around 2015 and operating under Bliss Mgt, LLC, it has grown into what the company describes as the world's largest lifestyle cruise event, with sailings carrying upwards of 6,000 guests on the biggest charters. Every sailing is strictly couples-only and reserved for adults 21 and older, with an atmosphere deliberately built around curiosity without pressure. Onboard, the experience is layered across multiple venues running more than 400 events per charter. Clothing-optional pools and hot tubs open up when the ship is at sea, while after dark the schedule shifts to daily themed parties fueled by international DJs and burlesque and erotic performances. Multiple dedicated play areas cover different energies: a couples-only playroom, a fetish dungeon, an all-passengers open room, and an outdoor space. Days fill out with meet-and-greet mixers, immersive seminars, and clothing-optional signature excursions in port. The crowd spans newcomers to seasoned regulars, and reviewers consistently note that friendliness aboard runs high. Consent culture is baked into the program: every guest must sign an Acceptable Behavior Policy at the dock before boarding, and photography is banned in clothing-optional areas, playrooms, and during theme nights. A dedicated Bliss App handles event scheduling, couple-to-couple messaging, and preference matching, making it the only lifestyle charter with its own purpose-built mobile platform.

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Club E'Lan

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Wakefield, MA

Private-home party series (off-premise, presumed defunct)

Club E'Lan ran for at least the better part of two decades as one of New England's longest-standing private swinger clubs, founded in 1994 and operated entirely on the old-school NASCA model — phone, mail, and a personal AOL email, with the actual party location never published online or anywhere else. The mailing address was a PO Box in Wakefield, Massachusetts; the parties themselves were held in "a private home located just 20 minutes north of Boston," with the address disclosed only to guests who had cleared screening. The organiser is publicly identified only by the email handle "ladi630@aol.com" — the "ladi" / "Lady" tag is the giveaway: the kind of female host-organiser whose name circulated in the North Shore lifestyle community by word of mouth and by call-back, never in print. The format was tight by design. Each party had a specific theme — the listing language emphasised that the themes were chosen "to fill the evening with fun and laughter, as well as help new couples feel welcome to the lifestyle." The room was hard-capped at 40 couples. A separate quota allowed only 5 single men per party, and only after a phone or mail screening; single women were always welcome with no cap. The minimum age was 25 — unusually high for a US lifestyle club, and a deliberate curation choice. Doors opened at 8pm and ran until 2am, reservations required, no walk-ins, ever. Beyond that, almost nothing about the operation was public. No pricing was ever printed. No dress code was published. No amenity list (no mention of hot tubs, playrooms, dungeons, DJs) ever surfaced — which is itself the story: the club was a curated couples-and-singles social by application, not a venue with a tour. By the time the current New England lifestyle scene started to be written about — Pagan Kennedy's 2008 Boston Magazine feature "Hooking Up with the Joneses" first put the suburban MA scene on the map; later guides documented Club SINZ in Salisbury, The Sterling in Waltham, Illuminaughty Boston, Boston Sex Club, and Club4Play's hotel takeovers — E'Lan had already faded out of the public footprint. Every modern Massachusetts-clubs roundup from 2020 onward omits E'Lan entirely. The phone, email and PO Box remain on file at the Close Encounters Club NASCA directory (the only public listing the club ever had), but appear functionally inactive: no business directory carries them, no social media exists, no website was ever built, no Wayback snapshots of clubelan.com or clubelan.net ever held E'Lan content. The club is presumed quietly wound down sometime in the 2010s, with no public closure announcement. Its market position — discreet, screened, North Shore couples-and-singles — is now held by The Sterling in Waltham (geographically nearest) and Club SINZ in Salisbury (the same North Shore audience), with Illuminaughty Boston covering the curated/by-application niche E'Lan once defined locally.

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Fusion Parties

Manchester, NH

Mobile/roving — various NH venues; no fixed premises

Fusion Parties Social Club is a private members community based in Manchester, New Hampshire, built around connection, exploration, and upscale adult experiences for open-minded couples and individuals. Rather than operating a fixed venue, the organizers rent out different locations for each event, favouring mansions, penthouses, and pool-equipped estates across New Hampshire. Events typically run monthly or bi-monthly, with tickets sold through SimpleTix; the exact address is shared with ticket holders only in the week of the event. A Fusion Parties night centres on a distinct theme — past editions have included Masquerade Penthouse, Glitz & Glam, Glow Hard, and Cupid’s NightCap — with a DJ, live performances (LED displays, fire acts, or themed dance routines), and complimentary appetisers. The club runs BYOB with bartenders on site mixing cocktails from house-provided mixers; no alcohol is sold. Playrooms and a dance pole feature at house-party events, while the Eden resort-takeover format switches to a full cash bar and multi-night itinerary. Fusion Parties collaborates closely with Mindbender Parties and H&H Social Club, forming a New England lifestyle network. Listed on SDC, events draw hundreds of guests, making Fusion one of the largest lifestyle event operations in New Hampshire.

Secrets Hideaway Resort & Spa

Kissimmee, FL

Lifestyle Resort

Sprawled across five acres of converted motel buildings on East Irlo Bronson Memorial Highway — minutes from Disney World — Secrets Hideaway Resort & Spa is central Florida's flagship lifestyle destination. The members-only, clothing-optional property holds around 148 individually owned condo-hotel units arranged around a courtyard pool, two hot tubs, a poolside tiki bar and the Club Secret nightclub, which pumps EDM across a two-bar dance floor with a full light-and-sound rig most nights of the week. The main draw is an 8,000-square-foot playroom complex: five windowed private rooms with beds and couches, a large central group-play area, a curtained section with a screening lounge, and a staffed dungeon (Club Swinkster) equipped with spanking benches, bondage gear and intro classes for the curious. Playrooms are nude-or-towel only; phones and smartwatches are banned inside. Lockers ($8–$10/night, towels included) sit at the entrance beside a communal shower area. Daytime life revolves around the clothing-optional pool, where DJs spin from late morning onward. A complimentary dinner buffet runs nightly (7:30–10:30 pm), followed by a late-night omelet bar (11:30 pm–3 am) and a breakfast buffet each morning. The crowd spans twenties to sixties, skewing around 40 on weekends, with a mix of couples, single women and single men. Nightly entry fees apply on top of membership — even for hotel guests — and the property is secured by 24-hour on-site security.

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Eyz Wide Shut

Tampa, FL

On-Premise Club

Spread across more than 12,000 square feet in two adjoining buildings on East Adamo Drive, Eyz Wide Shut is Tampa's only dedicated on-premise lifestyle nightclub. Eyz Wide Shut II houses the nightclub proper — a full liquor bar (cash only), a nightly complimentary buffet, a dance floor with a brass pole, a game room with pool and air hockey, a covered outdoor smoking patio, and an erotic-art museum stocked with imported pieces. Next door, Eyz Wide Shut I holds ten themed private suites — Dungeon, Cleopatra, Seaside, Harem, Wild West among them — plus three group rooms (including a large dungeon, a Hedonism room, and Lovers Lane) and a one-way-glass voyeur room. The club opens Thursday through Sunday; Fridays and Saturdays run 7 pm to 3 am with playrooms unlocking at 11 pm and staying open until 5 am. Thursdays and Sundays keep shorter hours. Membership is required for playroom access and can be purchased at the door alongside a valid, scannable government-issued photo ID — no digital copies accepted. A dress code is enforced on Fridays and Saturdays: sexy clubwear or business casual, no hats, no athletic wear, no open-toe shoes for men. Security is thorough: every guest passes through a metal detector, pockets are emptied, and bags are searched. Phones are permitted in the nightclub but must be surrendered before entering the playroom building — no cameras, smart watches, or recording devices of any kind are allowed on the play side, with violations resulting in a lifetime ban. Group rooms are reserved for couples and single females; single males may enter only by invitation to a private suite, with the exception of Pride nights and the group dungeon.

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colette Austin

Austin, TX

Set in a sprawling, purpose-built space in North Austin's Wells Branch area, colette Austin bills itself as the newest of the colette family's "party palaces" — a private, membership-only, on-premise social club for couples, single men, and single women exploring the swinging, polyamorous, or open-relationship lifestyle. The venue spans over 8,000 square feet, with a main-level lounge and dance floor lit by high-tech sound and lighting, a second-floor lounge with its own "sexy vibe," lockers, valet parking, and a strictly non-smoking policy throughout. The club runs Wednesday through Saturday nights, with single men welcome every open night except Saturday, which is reserved for couples and single women only. Membership is required and issued on the spot at the door, a dress code modeled on "upscale restaurant or nightclub" attire is enforced, and photos are restricted to designated photo-op areas only. Alcohol isn't sold on-site — colette Austin is BYOB, with free mixers, ice, and set-ups provided, and outside coolers checked at the bar. The club also hosts birthday and special-occasion parties.

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Club Bacchus

Dundee, Scotland

On-Premise Club

Club Bacchus occupies a discreet licensed venue at 11–15 Princes Street in the centre of Dundee — Tayside's only dedicated lifestyle club, self-billed as "Scotland's premier private members' club" and "Tayside's most stylish and discreet adult lifestyle venue." The address has a long history as an alternative-lifestyle space; Bacchus is the direct successor to Club Kudos, which had been running the building as a gay/bi/BDSM/swinger venue since around 2019 (Kudos signed up 160+ members in its first weeks per the Dundee Courier, and held a 4.3/5 Google rating across 20 reviews before the rebrand). Bacchus took the lease on and broadened the programme — the same west-of-city-centre warren of rooms, the same sauna and steam room downstairs, the same focus on serving the swinging, BDSM, kink, gay and LGBTQ+ communities under one roof, but now run as a single brand by an owner the FabSwingers reviewers consistently refer to by first name: Heather. The venue sprawls across two floors. Downstairs holds a large entertainment lounge and a smaller quiet lounge, a sauna and steam room, full shower facilities, glory holes, a working kitchen serving hot and cold drinks and snacks, and a separate indoor smoking area. Upstairs is a warren of five dedicated kink rooms and three themed playrooms, including a Fem Dom dungeon and a 1-on-1 Mistress session room available by separate booking during dungeon events. The programme runs on a tight monthly rhythm: Friday nights typically 8pm–late, Saturday afternoons (3–8pm) for Hosted Kink Events with novices welcome, and Saturday nights 8pm–late for Swingers Nights, "Open to All" parties, PJ Game Parties, TV/CD & Admirers evenings, and the recurring Men Only Sauna and "No Lights, No Towels (Men Only)" formats. The sauna itself runs Tuesday through Sunday. Entry is event-priced rather than membership-based — a £2.50 non-members daily fee is bundled into every Swingers Night ticket, which sits at £25 for couples, £32.50 for single men, £12.50 for single women, and £20 for women arriving dressed in themed attire. Towels, lockers and condoms are included. The club is BYOB throughout; mixers, soft drinks and snacks are complimentary, and guests are asked not to drink before using the sauna. Kink nights run strictly alcohol-free, and dungeon nights sometimes carry their own separate ticketing for 1-on-1 Mistress sessions. Dress code splits cleanly by floor — downstairs is smart casual or elegant clubwear, upstairs is lingerie, towel or less. The PJ Game Party runs a colour-coded pyjama system to signal preferences (blue for seeking male, pink for seeking female, yellow male-male, red female-female, mix & match for both). The crowd is mixed in every sense — couples, singles, kinksters, queer guests, first-timers — and Heather is widely credited in reviews for personally walking newcomers around the venue before the night gets going.

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Silk Lifestyle

Miami, FL

Social Club

Silk Lifestyle is an invite-only lifestyle events group based in Miami that throws themed play parties in rented private mansions rather than a fixed clubhouse. Past nights include a cyberpunk party at a Hollywood, Florida mansion headlined by DJ Markus Schulz, a Celtic-occult "Emerald Covenant," and an annual New Year's Eve mansion takeover in Fort Lauderdale. Entry runs through an online application, not walk-up admission: event pages state attendance is "by application approval" with "no door sales, no outsiders," and every applicant is vetted. Tickets are priced separately by category -- couples, throuples, single women, and a capped number of single men. Nights lean all-inclusive: open bar, chef-prepared bites, DJ sets, photo booths, massage therapists, and themed play rooms, with some adding fire dancers or a heated pool. Phones stay in designated areas, and photography is barred inside play spaces.

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Adore Social Club

Calgary, Alberta

On-Premise Lifestyle Club

Tucked away in Calgary's southeast industrial quarter, Adore Social Club is the city's premier on-premise lifestyle venue — a polished, members-only retreat where nightclub energy meets sensual freedom. Built on the bones of the former Moonlight Magic space (which it thoroughly renovated under new ownership), Adore has quickly become the most talked-about destination in the Alberta lifestyle community. Spread across 3,100 square feet on two levels, the club delivers a dual experience: downstairs, a full-scale nightclub complete with a starlit dance floor, professional DJ booth, stripper pole, and comfortable booth seating sets the social tone; upstairs, a lounge with pool table and darts transitions into a tastefully designed play area with four king beds, a sex swing, hand and ankle cuffs, semi-private alcoves, and a dedicated BDSM beginner area with a St. Andrew's Cross and spanking bench. Complimentary appetizers — cheese boards, charcuterie, fondue, and themed snacks — grace every event. The club operates BYOB with labeled lockers for storage, and supplies mixers, ice, water, and glassware at no charge. All first-time attendees receive a guided tour from hosts covering the layout, house rules, and etiquette — making it a genuinely welcoming environment for newcomers. The venue's health inspection rating of 98/100 reflects the ownership's commitment to cleanliness and care. Membership is by application only, with screening based on effort and presentation rather than demographics. Single males are welcome but must be vouched for by a member couple and attend their first event with that couple. Regular events run Friday and Saturday, with occasional Wednesday and Sunday specials. Dress code is "Dress to Impress", with themed nights rotating throughout the year.

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Club Princeton

Columbus, OH

On-Premise Club

Club Princeton occupies a sprawling 21,000-square-foot converted warehouse in the Franklinton area of Columbus, Ohio — an industrial exterior that gives little away before you step inside. Open since the early 2000s, it has grown into what regular visitors call the most upscale lifestyle club in the Midwest. The ground floor centres on a 2,500-square-foot dance area with live DJs, a stage, and dance cages; there is also VIP table seating, a full bar setup serving free mixers, soft drinks, and snacks nightly. BYOB is the policy — no alcohol is sold on site — and lockers are available for storing your own bottles. Upstairs, the play floors open into a warren of themed spaces: a VIP lounge with a fireplace, the Stairway to Heaven lounge, a doctor's examination room, a jail-cell playroom, a room with a Sybian massage table, two open group rooms, and twelve private rooms — each made up with clean white sheets and white towels, with staff cycling through to change linens between uses. Thursday nights carry a bi and fetish theme starting at 10 PM; Friday and Saturday nights are open to the broader lifestyle crowd. Single men are restricted to public areas and require female accompaniment to access play spaces. Membership is mandatory before entry — required by Ohio licensing law — though short-term single-event passes are available at the door alongside paid-up couples memberships. Door fees are separate from membership. The club is consistently praised for its professional, welcoming staff, thorough first-timer tours, and strict no-photography policy throughout the venue. Free fenced parking and on-site security round out the offering.

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Lifestyle Playtime

DeKalb, IL

Event Group / Hotel Takeover Organizer (no fixed venue)

Lifestyle Playtime is a Chicago-area lifestyle group based in DeKalb, IL that runs low-pressure monthly meet-and-greets alongside larger hotel takeover parties, rather than operating out of a single fixed venue. The format keeps overhead low and lets the group rotate between DeKalb and the wider Chicago suburbs depending on the event. Entry is vetted: single men must apply through the group's "Distinguished Gentlemen" screening process before attending, and all guests sign a liability waiver and show photo ID at check-in. Attendees wear an event wristband, and couples are expected to arrive and leave together, with house rules enforced by volunteer hosts rather than paid staff.

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Club 3X

Cocoa, FL

On-Premise Club

Club3X bills itself as Brevard County's only lifestyle-friendly nightlife venue, tucked into a storefront unit on King Street in Cocoa where the door sits off Florida Avenue near Willard Street. It's a members-only, clothing-optional, on-premise club with a nightclub-meets-house-party feel. The main level centers on a spinning dance pole and bar seating, a free pool table, and a fetish-themed fun area, plus semi-private nooks, two locking private rooms downstairs and two more upstairs, and a loft with beds, seating and a shower room overlooking the main floor — about 2,245 square feet of party space in total. A recently updated dungeon and kink area adds a suspension point, spanking benches, a wax table, a Saint Andrew's Cross and an aftercare corner, with a rope/dungeon master on site some Saturdays. The crowd skews casual and averages older than the big-city Florida clubs, drawn mostly from the Space Coast, and regulars are known for pulling newcomers into conversation.

Club Chameleon

Flint, MI

House Party

Club Chameleon is a swingers house-party venue operating in the Flint, Michigan area, run by a self-described "empty nester" couple with 25 years in the lifestyle. The venue spans three and a half floors, with two bars, a dance floor, three private playrooms, a curtained "Peekaboo" room, a dedicated billiards room, and a St. Andrew's cross room stocked with paddles and floggers for sensual play. Outside, an enclosed, heated patio holds an eight-person hot tub open year-round, a second theme bar, a stripper pole, and a bonfire pit with seating. The club leans heavily into theme parties, held roughly once a month, complete with costume contests, prizes, and raffles, alongside icebreaker activities like cornhole, beer pong, foosball, and adult Jenga. Food is served buffet-style, usually tied to the party theme, while all parties are BYOB and BYOC (bring your own cup), and the venue is smoking- and 420-friendly. The organizers position Club Chameleon as newbie-friendly, promoting a "safe, non-pushy, no expectations" atmosphere, with a strict Single Male Expectations Policy available on request; overnight accommodations can reportedly be arranged for guests traveling long distances or planning to drink.

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Illuminaughty Denver

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Denver launched in early 2025, selling out its first play party in the Mile High City, and now runs as a curated, application-only private members club for ethically non-monogamous couples and singles in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Part of a national network spanning dozens of U.S. cities, it hosts a mix of Tease Cocktail Mixers at restaurants and bars alongside private play parties held at rented residences - anything from single-family houses to executive high-rises and country estates, each staffed with private security and dressed with intentional lighting, music, and decor. Membership is free but vetted: applicants are screened for fitness, self-awareness, and respectfulness, and once approved gain access to buy tickets and receive invites via the mobile app. Most private parties draw 40 to 80 members and run 8pm to 2am (or 2pm to midnight for All Day Soirees), with a strict arrival window, a consent-and-safety briefing before play begins, and a formal or themed dress code - cocktail attire or lingerie for women, suits for men, though some nights go casual (Neon, Pajama). No models, performers, or influencers are booked; every attendee is a vetted member.

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Dark Odyssey

Berkeley, CA

Event Organizer

Dark Odyssey is a roving event organization founded in 2003 by Greg, a former Black Rose board chairman, to fuse sexuality, spirituality, education, and play under one roof. Rather than operating a fixed venue, it commandeers hotels and private rural retreats for four distinct annual events: Winter Fire, a luxury hotel takeover in Baltimore running a full President's Day weekend; Fusion, a six-day summer camp in Northern Maryland on a 200-acre private facility with 40 cabins and 400 beds; Summer Camp, a Labor Day week-long gathering at the same Northern Maryland retreat; and Surrender, a pre-Halloween hotel convention in the San Jose Bay Area. Sold-out attendance at Winter Fire has reached 1,400 people. Each event follows the same architecture: days packed with 80-plus workshops spanning BDSM technique, polyamory, Tantra, sacred sexuality, and spiritual practice, taught by national educators; nights given over to fully equipped dungeons, the Sex-O-Rama open playspace (supplied with beds, lube, condoms, and gloves around the clock), and themed parties running until 2–3am. The rural camp events add outdoor suspension rigs, a tennis-court playspace with weather-resistant equipment, a Pavilion for mixers and open play, and a Temple space for ritual and sacred play. Fire spin jams, drumming circles, a Kinky State Fair, and a Saturday night show round out the program. The community self-describes as a melting pot of kinksters, queers, swingers, spiritualists, Pagans, polyamorists, and cross-dressers — pansexual, omnisexual, and explicitly welcoming to all gender identities. Attendee-created ION events let the community add its own workshops and parties to each schedule. A dedicated Incident Response Team (IRT) staffs a help desk at every event to handle consent matters in private.

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Shrine Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Shrine is a monthly BDSM, fetish, and alternative-lifestyle party held on a Sunday evening at colette Austin, a 7,000–9,000 sq ft swingers club at 13800 Dragline Dr. Run by a coalition of Austin-area kink organizations, Shrine bills itself as a sex-positive space that blends a dungeon and nightclub atmosphere, welcoming swingers, kinksters, voyeurs, LGBTQIA+ attendees, and polyamorous folks alike. The venue supplies multiple beds, St. Andrew's crosses, spanking benches, hard points, wrestling mats, stripper poles, a non-alcoholic beverage bar, small lockers, and a smoking-permitted outdoor social area, plus a massage table set aside for fire and medical play. Doors run 6:30pm to 1am (2am on Memorial Day and Labor Day weekends), with check-in closing an hour before close. Entry requires a valid state or federal ID (18+), a free temporary colette-club membership, and a signed waiver; cover is $25 at the door or discounted online. There's no fixed dress code — fetish wear and leather are encouraged, and nudity is fine once inside — but attendees must be street-legal en route, and new attendees take a walkthrough with a Front of House Tour Guide before diving in. House rules lean heavily toward consent and safety: the event safe word is RED, all scenes require enthusiastic consent, and Dungeon Monitors in colored vests patrol to enforce boundaries. The party is explicitly dry — no alcohol or drugs are permitted anywhere on the premises — and phones, cameras, and recording devices are banned inside the club except in designated photography areas.

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Den of Iniquity

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Los Angeles, CA

CONFLICT — Option A (conf 82, agent 1): Nestled in Downtown LA Arts District, Den of Iniquity is a West Coast BDSM institution founded 1993. Led by Cybill Troy. 1,850 sq ft loft with themed rooms, femdom education, film shoots, and rentals. Option B (conf 72, agent 8): Historical origin narrative: founded 1994 in NYC by Tara Indiana, LA outpost now under Cybill Troy. Both agents note venue is primarily a BDSM dungeon and studio, not a traditional swinger club.

Splash Takeovers

Fort Lauderdale, FL

Hotel Takeover

Splash Takeovers is a traveling, couples-only lifestyle convention brand based in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, operating as Splash Takeovers Florida LLC. Rather than running a fixed clubhouse, it produces weekend-long hotel takeovers in three cities, each under its own banner: CouplesXcape in Fort Lauderdale — the brand's original September flagship — EROTICON in Atlanta, and Xcapades in the Houston area. The brand is owned by Richard and Danielle, a couple with more than twenty years of lifestyle-event experience who ran an on-premise weekend club and bed-and-breakfast for over a decade before acquiring Splash Takeovers, and event listings report attendance consistently topping 1,000 guests. Each event is a complete buyout of a four-star convention hotel: every room is purchased, only registered guests are allowed on property, and the hotel's name is disclosed only after a paid reservation. Days center on clothing-optional pool parties with DJs, games, and giveaways — the pool and convention areas are the only clothing-optional zones — while nights shift to themed dance parties in the Studio 69 Ballroom, fantasy-themed playrooms furnished through a partnership with Liberator, a dedicated dungeon for kink and BDSM play, and late-night hospitality suites. Seminars, meet-and-greets, and an adult vendor marketplace run throughout the weekend, and the host hotels are full-service properties with on-site restaurants and licensed bars; outside drinks are not permitted in public areas. Events run Thursday through Sunday, with arrival from 1:30 pm Thursday and checkout at 11 am Sunday. Packages are priced per couple and bundle the room with admission to everything; at the September 2025 Fort Lauderdale event, three-night packages ranged from $1,050 for a standard queen room to $2,200 for a one-bedroom king suite, with extra nights at $195 and payment plans available. Day passes, also priced per couple, go on sale 30 days before each event, and nothing is sold at the door. The optional Deep Divers premium membership ($149.99 for one year) adds online community access but not event admission. Upcoming dates include EROTICON in Atlanta August 6–9, 2026, CouplesXcape in Florida September 10–13, 2026, and Xcapades in Texas June 3–6, 2027.

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Infliction Hall

Euless, TX

On-Premise Club

Infliction Hall is a 9,000-square-foot BDSM dungeon and kink club in Euless, Texas, occupying Suite 100 at 11050 S Pipeline Rd — the same building as swinger nightclub Club Eden DFW, which sits next door in Suite 200. Run on the Modern Lifestyle members platform, it bills itself as a club for erotic, open-minded BDSM people where on-premise play is allowed, and local press notes it welcomes couples and singles of all orientations and genders. The venue pairs a large dungeon space and top-tier scene equipment with a sound and light system, couch lounge, tables and pub seating, a smoking patio, lockers, and a large parking lot. It operates BYOB, with $10 drink bands covering set-ups, ice, and unlimited fountain drinks, and $5 locker rental at the door; reservable booths and high tables run $20–25 a night and often sell out. Beyond parties, the hall hosts educational classes and demos and books collar ceremonies, weddings, and poly ceremonies. Regular hours are Wednesday 8 pm–midnight, Thursday 8 pm–1 am, Friday 9 pm–2 am, and Saturday 9 pm–3 am. The calendar fills nearly every open night with themed programming — rope group meetups, impact and electro-play education, littles and pet-play parties, newbie orientation nights, Dom/sub and open-play events. Door pricing varies by event: recent midweek nights ran $20–25, while Saturdays reached $40 for non-members with $15 early-bird entry before 10 pm. VIP membership ($125 for one year) discounts entry, and Platinum ($568 annually) includes free admission to all events. Dress code is nice casual, with fetish wear recommended.

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Group in Keller TX

Keller, TX

Rotating hotel venues (hotel floor takeover parties), no fixed clubhouse

Group in Keller TX is a Dallas-Fort Worth area lifestyle (swinger) social group that bills itself as the longest continuously running lifestyle group in north Texas. Rather than operating a fixed clubhouse, the group runs recurring hotel floor takeover parties at all-suites hotel properties in Dallas and Plano, moving between venues rather than a permanent home base. Events center on DJ music and dancing, held on Saturday nights from 9 PM to 2 AM, with a cash bar, dance floor, and private/suite rooms available depending on the specific hotel venue booked for that takeover. Themed nights, including LGBTQ+-inclusive events, are part of the regular rotation. Attendance requires membership: prospective members apply online under one of several categories (couple, single female, FF couple, or single male) before gaining access to event details and booking. Admission policy toward single men has been described inconsistently across sources and may vary by specific themed event rather than following one fixed rule.

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Hush Lounge AZ

Phoenix, AZ

On-Premise Club

Hush Lounge AZ is a private, members-only lifestyle club in Phoenix, Arizona, operating under a private-club charter that keeps it closed to the general public; membership requires an approved online application prior to purchasing event tickets. The club is built around couples and single women, with a limited number of single men admitted based on the couples-to-single-men ratio in attendance, and reservations are encouraged. The recently remodeled venue includes more than seven specialty rooms — among them a VIP Cabana Lounge, an 'Under the Stars' room, a Chandelier VIP Lounge, and an Orb Room — alongside open main-floor lounge and dance-floor areas. Because Arizona private-club regulations prohibit on-site alcohol sales, Hush operates BYOB for members and runs a cash-only bar for non-alcoholic drinks; condoms and fresh towels are provided. The club operates Thursday through Saturday nights: Thursday 8pm-1am, Friday 8pm-2am, and Saturday 8pm-3am (closing times may shift for special events). Recurring themed nights include a Wednesday Red Light Special, a Thursday lifestyle spotlight, Friday TFIF, and a Saturday house DJ with dance floor. Ticket transfers require 24-hour notice and become void once an event has passed.

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Center for Sex Positive Culture (CSPC)

Seattle, WA

Community Center

The Center for Sex Positive Culture (CSPC) is a volunteer-run, 501(c)(7) nonprofit membership organization based in Seattle, Washington, founded in 1999. It describes its mission as creating spaces to celebrate, develop, and explore sexuality and sensuality among a diverse community, with programming spanning kink and BDSM, swinging, polyamory, and queer-centered events. CSPC's original venue on 15th Ave in Interbay closed in 2016, and after a change in leadership in 2017, the organization resumed in-person events in January 2018. Events are now held on a per-event rental basis at Gallery Erato, 309 1st Ave S in Seattle's Pioneer Square, the permanent home of CSPC's sister organization, the Pan Eros Foundation. The main floor holds play stations, a coat closet, and gender-neutral restrooms, and is reachable via a portable wheelchair ramp; the basement level is stairs-only and excluded from essential group activities. Members bring their own padlocks for basement lockers, and the organization provides safer-sex supplies, clean linens, and a water-filling station. Alcohol and drugs are prohibited entirely, including outside beverages brought in. Access requires membership, priced on a sliding scale from $5 to $20 per month (or $100 to $220 annually) across Reduced, Standard, and Supporter tiers, and prospective members must complete a New Member Orientation before buying a ticket. Recurring in-person parties include Fresh Meet, LaQueer, Myself!, Femmes on Top, All In!, Sense & Sensuality, and The Grind, each priced at $30 with a sliding scale available. Tickets are sold online only, at least six hours before an event with no door sales, and valid photo ID is required of every attendee; masking has been recommended but not required since February 2024.

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Pandora's Resort

Crossville, TN

Lifestyle Resort

Pandora's Resort is a clothing-optional lifestyle resort in Crossville, Tennessee, featuring renovated cabins, chalets, RV sites, a heated pool, hot tub, and on-premise play spaces. The resort hosts themed weekend parties with a nightclub, cafe, and tiki bar, with all amenities open 24/7.

VooDoo Leatherworks

Colorado Springs, CO

Social Club

VooDoo Leatherworks is a members-only private social club and community center in Colorado Springs dedicated to BDSM, kink, and fetish education. Describing itself as the first and longest-running BDSM club in the city, the volunteer-led organization operates on the lower level of a building at 2422 Busch Avenue, with a private entrance and parking lot accessible from Race Street. The club also functions as an art gallery and studio for fetish and boudoir artists, and hosts larger regional gatherings such as the Southwest Master/slave Contest & Leather Run Weekend and the High Elevation Colorado Kink (HECK) conference. The centerpiece is a fully stocked dungeon covering more than 3,000 square feet, with 15 play stations and suspension hard-points, alongside a separate social lounge for conversation away from active scenes. As a private membership club, Voodoo does not hold a liquor license and does not sell alcohol; most events are alcohol-free, though members 21 and over may bring their own drinks to select events such as the monthly Fusion Party, with volunteer bartenders providing controlled pour service purely for safety monitoring. The space is also available for private rentals, nonprofit fundraisers, and for-profit gatherings Tuesday through Friday, and is closed Sundays and Mondays for cleaning, maintenance, and volunteer training. Access requires membership, which begins with a New Member Orientation held several times a month; first-year membership costs $25, with $15 annual renewals. Regular programming includes a monthly Members Leather Dungeon Party (third Saturdays, with a discount for wearing leather), a Members Fusion Party (fourth Fridays), a Tastings party introducing newcomers to different BDSM experiences (first Saturdays), twice-monthly PEAK educational classes, and a Poly/ENM discussion group. Door entry runs $25 for members plus $10 per sponsored guest. House rules require all activity to be consensual, guests to remain with their sponsoring member, and anyone setting up a scene to check in with the on-duty Dungeon Monitor first; all attendees must be 18 or older.

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Fallout RVA

Richmond, VA

alternative nightclub / fetish & kink club

Fallout has anchored Richmond's Shockoe Bottom since November 2007, earning its place as the city's longest-running goth, industrial, and fetish nightclub. Owner Jackie Bishop describes it as 'queer, a little bit kinky — basically a space for everybody that's just trying to find a place to belong.' The result is part nightclub, part community centre, part sanctuary at 117 N. 18th Street. The calendar runs seven nights a week: vinyl goth/EBM nights (Metal Beat), leather-and-latex fetish dance parties, drag showcases, rope-bondage socials, burlesque, goth karaoke, queer dance-therapy classes, and polyamory munches all coexist under one roof. Fridays and Saturdays extend to 2am. Some nights are members-only; others require a one-night pass via DM or Fetlife. A formal membership programme underlies the club's identity. Applications are in-person only — 21+, valid ID, dress code, and a member sponsor required; committee reviews take roughly two weeks. Members get free or discounted entry and may bring two guests. Non-members attend open events (18+) at cover charges typically $5–$15. Photography is banned outright; Virginia ABC law prohibits full nudity.

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The Crucible

Washington, DC

BDSM Club

Tucked into a residential stretch of Northeast DC near the Rhode Island Avenue Metro, The Crucible has operated as Washington's only private kink and alternate-lifestyles club since founder Frazier Botsford — known to regulars as Uncle Frazier — began building it in 1997. Organised as a 501(c)(7) non-profit private social club, the venue at 412 V Street NE holds a full dungeon fitted with bondage crosses, spanking benches, ropes, whips and handcuffs along the walls, plus a dedicated medical play area for piercing, needle and blood play, and a smaller private room for more intimate scenes. Dungeon Monitors trained by the Black Rose are on the floor at all events, and the crowd — spanning kinksters, lifestylers and curious newcomers of all orientations and genders — consistently draws praise for its warm, family-like atmosphere. The event calendar runs most Friday and Saturday nights, with 18-and-over play nights on Fridays (no alcohol) and 21-and-over nights with a full bar on Saturdays. Recurring themed nights include Black & Kinky (second Friday, POC-focused), QINK (third Friday), Sinfully Naughty (first Saturday), and Risqué EDM dance party (second Saturday). Black Rose holds weekly education at the venue every Tuesday and its monthly Gateway meeting on the first Thursday. The first Friday of every month is Dungeon 101 — doors open at 7:30pm and the structured presentation begins at 8pm, followed by an open exploratorium. No membership required for this event. Members may bring up to three guests. Annual membership is $40/person, purchased online; all applicants are screened against the DOJ sex-offender registry.

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Naughty Revival

Minneapolis, MN

Lifestyle Resort

Naughty Revival is a 21-and-over lifestyle and kink event based in the Minneapolis–St. Paul metro area that operates as a periodic hotel takeover rather than a fixed venue: organizers reserve an entire hotel for a private, ticketed weekend roughly once a year. The event traces back to Kinque Social Society, founded in June 2018, which reorganized under the Naughty Revival name for its first event at the Sheraton Bloomington in November 2021, followed by two-night hotel takeovers at the Sheraton Minneapolis West in Minnetonka in subsequent years. Its next takeover is scheduled for December 4–6, 2026, at a hotel disclosed only by email to ticket and room holders. Each takeover converts the reserved hotel into a self-contained event space, with a ballroom dungeon and a pool dungeon outfitted with more than 60 pieces of equipment, four performance stages, classroom space for educational programming, a vendor marketplace, dining areas, and a dedicated swingers' suite, alongside the hotel's own pool, hot tub, sauna and racquetball courts. Outside the on-site bar, restaurants and VIP dining area, clothing is optional throughout the event space, with kink and fetish wear encouraged but street clothes also welcome. Attendance runs upward of 900 guests per event, and both couples and singles of any gender are explicitly welcomed. Doors open at 3:00 PM Friday (1:00 PM for VIP ticket holders), with the event and hotel checkout running through 1:00 PM Sunday. Entry requires a pre-purchased ticket and photo ID for mandatory 21+ verification; general admission runs $165 and VIP $525 per person, with an Ultra VIP two-person suite package at $3,450, and hotel rooms booked and priced separately from admission. House rules ban phones, cameras and recording devices anywhere outside private rooms or a designated phone room, enforce a consent-based stoplight safe-word system, and prohibit illegal drugs and firearms; alcohol is sold at the hotel and venue bars rather than brought in, and smoking is restricted to an area at least 25 feet from any entrance.

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The Lifestyle Lounge

Eccles, Greater Manchester

BDSM Club

The Lifestyle Lounge in Eccles, Greater Manchester is one of the UK's longest-running lifestyle clubs — over 40 years of history, formerly Adam and Eve's, fully rebranded in 2025 to welcome couples, LGBTQ+, kink, and fetish guests across four themed floors. Facilities include a hot tub, jacuzzi, sauna, swing room, private rooms, pool table, and lockers. BYOB (up to 4 cans or a half-bottle). Dress code: bright, kinky, as wild as you dare. Featured on Channel 5's "Adults: 24 Hour Sex, Up All Night." Membership required; capacity 80.

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The Velvet Rope

Portland, OR

The Velvet Rope (TVR) is Portland's longest-running on-premises social and lifestyle club, tucked away in a quiet, unassuming building on SE Cesar E. Chavez Boulevard. Spanning roughly 10,000 square feet across two floors, the 21-and-over venue bills itself as a sex-positive, judgment-free space where individuals, couples and polycules of all identities and experience levels can connect, play or simply soak up the vibe. New guests are walked through the club on a guided tour and signed in at the front desk; the crowd is a mix of long-time regulars and lifestyle newcomers, and the staff lean heavily on a consent-first culture backed by clear house rules. The club runs Friday and Saturday nights from 8 p.m. to 3 a.m. and Sundays from 8 p.m. to 2 a.m., with a rotating calendar of themed parties — Newbie Night, Savage Saturdays, Sex in the Sundae, plus kink nights, rope demos, speed dating and glow parties. Entry is members-first: a couples membership runs $70 for six months or $110 for a year, single ladies $40/$60, and single men $95/$135, with reduced door fees, special member-only events and a fast-track member line as perks. Non-members can buy a one-night pass at the door (couples $50–$80, single ladies $10–$20, single men $55–$90 depending on the night), and a government-issued ID is required at every visit. Two full bars operate inside, so guests must be 21+; per OLCC rules, no marijuana in any form is allowed on the property. Inside, the space is built for both play and comfort: a large dance floor with a live DJ, pole stations and a dance cage; social lounges with pool tables and stage performances; multiple open and private play areas including a couples-only room and a caged sex swing; hardpoints for rope suspension and other kink exploration; indoor and outdoor hot tubs with adjacent showers stocked with free towels, body wash and shampoo; and lockers on both levels (BYO lock or buy one at the desk). Dress code is enforced — clubwear or business-casual on regular nights, theme-appropriate attire on kink, glow and formal events — with no sweats, flip-flops or gym wear. Knives, needles, tasers, guns (real or replica), candles and unapproved electro gear are barred from the playrooms, and the venue maintains hard limits on scat, watersports, fire, blood, breath and wax play. Three free parking lots sit nearby, credit and debit cards are accepted at the desk, and an ATM is right next door.

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Big Mamas Haus

Crimmitschau, Saxony

BDSM & Fetish Event Venue

BMH Event-Club — formerly known as Big Mama's Haus — is a sprawling BDSM, fetish, and swinger event location in the heart of Germany, housed in a converted warehouse in Crimmitschau's industrial quarter. Founded in 2006 by Irmgard Pruka (the original "Big Mama"), the venue combines two worlds under one roof: a ground floor with spacious swinger lounges, sauna, and a cinema room, and an upper floor featuring 11 exclusive SM playrooms with serious equipment — rotating cross, slave elevator, pillory, ball cage, prison cell, and two medieval torture chambers — plus a stylish bar and event space. Rather than opening every weekend like a traditional club, BMH operates as a curated event venue — hosting 2–4 themed productions per month from independent organizers and its own team. Events range from latex passion nights and BDSM play parties to Gorean fantasy workshops and grand slave auctions. Entry typically runs 50–85 EUR per person and almost always includes a full buffet and drinks. An adjacent warehouse and 6,000 sqm outdoor grounds handle the mega-events, with overnight rooms available from 30 EUR. Cash only. Rated 4.8/5 on JoyClub from over 250 reviews with nearly 270,000 total visitors, BMH draws guests from across Germany and Europe. Reviewers consistently praise the cleanliness, friendly staff, excellent food, and the care that's gone into making every room unique. The house motto says it all: "We are everything, just not boring."

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Mindbender Parties

Boston, MA

Event Organizer

Mindbender Parties is New England's most traveled adult lifestyle event series, the brainchild of Mizzy Bender — a self-described 41-year-old female entrepreneur who launched the operation with her partner Spencer and has since grown it into one of the region's most recognizable swinger brands. Events rotate across partner venues: most frequently Platforms Dance Club at 165 Poe St, Providence, RI, a proper nightclub with a full bar, dance floor, and purpose-built dungeon. The Electricity Social Club (ESC) in Providence's Olneyville neighborhood hosts BYOB multi-room events with seven themed playrooms; summer months bring a private Long Island property with an eight-person hot tub, outdoor shower, and fire pit — location released to guests after payment. The calendar runs year-round under recurring titles — Candyland, Back to School, Boo (eighth annual run), Naughty in Neon, Shamrocks & Shenanigans, Nuttin for XXXmas, and more — on a roughly monthly rhythm, with occasional multi-day hotel-takeover weekends. Pricing is tiered: couples typically pay $70–$80, single ladies $20–$30, and single males $110–$120. Tickets are advance-purchase only via the website. Every event is professionally produced under the Mindbender Productions banner — DJ, lighting, full staging — with onsite security whose priority is guest safety and comfort. Mizzy's Boutique, a traveling pop-up adult retail shop, vends at every event alongside sponsors One Condoms, Spunk Lube, Naughty Indulgence, and SDC. Play spaces include open group areas, private rooms, and dungeon setups. The Instagram presence (76K followers) and the companion podcast Mornings with Mizzy reflect a community-building mission well beyond the door — educational content, judgment-free conversation, and a genuine inclusive ethos baked into the Mindbender brand.

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R-Place

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Omaha, NE

On-Premise Club

Sitting on Q Street in the heart of South Omaha, R-Place built its reputation as Nebraska's only dedicated on-premise lifestyle club - a privately owned, 4,000-square-foot, three-level building converted into what owners called an elegant upscale classy venue. The main floor centres on a full dance floor with professional DJ booth, state-of-the-art lighting and a sound system, ringed by lounge-style seating and five TVs (including a 60-inch screen). Three leather-furnished living-room social areas give couples and groups a place to mix before venturing further, and the club runs as a strict BYOB bottle club with mixers and soft drinks provided at no charge. The play spaces span two additional levels. Four private bedrooms and four bathrooms (three with showers) handle couples seeking privacy, while the basement Dungeon - billed as The Playroom - offers group beds, two electric-hoist sex swings, restraints, a glory hole wall, and a professional massage table, plus a Sybian machine. Outside, a large patio enclosed by a six-foot privacy fence leads to a covered 20-by-19-foot sky room with a twelve-foot propane fire pit, seating around thirty people through the colder Nebraska months. The door policy is guest-list only: prospective attendees email in advance to be added, and walk-ins are not accepted. Hours run Friday and Saturday, 8 pm to 2 am. Saturday nights are theme-party nights. Admission is $40 per couple per night, $25 for a single woman, and $45 for a single man. Towels, lockers, and condom supplies are on hand; smoking is allowed in a designated indoor area. Single males and single females are both welcome alongside couples.

Baltimore Playhouse

Baltimore, MD

BDSM Club

Occupying a sprawling 12,000-square-foot industrial space off Washington Boulevard in South Baltimore, Baltimore Playhouse has been Charm City's premier kink destination since 1997. The current location — opened in October 2014 after a fire ended the community's previous home — is self-described as the largest known BDSM play space in the United States, a claim that lands credibly the moment you step past the coat check and through the black curtain into the main floor. A capped attendance of 250 per event keeps the energy intimate despite the scale, and Dungeon Monitors patrol throughout, making it as safe as it is sprawling. Organized as a 501(c)(7) non-profit social club, the Playhouse runs on a contributorship model: a $30 annual fee unlocks access to a calendar that fills roughly a year in advance with play parties, educational sessions, and specialty nights hosted by outside groups. For those new to public dungeons, the monthly Kink: First Contact open house — held on the first Friday of most months — requires no contributorship, just an RSVP, and walks newcomers through SSC and RACK basics before opening stations for hands-on exploration until around 11pm. The Playhouse is an NCSF Coalition Partner, and its consent-first culture shows: a formal Consent Incident Report form lives on the website, and safe words (Yellow/Red) are posted and enforced. The space itself accommodates everything from medical and needle play (confined to designated medical areas) to impact, bondage, and group scenes, with cleaning stations and Chux pads distributed throughout. There is no bar — the Playhouse is completely alcohol-free and drug-free, with permanent bans for violations — and there is no walk-in option; names must be on the RSVP list. Regular event entry runs $20-$25, with snacks and soft drinks available from an on-site snack bar.

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Rainbow Group Hawaii

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Honolulu, HI

Rainbow Group Hawaii is a swingers group based in Honolulu, Hawaii, on the island of Oahu, described in third-party directory listings as the largest, most active swingers group in the state. The group does not operate from a fixed venue or maintain a public website; it runs through rotating private locations, and prospective members contact organizers directly by phone or email rather than through an open web presence. Events are structured in two parts: an afternoon session limited to women only, followed by an evening mixed session open to women and couples. This format is designed to ease newcomers into the group before the mixed portion begins. Interested parties should contact the group directly by phone or email for venue location, screening, and entry requirements, as these are communicated privately to members rather than published.

Club Labyrinth NYC

New York, NY

On-Premise Club

Club Labyrinth occupies a private midtown Manhattan building near the corner of East 31st Street and Park Avenue South — close to Grand Central, Herald Square, and Union Square — with street parking and subway access that make it one of the more accessible adult venues in the city. The space runs across multiple levels and roughly 1,500 sq ft, dividing into a front-of-house room with the front desk, coat check, seating areas, and a refreshment bar, a second room with BDSM furniture, couches, and a bed, and a third dedicated play room lined with beds and a projector screen showing adult video. There is also a dedicated Blackout Room for the truly adventurous and a Voyeur Room — both name-checked on the Friday Debauchery night — plus a designated smoking space and private bathrooms for changing. Labyrinth runs four nights a week: Anything Goes Wednesdays (9pm–2am, couples and singles, BDSM-friendly), Orgy Thursdays (9pm–3am, group-play focus), Debauchery Fridays (9pm–4am, the club's signature night), and Swinging Kink Saturdays (9pm–4am, the busiest evening). Pricing varies by night: Wednesdays run $40 couples / $80 single men / free for ladies until midnight; Fridays scale to $60–$80 couples and $100–$120 single men depending on arrival time. Membership is compulsory — annual ($40), six-month ($30), or one-week ($20) — and must be purchased before attending; every tenth visit is free. The crowd skews toward adventurous adults in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, and the club draws a mix of couples and single attendees in a no-pressure environment where watching is as welcome as participating. Complimentary condoms, lube, and towels are provided; the venue is BYOB with a $20 bottle surcharge and a one-bottle-per-membership cap, with complimentary mixers, soda, and water at the bar. All events are on-premise with no re-entry.

Auberge La Passion

Drummondville, Quebec

On-Premise Club

Auberge La Passion is a private swingers club (club libertin) in Drummondville, Quebec, founded in 2014 by Luc and Chantal. Rated 4.8/5 on Google with 36+ reviews, it is consistently praised for exceptional cleanliness, respectful atmosphere, and welcoming hosts. The venue features a nightclub with dance floor, billiard room, spa, themed playrooms with soft BDSM options, a mirror room, and a licensed bar. Fridays are meet-and-greet nights open to all including limited single men, while Saturdays are couples and single women only with themed events (lingerie, leather & latex, corset, fluo, masquerade, and more). Overnight suites available in the main building and adjacent Le Petit Hotel annex. First-timers receive a guided tour and full orientation.

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Top Floor Club

New York, NY

Off-Premise Club

Top Floor is a curated, consent-forward erotic community and play party that unfolds across three interconnected penthouse suites in New York City's Lower East Side. The venue spans multiple suites with a dance floor, bars, a serenity room staffed by a licensed on-site medic, and sweeping 100-foot outdoor balconies running front to back. Hosts and trained Guardians, connected by radio, circulate throughout the night; there are no VIP sections, and the crowd — drawn from a carefully vetted member base — skews toward those who take consent as seriously as pleasure. Entry is by application only: prospective members submit a form, locate a hidden word embedded in the community rules, and complete a 30-minute vibe-check Zoom before being accepted. Members gain access to WhatsApp groups, monthly Signature Weekend events, kink-forward MARKED nights, and BI-SENSUAL gatherings open to vetted non-members. Membership starts at a sliding-scale quarterly contribution (Standard tier: $180); event tickets are purchased separately. The safety framework is unusually rigorous: all attendees — whether or not they plan to play — must submit verified STI results within three months (HIV-1/2, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia) via a HIPAA-compliant portal. Condoms are required for penetration unless partners are fluid-bonded. An independent Consent Director reviews all incident reports, with a third-party auditor conducting quarterly integrity checks.

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Forbidden Omaha

Omaha, NE

Off-Premise Club

Forbidden Omaha is a theme-centric lifestyle club and Nebraska's self-described premier lifestyle venue. The club hosts meet-and-greets and special events in a welcoming environment for open-minded adults, currently operating under new ownership with hours from 9 PM to 2 AM.

Reel One Indy

Indianapolis, IN

Lifestyle Resort

Reel One sits on the western edge of downtown Indianapolis at 3428 W. Washington St., a members-only on-premise lifestyle club that describes itself as the only female-owned swingers club in the Indianapolis and Central Indiana area. According to the club's own site, it has operated legally at the same location since 1992, making it the longest-running club of its kind in Indiana, and spans three floors and more than 16,000 square feet. The venue includes a bar area (BYOB, no alcohol sold or served), a dance floor with a stripper pole and DJ, a lounge with balconies for public play, a themed "doctor's office" playroom, showers and locker rooms, a pool room, and a large movie/theater room downstairs. Upstairs holds a maze of hallways and roughly a dozen additional playrooms, including one with mirrored ceilings and walls and another furnished with a swing. Entry requires membership or guest status (guests are permitted for their first two visits before membership is required), and all attendees must be 21 or older with valid, non-expired photo ID. The club is open Friday and Saturday nights only, and Saturday overnight stays are offered at no additional cost, with couples and single females given priority for rooms; single men are not permitted overnight rooms on the top floor. No cell phones, smart watches, or recording devices of any kind are allowed inside — phones must go in a locker or be left in a vehicle. A single male member may bring a couple or one guest, but not more than one single male friend. Illegal drugs, weapons, and prostitution are strictly prohibited, and management reserves the right to deny entry or eject anyone at its discretion.

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The Sanctuary SLC

Salt Lake City, UT

Off-Premise Club

The Sanctuary SLC is an invitation-only private lifestyle club located in a restored historic building in downtown Salt Lake City, Utah. The club hosts curated exclusive events, intimate gatherings, and immersive workshops focused on connection and personal exploration. Membership is limited and by invitation only, with an application process available through the club's website.

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Karizma Social Club

Glen Gardner, NJ

Social Club

Tucked into the rolling countryside of Hunterdon County, Karizma Social Club has established itself as New Jersey's premier on-premise lifestyle destination. The facility spans 7,800 square feet of interior space — part of an 11,500 sq ft building set on 4 acres — housing a full-service BYOB bar (mixers provided, barkeepers on hand), a DJ-driven dance floor active on Saturday nights, a game area with pool table, air hockey, darts, and arcade games, plus several lounge areas and a mix of open, semi-private, and private play rooms. A covered outdoor area handles smokers, and a free paved parking lot serves the property. Hotel discounts and a paid shuttle service to and from the Hampton Inn — within 5 miles — round out the practical amenities. The schedule runs on a consistent rhythm: Saturdays year-round (8pm–5am, bar until 3am) and the 1st and 3rd Fridays of each month (9pm–3am). Approved single gentlemen are permitted on the 3rd Saturday only, and in limited numbers. New members receive a mandatory orientation tour of the club before their first event. In over four and a half years of operation, the club reports having closed unexpectedly only a handful of times. Karizma draws members from across New Jersey, New York, and Pennsylvania, positioning itself as an upscale nightclub-style experience rather than a casual house party. The minimum age is 24. Membership is for couples (male/female) or singles, with annual and monthly dues options; all fees are paid in person — no online payments accepted. The exact address is released only after membership approval.

FuseX Social Club - South Dakota Chapter

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Sioux Falls, SD

Social Club

FuseX Social Club is a private, approval-only lifestyle organization operating its South Dakota chapter from Sioux Falls with no fixed address — events rotate among confidential venues including hotel takeovers, luxury house parties, and invitation-only mansion events. The SD chapter runs approximately three hosted events per year locally; many Sioux Falls members also attend the larger Minneapolis chapter. Every applicant undergoes a formal interview, a national criminal background check, and must sign binding NDA and non-liability agreements before event details are shared. The membership skews toward working professionals — lawyers, physicians, executives — with income requirements (couples: $225,000+ combined; single males: $115,828+). Lifestyle interests span swinging, cuckolding, hotwifing, BDSM, polyamory, and voyeurism. In a conservative-state context, the club positions itself as the discreet alternative; members frequently travel to Minneapolis for higher-attendance events. At events, the format is social first: couples mingle and dance before play areas open, and participation is always voluntary. Dress code is enforced. Membership tiers range from $2,900 to $25,000/year plus per-event costs; single women receive free Platinum membership. Approximately one in four applications is approved.

Choice Social Club

Providence, RI

On-Premise Club

Choice Social Club is New England's flagship on-premise lifestyle club, occupying 8,000 square feet behind a red door in a Providence industrial neighborhood on Porter Street. Inside the contrast is sharp: warm-toned lounges furnished in leather, a dance floor with a video wall and stripper pole, a BYOB bar, and a backyard patio that opens for summer events. The building's 14 themed playrooms include a voyeur chamber with a one-way window, a schoolhouse room, a massage room, a blacklight room, a glory hole room, and a group room with an L-shaped multi-bed layout. A dedicated BDSM corner houses St. Andrew's crosses and sawhorse equipment. Staff change sheets between uses throughout the night. Membership and pricing have two layers. Annual memberships run $45 for couples ($250 premium), $40-65 for single women, and a $100 introductory rate for single men, who face a 3-4 month waitlist given strict ratio management. Per-event admission adds $90 for couples, $100 for single men, and $5 for single women. First-timers receive a complimentary trial membership. Events run Saturdays 9 pm to 2 am with themed nights rotating through the calendar; a Ropes class runs on the third Thursday at 7 pm. The BYOB system works by handing bottles to staff at check-in labelled with your membership number and requesting drinks at the bar all night with the club supplying mixers and ice. Playroom etiquette follows a plastic-chain signal system: chain on the door means open to observation or polite requests to join; door open and unchained means people may ask; curtain or door closed means full privacy. The crowd runs approximately 90% couples with an average age of 35-45, and the single-male quota is actively controlled to keep the balance couples-focused. The club has operated under Red Door Operations, LLC since 2009; a COVID closure prompted a 2021 GoFundMe by owner Jim Knaus that raised over $5,000 before reopening.

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TNT's Playground

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South Amboy, NJ

On-Premise Club

TNT's Playground is a members-only lifestyle party venue in South Amboy, New Jersey, drawing couples and singles from across the tri-state area for high-energy parties in what regulars call the friendliest environment in the region. The club markets itself equally to first-timers and experienced participants, making inclusivity its primary calling card. Directory listings dating to 2019 describe a reliably packed house with strong post-event word of mouth. The venue operates under the domain tatstitsnsmoke.com — a tongue-in-cheek name that regulars associate with the irreverent, no-pressure vibe rather than any other business. Verified structural details — street address, party schedule, pricing, playroom layout, and entry requirements — are not documented in publicly accessible sources at time of research. The website was inaccessible and the club does not appear in major lifestyle directories such as SDC, SLS, or Kasidie.

Club Iniquity

Houghton Lake, MI

On-Premise Club

Club Iniquity bills itself as "The Great Lake's Premier Swinger's Club," though it isn't a fixed venue in the traditional sense — it's a Michigan-based lifestyle community that takes over an entire lakefront resort in Houghton Lake for two-day "Complete Hotel Takeover" parties several times a year. Founded in 2017 as an alternative to the long drive downstate, the club has grown from a local meetup into what it calls one of the most respected lifestyle communities in the Midwest, pulling guests from Michigan, Wisconsin, Indiana, Illinois, Ohio and beyond. Each takeover includes beachside rooms, a clothing-optional pool and hot tub area, and a full slate of themed playrooms — recent events have featured a Group Fantasy Playroom, a Kink Fantasy Playroom, and "Steve's Den of Iniquity," a dedicated BDSM space. Weekends follow a set rhythm: a Friday welcome reception and potluck family feast, an orientation-style welcome presentation from hosts Jeff and Jenn, and a clothing-optional pool party running late into the night. Saturdays bring "Exploring the Lifestyle" discussion sessions (on topics like communication, consent, rope safety, and the emotional side of non-monogamy), a group dinner at the hotel restaurant, a themed room-decorating contest and room crawl, and a dance party with DJ Sexy Jeff running to midnight. Packages are all-inclusive — accommodations, party admission, workshops, breakfast and late-night snacks are bundled into one price, with no add-on fees. The club markets itself as drama-free and judgment-free, welcoming newcomers and seasoned swingers alike, with a strict "no means no" policy and rules against photography in shared party spaces. Single men are admitted only by prior approval, capped at roughly a 1:20 ratio against couples, and must hold a paid SLS (SwingLifestyle) profile at least a year old. All events are designated official SLS events, and all hotel bookings must go through the Club Iniquity website rather than the hotel directly, keeping the guest list within its vetted community.

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Electricity Social Club

Providence, RI

On-premise lifestyle / swinger club

Electricity Social Club occupies a loft-style space inside Atlantic Mill, a historic industrial complex in the Olneyville neighborhood of Providence, at 122 Manton Avenue — Right Tower, 2nd Floor. From the outside the building reads as a plain old factory, with no signage pointing to what's inside. The interior opens into a spacious loft-fitted club with a dance floor, a stripper pole, a full sound and light system, a BYOB bar stocked with mixers, lockers, and a dedicated smoking lounge. It is an on-premise, members-only lifestyle venue and one of the most talked-about lifestyle clubs in New England. The club runs Friday and Saturday nights from 9 pm to 2 am, with specialty events — including a bi- and pansexual-friendly Bi Voltage night — on the calendar. All guests must hold an annual membership (available at the door) and pay a per-party entry fee; valid photo ID is required at every visit. The crowd skews toward couples and single men, with reviewers placing the typical age range in the forties to fifties, though visitors span their twenties to late sixties. The atmosphere is described as laid-back and friendly, with action picking up after 11 pm. The play areas cover a wide range of preferences: a large main group room with couches ringing a dance floor and stripper pole; a small dungeon stocked with a rack, sawhorse, and floggers; a side room with beds and fresh linens; exhibitionist beds in a hallway where a velvet rope signals openness to company; and approximately ten fully private, attendant-managed playrooms. The club is BYOB — bring your own alcohol, free mixers provided — and is cash-only at the door. ESC describes itself as on-premise and welcoming to LGBTQ, pansexual, and bi-friendly guests.

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Dominium Vita

London, London

On-Premise Club

An inclusive and luxurious private members club for the sensually intelligent, where deviancy is an art form. Crafting immersive events, decadent retreats and curated encounters for those who crave beauty, depth and uninhibited connection.

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The Riverside Club

Gallipolis Ferry, WV

On-Premise Club

Set along Huntington Road in the small Mason County community of Gallipolis Ferry, The Riverside Club bills itself as West Virginia's #1 lifestyle club — a members-only, on-premise venue open to couples, single women, and a select number of single men. The space includes a dance floor, a stripper cage, a BYOB self-serve bar, multiple private playrooms, lockers (bring your own lock), and a hot tub. Complimentary soft drinks and food are included with entry, keeping the vibe more house-party than nightclub. Parties run every Saturday night from 9pm to 3am, with recurring themed nights — Blacklight Party, Red Dress Night, and Fishnet Night among them — plus annual events like the Christmas Party and New Year's Eve celebration. Membership costs $50 per year for couples, single men, and single ladies alike. New members register and verify online, then confirm their ID and pay on the first visit. All guests must be 21 or older. The crowd spans a wide range of ages and backgrounds, and first-timers consistently describe the owners, staff, and regulars as exceptionally welcoming. Single ladies are treated as honored guests; the rules explicitly flag that stalking or harassment of single women can result in permanent membership suspension. Smoking is permitted outside only, and the club asks all guests to keep voices down outdoors out of respect for the neighborhood.

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Club FA (Freedom Acres)

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San Bernardino, CA

On-Premise Club

Club FA, also known as Freedom Acres, was one of Southern California's largest on-premise swinger clubs — roughly 13,000 square feet on Devore Road in San Bernardino, at the north edge of the Inland Empire. The main floor paired a dance area and raised pole stage with a second, more intimate lounge floor, plus a pool table, scattered tables for eating and mingling, and TVs throughout playing adult films. A buffet was set out nightly, with coffee and donuts on Sunday mornings. About 6,000 square feet was given to play: a maze of cubbies, themed rooms, lofts and group areas ranging from semi-private to fully open. Club FA was a private membership association closed to the public — entry required an accepted membership plus the door fee each visit, and couples had to attend together. Members were 21-plus. Single men were admitted only on Wednesday and Sunday parties, never Friday or Saturday; single women could attend any night. Nights ran late and themed: Friday to 4am, Saturday to 6am, Sunday to 10pm with a DJ and dancing, typically drawing 120-160+ couples and 250-300+ for marquee events like New Year's, Halloween and the Freedom Acres Anniversary. Drinks were BYOB across two bars (beer/wine and mixed drinks). Dress leaned upscale-casual — collared shirts for men, with t-shirts, flip-flops, sweats and thug attire turned away.

Club Eros

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Cleveland, OH

On-Premise Club

Club Eros occupies a sprawling 15,000-square-foot industrial-chic space tucked behind gated access on E. 33rd Street in Cleveland's St. Clair–Hamilton corridor — the only female-owned adult lifestyle club in the Midwest, run by owner Jenny, who has been hosting events for over 15 years. The main floor delivers a full nightclub experience: a DJ booth with professional sound and light show, a full-service BYOA bar with complimentary juices, sodas, and premium energy drinks, a pool table, intimate lounge seating, and a complimentary buffet on Saturday nights. A couples-only lounge with its own play area provides a quieter retreat, and a movie theater area rounds out the social zones before guests head deeper into the club. The play wing spans 20 rooms: voyeur and exhibition rooms, a kink and bondage room, a dedicated pleasure-swing room, couples glory-hole rooms, private rooms, and a first-timers tour led by staff on arrival. Membership is required — one-night passes run $20 for couples; quarterly memberships are $35 for couples or single males and $25 for single ladies. Standard Saturday door fees are $69 for couples and $20 for single ladies; single males must qualify through CockFest or Club Cougar intake events, or attend daytime Tryst sessions. Eros stands apart on scale, polish, and inclusivity: its member base spans couples and singles across straight, gay, bi, and queer identities; attendance on a typical Saturday runs 60–100 with themed nights drawing up to 250. The all-inclusive door fee covers linens, wipes, condoms, buffet, and soft-drink mixers. Doors open at 9 PM on Saturdays with events running to 3 AM, and the large gated lot with on-site security makes parking straightforward.

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Leisure Time Club

Hartford, CT

On-Premise Club

Sitting on Zion Street in Hartford's West End, Leisure Time Club has been the cornerstone of New England's lifestyle scene since the early 1980s — now in its 44th year of continuous operation and widely cited as the longest-running swingers club in the United States. The venue spans three floors, opening each Saturday at 9 pm to a crowd of couples and single women who come for a reliably welcoming, no-pressure atmosphere. Downstairs, a live-DJ dance floor fitted with a stripper pole, professional sound and lighting anchors the social side of the evening; a large lounge area and a fully attended BYOB bar keep the conversational energy flowing between trips upstairs. The upper floors hold five themed recreation rooms — including a private room, a beginners' room, a voyeur room, and open-group spaces — alongside BDSM apparatus, a Tantra chair, two group showers, and towels-and-lockers facilities. Repeat visitors consistently praise the owners for personally welcoming newcomers and making introductions across the room. The atmosphere skews intimate rather than cavernous, with regulars and first-timers mixing easily from their mid-twenties to early sixties. Beyond the weekly Saturday night, Leisure Time runs a monthly Friday-evening Ladies Social, a women-only party for ladies who want to connect, dance and let go. The club draws from across Connecticut and within an hour's drive of Massachusetts, New York, and Rhode Island, giving it a regional catchment that keeps the crowd refreshingly varied. Single males are not admitted at any event. The venue is entirely smoke-free.

Clubhouse 2050

Indianapolis, IN

On-Premise Club

Sitting just east of downtown Indianapolis on E Michigan Street — about two miles from city center — ClubHouse 2050 is Indiana's longest-running lifestyle members-only club, housed in a building with an eclectic past (members note it was once a funeral home, which only adds to its mystique). The ground floor is laid out like a social club: a sports bar, dance floor, card room, and game room all feed into a play area with curtained semi-private spaces. Upstairs, private and semi-private rooms are available for couples and groups, outfitted with fresh linens and stocked with convenience baskets. What sets ClubHouse 2050 apart is the breadth of its membership. Less than half of the crowd are full swingers; the rest are voyeurs, exhibitionists, BDSM and FetLife regulars, and vanilla couples who enjoy a flirtatious, no-judgment atmosphere. The club runs weekly events every Friday and Saturday (8pm–2am), leaning into themed nights that vary by the interests of those who show up. It is BYOB with no bar tab, and the flat $50 Saturday entry and roughly $30 Friday fee make it one of the most affordable on-premise clubs in the region. Paid members also unlock a full online community: photo sharing, direct messaging, and live video chat. The club partners with a sister venue, ClubhousePandora.com near Anderson Casino, and curates a calendar of lifestyle travel events for members seeking experiences beyond Indianapolis.

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Fetish Week London

London, London

BDSM Club

The UK's biggest all-male fetish week, organised by Recon and held annually in London each July. Eight days of diverse parties, social events, workshops and experiences for guys into leather, rubber, uniform and fetish gear.

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Casa No.1

Chemnitz, Saxony

On-Premise Club

Casa No.1 is a Mediterranean-styled villa tucked away on Blankenauer Strasse in Chemnitz — 500 square metres of indoor space spread across four levels plus a sprawling 5,000 m² outdoor area with a swimming pool, lounge seating for 150, and even yachts repurposed for open-air play. Owned and run by the Ranft family since at least 2011, the club has quietly built one of the strongest reputations in eastern Germany: 4.9 out of 5 stars across 831 reviews on JOYclub, with more than 458,000 recorded visitor check-ins and 1,816 fans on the platform. Everything is all-inclusive — admission covers the full bar, a gourmet buffet with themed dishes, sauna, towels, and parking (including RV spots). The club operates two regular nights: Wednesday's "Afterwork 2.0" from 5 pm to midnight (ladies free, couples from €60) and Saturday themed parties from 8 pm to 3 am (couples from €90, single men from €100). Each Saturday brings a different theme — from 80s retro nights and Schlagerparty XXL to Caribbean pool events and the annual Oktoberfest. Facilities span a dance floor with live DJs, a massage lounge, glory holes, a fully equipped BDSM area, private and group play rooms, and a cosy sauna for cooler evenings. Gentlemen who arrive without clubwear can rent suit pants and a shirt for €10 including professional cleaning. First-timers get a genuine welcome through the "First Time 4 Free" programme, and the club's motto — "Everything is possible, nothing is mandatory" — sets the tone for a consent-first atmosphere. JOYclub members receive a €10 discount on standard admission. Directions are simple: A4 Exit 70 Chemnitz-Glösa, then 2 km on the B107 toward Chemnitz — look for the colourful chimney. Large on-site parking means no circling the block, and Bus Line 22 (Hochhausfurt stop) covers the 3 km from the Hauptbahnhof if you'd rather not drive.

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The Playground RI

Providence, RI

Private House Party

The Playground RI is a weekly lifestyle house party run out of a converted three-family home in Providence's Oakland Avenue Historic District, operated by hosts Eddy and Viv Badd of BBadd Entertainment. Spread across four floors and roughly 4,000 square feet, the venue mixes themed social spaces with dedicated play areas: the ground floor opens with a meet-and-greet lounge alongside a Wild West room, a Pirate room, and a kink-themed Red Room. The second floor holds a dance floor with a stripper pole and four more playrooms. The third floor is towel-and-robe only, with two private rooms, a glory hole, and an open group play area; the dungeon is fully equipped with two sex swings, a massage table, a Sybian, and a doctor's office with two exam tables. Saturday nights (8 pm-2 am) are the main weekly event, open to couples, single women, and a limited number of single men (21+), with the host managing ratios carefully. Friday Fusion nights run the same hours but tilt toward BDSM and kink and are open to all genders. The hosts personally tour first-timers through the space, answer questions, and make guests feel at home; reviewers consistently describe the atmosphere as friendly and community-driven rather than nightclub-cold. All parties are BYOB, with ice, refrigerators, snacks, sodas, and water provided at no charge. Every room is stocked with condoms, lube, and clean sheets. Lockers are available on the third floor. The venue is 420-friendly outdoors. Attendance is RSVP-only — no walk-ins; the full address is shared only upon booking confirmation.

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Calgary Adult Playground Club

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Calgary, Alberta

Swingers Club

Tucked away in a quiet industrial pocket of northeast Calgary, the Calgary Adult Playground Club has operated as one of the city's most private and long-running lifestyle communities since 2006. Known simply as CAPC or "The Studio," the 1,400 sq ft venue is deliberately unmarked from the outside — no signage, no music audible from the street, just a discreet entrance that members know to look for. Inside, it's a different world entirely. The ground floor combines a dance floor with disco lighting, a BYOB bar area stocked with mixers, ice, and glassware, and comfortable lounge seating. Upstairs, a dedicated play room carries a sensual dungeon atmosphere equipped with a Saint Andrew's Cross, bondage furniture, and safe sex supplies placed throughout. Regular events include Fetish Fridays and Swinger Saturdays starting at 9pm, plus occasional themed nights — rope bondage workshops, educational sessions, and exclusive CAPC Elite events for select members. Membership is invitation-only, either through referral from a current member or an interview with the owners. The community spans ages 21 to 60+, welcoming couples, single females, and those across the full spectrum of orientations and relationship styles: swinging, polyamory, kink, BDSM, and LGBTQ+. Single males are welcome at all events except Saturday nights, where entry requires a female partner or couple. The club's founding philosophy — safe, sane, and consensual with zero pressure — has made it a trusted space for Calgary's alternative lifestyle community for nearly two decades.

The Pleasure Garden Club

Philadelphia, PA

On-Premise Club

Tucked behind The Purple Orchid at the far end of a Passyunk Avenue strip mall in Philadelphia's Elmwood/Eastwick neighborhood, The Pleasure Garden Club has been one of the city's premier on-premise lifestyle destinations since opening in September 2006. The venue sits behind a gated private parking lot — well-lit and hidden from street view — and a pat-down security check at the door ensures no phones make it inside. With capacity for roughly 300 guests, the space centers on a large dance floor anchored by a stripper pole on a raised platform, flanked by two BYOB juice bars with complimentary mixers, a group shower with towel service, and a bank of lockers (bring your own padlock). Membership is bundled with entry via TicketLeap. Playrooms range from curtained private rooms and an open play pit to a dedicated gangbang room and two Sybian rooms (available for a $20 deposit). A side room off the main dance floor houses a permanent BDSM setup — St. Andrew's cross, a cage, a spiked wood throne with manacles, and suspension rigs — making it a genuine dual-use swinger/kink space. Overflow back rooms unlock on busier nights when the main areas fill up. Fridays (9 pm–2 am) welcome couples, single ladies, and single men; the first Friday of each month is PLEASUREcation, a kink-forward mixed party with dark/rock/EDM music and programming such as rope bondage demos. Saturdays (9 pm–3 am) are couples and single ladies only, with themed nights running the gamut from Mardi Gras to glow and sheer-wear parties.

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Club 2020

Malsch, Baden-Württemberg

On-Premise Club

Club 2020 arrived on the Baden-Württemberg lifestyle scene in September 2020 with a single mission: to build a genuinely design-forward lifestyle club for the Karlsruhe region. Nestled in the discreet industrial outskirts of Malsch — just 20 km south of Karlsruhe — it quickly earned JoyClub's highest distinction award and a near-perfect 4.7-star Google rating. The two-floor venue is immediately striking, with an interior that is deliberately beautiful and thematically rich, creating what the owners describe as an "exclusive atmosphere with a feel-good factor." The crowd is active and image-conscious — young and young-at-heart, in the club's own words — and the professional, charming staff earn consistent five-star praise for making every guest feel genuinely at home. The ground floor is the social heart: a dance floor with resident DJ, a full cocktail bar, and a first-class buffet restaurant that reviewers routinely single out as uncommonly good for a venue of this kind. Upstairs, six distinctly themed Räume der Lust (Rooms of Desire) offer a range of experiences — from the baroque Versailles Room for elegant intimate encounters, to the lockable Maritime Room, a private Couples Room, the large Caligula Group Room featuring a Czech Wall and glory holes, the Marquis de Sade BDSM Room for alternative play, and an SM area. A sauna and full hygiene facilities round out the amenities. The club operates under a clear consent-first philosophy: everything is possible, nothing is mandatory. Club 2020 runs on an event-driven model — most nights are organised by promoters through JoyClub, Germany's leading lifestyle platform, where pre-registering earns a meaningful discount off door prices. Fridays and Saturdays are the core nights (8 PM to 2 or 3 AM); occasional Thursday and Sunday events broaden the calendar. Entry prices vary by event and guest type: couples pay roughly €79–€99 on core nights, single women €25–€35, and single men at a premium. The themed event calendar is richly varied — Couples & Ladies Nights, BDSM takeovers, Queer Balls, Vegas Nights, neon glow parties, and seasonal celebrations running approximately weekly from April through November. Dress code is strictly elegant to fetish-formal; sneakers and flip-flops are turned away at the door.

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Club AntiChrist

London, London

BDSM Club

Club AntiChrist has been running since 2004 and is widely credited as Europe's largest alternative fetish night. Held quarterly at Scala in King's Cross — a multi-floor Victorian venue steps from St Pancras — each event transforms the entire building into a sprawling playground for goth, metal, and kink communities. Three dancefloors run simultaneously: The Hole (all genres of metal), the Hellfire Room (goth, industrial, and post-punk), and the Foyer (80s and New Romantic), while the Theatre of Sin stages live bands, burlesque, aerial acts, and cabaret throughout the night. The BDSM dungeon — equipped by Benchmarxxx with St Andrew's Crosses, spanking benches, a cage, and a swing — is staffed by trained monitors who enforce a rigorous consent policy; anyone who touches without asking is ejected and permanently barred. A separate monitored dark playroom offers more privacy for couples and groups, with free condoms provided. Out in the rear garden courtyard, hot food is served all night alongside tarot readings and a Munch Space for kink community newcomers. Cameras are strictly banned throughout to protect guest privacy. The dress code is more accessible than comparable London fetish nights — a band t-shirt and combat boots meet the minimum standard, while full latex and elaborate fetishwear are enthusiastically worn. Tickets are per-event at around £30–48 advance or £40 cash on the door, with no couples pricing or solo-male restriction. Time Out consistently recommends it, and Cultured Vultures called it 'probably the best night out I've ever had in London.' The kink community's consensus is clear: Club AntiChrist is the most inclusive and least intimidating of the major UK fetish nights.

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Red Room Nashville

Nashville, TN

On-Premise Club

Red Room Nashville is a members-only lifestyle club operating out of a discreet suburban venue near the city, reachable only after a screened membership application and a 24-hour approval wait. The main room centers on a professional-DJ dance floor with LED lighting, VIP and reserved seating with soft seating, a ladies-only dressing suite, and a BYOB bar stocked with complimentary mixers; from there, hallways lead back to communal play lounges and a run of private playrooms, some fitted with sex swings and BDSM equipment, that members can leave open for onlookers or close off for privacy. Events run on a weekly schedule with different nights themed for couples, single ladies, and limited single-male attendance, each requiring advance ticket purchase on top of membership; walk-ins are not accepted, and identification is checked at the door. Nudity is handled zone by zone: topless is allowed on the main dancefloor, but members must stay covered from the waist down there, while the back playroom areas are clothing-optional for anyone who wants to go further. Staff run a tight, consent-first floor: touching requires permission, sexual play in the main room must stay above the belt with anything further moved to a playroom, and single men are confined to designated bar seating unless invited elsewhere by a couple or group. The club supplies towels and cleanup wipes in the playrooms, and members describe the vibe as welcoming and judgment-free, with staff giving personal walkthroughs and mixed-age, mixed-body-type crowds turning out for the weekly parties.

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IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG)

New York, NY

Event Organizer

IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG) is a Northeast-based lifestyle event production outfit run by couple-hosts Maddy and Joe, drawing on a roster of experienced DJs, performers, comics, and venue operators whose sensibility blends Brazilian, Latin, Caribbean, and American swinger culture. Rather than maintaining a fixed club, IPG takes over entire hotels -- typically in Scranton, PA, conveniently off Highway 81 -- for full two-day weekends, regularly drawing 150-200 couples per event. Hotel room blocks are negotiated at roughly $119-139 per night with a two-night minimum, and the hotel staff are described as extremely lifestyle friendly. The all-day format means guests checking in Friday afternoon have access to the heated indoor pool and surrounding amenities well before the night main events begin. Each event weekend follows a structured rhythm. Friday evening opens with naughty trivia (6:30-7:45 PM), a meet-and-greet, then a DJ dance party running to midnight, followed by a pool party until 2-3 AM. Saturday layers on afternoon speed dating, kink demos, poolside games, and Swingo (a bingo variant), before a pre-party gathering at 6 PM and a main event -- typically a comedy show or costumed contest -- at 8:45 PM sharp, with themed playrooms and a potluck after-party floor-crawl from midnight onward, closing with a pool-and-desserts wind-down at 4 AM. The crowd skews friendly and repeating; reviews consistently flag the hosts personal floor presence and the unusually respectful atmosphere among attendees. Preference bracelets issued at check-in (green: full swap; yellow: soft swap; purple: tame; red: bisexual) take the guesswork out of navigation. IPG also co-hosts at external venues, including a recurring bi/lingerie night at The Kink Lair, and an annual Pride Fest kink/fetish hotel takeover.

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Michigan Fun Times

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Detroit, MI

On-Premise Club

Michigan Fun Times (MFT) is a couples-oriented lifestyle social club serving the Detroit metro area, run by two operators as a small hotel-based group rather than from a fixed venue. The club does not publish a street address; its most recent recurring events (early-to-mid 2025) were held at a hotel in Southfield, MI, a Detroit suburb, with the specific location disclosed only after ticket purchase. Parties are structured as themed "Hotel Takeovers" (past editions have included Naughty Cupid, 24K Gold Magic St. Patty's, and Party Like a Playmate nights). The club is BYOB, with hotel common areas remaining clothed/"vanilla" while dedicated playrooms — stocked with a DJ, snacks, mixers, and kink equipment such as a Sybian and St. Andrew's Cross — host the after-hours activity, alongside an outdoor smoke tent. Membership is free but requires an approved online application (couple, single male, or single female) with photo verification before attending any event. A typical event runs Saturday 3:00 PM–2:00 AM, with entry pricing in 2025 consistently listed at $90 per couple, $35 per single female, and $110 per single male.

Illuminaughty Albuquerque

Albuquerque, NM

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Albuquerque is a membership-based lifestyle event organizer that hosts exclusive cocktail mixers and private swinger parties in Albuquerque, New Mexico. It operates as part of the national Illuminaughty network, which runs events across more than 40 U.S. cities. Attendance requires an approved membership application, and members gain access to a referral program and a dedicated mobile app.

Mission Control SF (Kinky Salon)

Oakland, CA

BDSM Club

Mission Control is a members-only, volunteer-run sex-positive community rooted in the San Francisco Bay Area. Founded around 2000 by Polly Whittaker — the London transplant better known as Polly Superstar — the organization spent its first fourteen years at 2519 Mission Street before rising rents forced an eviction in late 2013. It re-established itself and now operates out of venues in Oakland, hosting a rotating calendar of themed parties and workshops under its 501(c)(7) nonprofit charter. The event lineup spans a wide spectrum: Pink is the house party where the core community gathers; Threshold is the BDSM-focused night; Velvet centres queer women, trans folks, and genderqueers; SOUL is exclusively for people of colour; Peek celebrates exhibitionism and voyeurism; and Eropunk is a sober play party for introverts. All events are BYOB. Entry requires individual membership (couples applications declined). Alliance membership at $20/month or $200/year unlocks free entry to most parties. The PAL system — every guest must arrive and leave with a trusted accountability partner — underpins the consent culture.

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Oasis Aqualounge

Toronto, Ontario

On-Premise Club

Oasis Aqualounge is a clothing-optional, water-themed private members club for adults 19 and over, located in a restored 19th-century mansion in downtown Toronto. The venue features a year-round heated outdoor pool, hot tub, sauna, two bars, and play areas spanning four floors. Solo men are admitted Sunday through Thursday; Fridays and Saturdays are reserved for women and couples only.

Illuminaughty Seattle

Seattle, WA

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Seattle is the local chapter of Illuminaughty, a national curated lifestyle brand that has hosted private swinger parties and cocktail mixers since 2022. Rather than operating from a fixed clubhouse, it runs monthly events for the Seattle and Tacoma area, drawing an ethically non-monogamous crowd of couples and singles roughly in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Attendance is restricted to approved members: applicants submit photos and a written application, and there is no membership fee, though not everyone is accepted. Events fall into two formats. Tease Cocktail Mixers are held in reserved sections of local bars or restaurants as a low-key way for members to meet. Private parties — the core of the brand — take place at rented private residences ranging from houses to high-rise apartments to larger estates, decorated and lit to set an intentional mood, typically hosting 40 to 80 members with professional security on site. Rooms are set up for a range of experiences, from massage tables and group-play spaces to light bondage or kink setups, though kink is described as a secondary element rather than the main focus. Most night parties run from around 8pm to 2am, with an arrival window (roughly 8:00–9:30pm) after which doors close for a mandatory opening talk on consent and house rules; latecomers are turned away. Parties are BYOB, with mixers and non-alcoholic drinks supplied, and towels, wipes, condoms, lube and massage oil provided. Each event has a set dress theme that members are expected to follow. Tickets and the private venue address are released only to approved, logged-in ticket holders, with the exact location shared on the day of the event.

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X Club Winnipeg

Winnipeg, Manitoba

Event Organizer

X Club Winnipeg is an adult lifestyle and social club spanning over 10,000 square feet across three floors at its Winnipeg, Manitoba location. The facility includes multiple play rooms, a hot tub room, sauna, steam room, and a range of locker and private room rentals priced per visit. Annual membership is available for couples and solo members and provides room reservations, event discounts, and reduced room rates.

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Stopgap

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer

Opened in April 2024 inside the SoMa building that once housed the SF Citadel, Stopgap is a turnkey kink venue that bridges San Francisco's leather history with its present-day scene. The fully accessible ground floor holds social areas, lockers, two bathrooms, and open play spaces fitted with hardpoints, while a staircase descends to a 3,100-square-foot basement dungeon stocked with equipment recovered from the Citadel's collection alongside newer pieces -- crosses, benches, tables, bondage chairs, cages, and at least 20 suspension hardpoints with floor mats for rope work. The venue is run by the AfterDark Events team, a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled-led organisation, and doubles as a rental space for third-party producers. Stopgap's own flagship is House Party, an inclusive open-play night held on the first Friday of every month, alongside weekly open-dungeon sessions, the Wrapt rope jam on fourth Mondays, Society of Janus play parties on second Saturdays, and rotating themed events such as Board Games & Bondage.

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Syracuse Social Club

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Syracuse, NY

Syracuse Social Club is a private, invitation-only lifestyle social group serving the greater Syracuse area out of Liverpool, NY. Operating as an off-premise club, it offers couples and single women a low-pressure way to meet like-minded people — think social dancing and mingling rather than on-site play. Events run twice a month at a rotating private, discreet location kept off public records. Because the club does not maintain a fixed venue, the atmosphere is more intimate social gathering than nightclub: attendance is by invitation only, and prospective members are directed to contact the club to receive an invite to an upcoming dance. The club is strictly couples and single women only — single men are never admitted. New members must contact the club for an invitation before they can attend their first event. The recurring format of dancing as the social anchor keeps the vibe sociable and approachable, making it a natural entry point for couples newer to the lifestyle who want to meet others without the immediacy of an on-premise venue. Details beyond the core format — pricing, exact scheduling, dress code, and specific house rules — are communicated directly to invited guests. Prospective attendees are directed to the club website at syracusesocialclub.com to submit a session request.

Club NV

Muncie, IN

Off-Premise Club

Club NV is an adult lifestyle club in Muncie, Indiana, open Saturday nights with themed events weekly. Membership and entry fees are handled at the door on arrival. The club hosts regular meet-and-greet discount nights alongside themed costume parties.

Club Tempted

Louisville, KY

Lifestyle Resort

Club Tempted is a members-only private lifestyle nightclub in Louisville, Kentucky. Membership is offered in four tiers — Onyx, Crystal, Ruby, and Diamond — each providing different levels of access and complimentary event entry. The club also coordinates lifestyle travel experiences including cruises and resort getaways to destinations such as Cancun and Puerto Morelos.

Hawaii Swinger (hawaiiswinger.net)

Honolulu, HI

Online lifestyle community serving Hawaii. Listed in third-party directories but limited publicly available details.

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Hilo, HI

Lifestyle Resort

Hawaii Swingers (hawaiiswingers.net) is an online lifestyle platform rather than a physical club, presenting itself as a hub for the swinger and non-monogamous community across the Hawaiian Islands. It has no fixed address or venue of its own — its identity is built around an events calendar, a directory of other Hawaii-based clubs and meetup groups, and community-oriented copy inviting couples and individuals to explore the lifestyle without judgment. The site functions as an affiliate landing page for the SwingLifeStyle (SLS) personals network and is also cross-listed on Swing Towns, rather than operating as an independent club or membership organization. In practice, the platform aggregates listings rather than hosting anything itself: it advertises parties, meet-and-greets, and hotel takeovers organized by third parties around the islands. "Membership" is a free account signup routed through an SLS affiliate link — there is no venue to enter, no cover charge, dress code, or check-in process. The site's own contact email has gone dark (removed as of 2026-06-30), and current activity levels of the advertised events calendar could not be independently verified beyond the platform's own promotional copy.

CJ's at The Townhouse

Glasgow, Scotland

On-Premise Club

Tucked into a quiet corner of Kelvindale on Glasgow's leafy west side, CJ's at The Townhouse has built a reputation as one of Scotland's most welcoming swingers clubs. The venue spans two floors of a discreet townhouse on Ashburton Road, with a trio of stripper-pole-lined lounges, a self-service bar and a buffet downstairs, and a warren of eight themed playrooms upstairs. Owner CJ personally walks first-timers through the space, and the crowd — a friendly mix of regulars and newcomers, often spanning their late twenties to early sixties — sets a tone that's more living-room than nightclub. Parties run on a tight rhythm: Friday nights (8pm–midnight) are couples and single ladies only; Saturdays (9pm–2am) open the door to a limited number of single men; and once a month, a Wednesday afternoon party (noon–3pm) welcomes everyone. There are also dedicated gay and bi-male nights run under the @cjs4gay banner. Entry is by prior booking only — no walk-ins, no admittance after 11pm — and photo ID (passport, driving licence or utility bill) is required at the door. Dress code is strictly enforced: a sexy little number for the ladies, smart casual or sexy attire for the gents. The playrooms cover everything from a cinema lounge and an open group room to a fully equipped dungeon, a medical-themed private room, a voyeur room, and a couples-and-single-females-only room with a love swing. Phones are off in public areas and cameras are banned outright, which keeps the vibe relaxed and discreet. The "party contribution" at the door covers a buffet plus tea, coffee and soft drinks; alcohol is BYOB with no corkage. Towels and condoms are provided, there's a separate indoor smoking area, and an on-site wardrobe and makeover service is on hand for anyone who wants to dress up before they head in.

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CC House Party

Country Club Hills, IL

On-Premise Club

CC House Party has built a reputation as the most talked-about lifestyle house party in metropolitan Chicago, running an 8,000-square-foot on-premises club in the south suburb of Country Club Hills every Saturday night. The single-story private facility draws 60 to 100 couples per party. The layout spans open and private play rooms, a dance floor anchored by a stripper pole with club-grade lighting and sound, voyeur and exhibition spaces, a massage table and bondage equipment, and a group shower — giving the venue a genuinely upscale, well-maintained feel rather than a makeshift house-party vibe. A complimentary buffet dinner is served alongside a BYOB setup with mixers, and the crowd mixes and mingles on the open lounge floor before drifting toward the private rooms as the night goes on. Doors open at 7:30 PM, with a hard 11:00 PM arrival cutoff for new admission, and first-time guests complete a membership application and ID check before entry.

Cats 2.0 Swingerclub

München, Bavaria

On-Premise Club

Cats 2.0 is Munich's oldest swinger club — a legacy that stretches back through its earlier incarnations as Karibik and the original Cats before relaunching at Paul-Gerhardt-Allee 44 in March 2022 under owner Sven Drummer. The 500 m² space holds up to 150 guests across six separate rooms including lockable couples' suites, a fully equipped BDSM area, a whirlpool, massage room, dance floor with top DJs on weekends, and a bar serving branded drinks and cocktails. Admission is all-inclusive: cold and warm buffet, every drink on the menu, towels, condoms, shower products, and locker access are all covered in the door price. Cash only. The club runs six nights a week with a different flavour each evening — Monday's "Schnupper Montag" is designed for first-timers at the lowest price point (couples €50, ladies €15), Tuesday is "Hot & Active," Wednesday welcomes a higher single-male ratio with "Herrenüberschuss," Thursday adds massage sessions with Kim, Friday brings "Sway and Play" and college-themed nights, and Saturday peaks with "Dark Experience" parties and headline DJs. Standard weekend pricing sits at €75–80 for couples, €120 for single men, and €25 for ladies, with JOYclub members saving €10 across the board. The club closes Sundays. With 3,080 JOYclub fans, nearly a million recorded visitor check-ins, and a 4.5/5 rating across 905+ reviews, Cats 2.0 has the numbers to back up its self-proclaimed "Big City Club" status. House rules are firm but sensible: towels between bodies and mattresses, no food or drinks in play areas, no street shoes, and no towel-only dress — this isn't an FKK club. Security is on-site nightly, and the motto "Everything is possible, nothing is mandatory" sets a clear consent-first tone.

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Chameleons

Darlaston, West Midlands

On-Premise Club

Chameleons in Darlaston is one of the UK's most established swingers clubs — over 25 years in the business, open 363 days a year (every day except Tuesday), across a three-floor sauna-based venue just off Junction 9 of the M6. The ground floor holds reception, a bar and lounge, a dance floor, two large jacuzzis, singles changing, and showers. Upstairs you'll find a TV lounge, couples changing, a steam room, main shower area, ladies' powder room, and a mix of private and communal play rooms including a couples-only section. The top floor adds a sauna box, more showers, extra play rooms, and lockable rooms for privacy. Ten on-site hotel rooms are available for overnight stays — five en-suites including one superior room with its own entrance. Each night has its own character: Monday is Bi-Night (strictly bisexual and bi-friendly, TVs welcome, 2 pm–midnight), Wednesday through Friday runs from 11 am, Thursday adds Nude Night from 6 pm (strictly no clothing or towels), Friday and Saturday stay open until 3 am, and Saturday switches to couples and single ladies only after 7:30 pm. The club is BYOB — bring your bottles and the bar will refrigerate and serve them back to you. Food is served during sessions and gets genuine praise (the lamb shank in particular). Lifetime membership is a one-off fee: £25 for couples, £10 for single ladies, £80 for single men, with entrance on top ranging from £12 to £40 depending on the night and gender. Single men can enquire Tuesday through Friday and Sunday, but membership isn't guaranteed and depends on the ratio of couples to single ladies. ID is mandatory — one form for couples and single ladies, two forms for single men. The club has an 8,900-strong Facebook following, 1,400+ Instagram followers, 200+ FabSwingers reviews rated "Fabulous," and runs a second venue in Newport (24 Church Street). Free on-site parking, a dedicated taxi service through Link Up Cabs (0121 568 8989), and bus links from Walsall, Wolverhampton, and Birmingham make getting there straightforward.

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atlantisEVOLUTION

Stoke-on-Trent, Staffordshire

On-Premise Club

atlantisEVOLUTION is a nightclub-themed swingers and lifestyle club in Burslem, Stoke-on-Trent, voted the No. 1 nightclub-themed swingers club in the UK. Run by beloved hosts Cat and Tag for over 15 years, it spans two floors with dance areas, multiple play rooms, kasbahs, a cosy lounge, and an outside courtyard. The club operates as BYOB with a customer cooler fridge and sells soft drinks and mixers. Fridays are open to all including single males, while Saturdays are couples and single females only. Special events include PlaY Xtra (free 1st Wednesday), EVOLUTIONfetish (4th Sunday, non-swinging), Greedy Girls, Hot Wives, and newbie-friendly PoP My Cherry nights. Rated 4.7/5 across 40+ reviews, consistently praised for its welcoming, no-pressure atmosphere and attentive staff.

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The Phoenix Ottawa

Ottawa, Ontario

On-Premise Club

The Phoenix is a private erotic social club in Ottawa offering weekly events including play nights on Mondays, BDSM/kink nights on Fridays, Swinger Saturdays, and inclusive bi/queer nights. The venue welcomes couples, singles, and all gender identities, and is also available for private party rentals.

The Foothills Club

Anderson, SC

On-Premise Club

The Foothills Club is a private membership-based lifestyle club in Anderson, South Carolina, catering to adults 21 and older. The venue hosts monthly themed events with ballroom dancing, an open bar, and finger food, and welcomes couples and singles in the lifestyle. A money-back guarantee is offered for first-time members, and lifetime membership is available.

Club Alchemy

Northwich, Cheshire

On-Premise Club

Club Alchemy is one of the UK's most ambitious lifestyle venues — a purpose-built adult club in Northwich, Cheshire, that hosts immersive themed events roughly two to three Saturdays a month. The venue features over 30 playrooms across multiple levels, including an Amsterdam Street section, a Live Porn Room, and a 1,500 square foot steam complex. Regular event nights span everything from Temptation and Fuckalicious to the upscale Dark Velvet and the exclusive Club Flesh, hosted in partnership with Torture Garden. The facilities are comprehensive: a full bar, dance floor, sauna, hot tub, dungeon, dark room, private rooms, and over 200 individual lockers. Entry is per-event with tickets purchased online — couples from £35, single ladies from £15. Single males are accepted in very limited numbers at £45, typically by prior email arrangement, and a VIP room is available for groups at an additional £30. Club Alchemy has earned a loyal following across the northwest England lifestyle scene for its production values and the breadth of its themed programming. The venue is 18+ and non-membership — each event is open to newcomers and regulars alike, with a strong emphasis on consent, inclusivity, and a welcoming atmosphere for couples and LGBTQ+ guests.

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Club Choices

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Houston, TX

On-Premise Club

Club Choices — branded interchangeably as Club Choices Houston and Choices Swingers Club — operated for years out of an unmarked warehouse on Star Lane, a quiet industrial side street tucked just north of the Galleria. The building itself is a roughly 9,000-square-foot, three-level Class C industrial shell with no street signage; the kind of place you could drive past a hundred times without noticing. Inside, the club ran a hard split between the floors: ground level was full nightclub — dance floor, stripper poles, stages, chains hanging from the ceiling, a live DJ rotating between Top 40 and classics, and a BYOB setup bar pouring free sodas, water and mixers. The upper floor flipped the script entirely — hot tub, showers, a swing, lockers, a massage table, a small video room, fetish toys, and a row of VIP suites for couples and groups. A small on-site adult boutique stocked by SoftTouchSecrets.com sold lingerie, condoms and the usual range of toys for anyone who wanted to take a piece of the night home. The club ran Thursday through Saturday, with the occasional Wednesday daytime RSVP play session and rare Sunday slots. Thursdays opened the door at 9pm and pushed to 2am; Fridays and Saturdays ran until 5am with last entry at 1:30. Door pricing was tiered the standard on-premise way — single men paid the most ($40 Thursday, $60 weekend), couples sat in the middle ($30/$40), single women paid the least and got in free before 11pm. Membership was a $10 one-time fee bought on arrival. Dress code was enforced firmly enough that it appeared on every page of the site: "Dress to Impress" — sexy for women, nice shirt, shoes and pants for men, never sportswear and never shorts. The crowd, by all accounts, skewed older and quieter than a typical Houston nightclub. One Yelp review captured the tone: "Not what you think — it's not a strip bar and there's not sex everywhere. It is very classy and refined. Women are very respected." The club closed at 5/5 stars across 12 Yelp reviews. By March 2026 the doors were shut. There was no announcement — no press release, no closure post on Instagram, no farewell event. The clubchoiceshouston.com domain went dark first (Hostinger suspended the hosting account, the standard sign of unpaid bills), Yelp updated the listing to CLOSED in March, and the building re-tenanted to Lane 58, a hookah bar that took its Yelp listing live in May 2026. The Star Lane address has a long history of running through nightlife tenants — StarLane Industry Afterhours, Club 5806 / Rendevu, VIA After Hours (closed November 2025), and Richmond Studios (a daytime photography/event tenant from 2018) all cycled through the same building. None of the two dormant Instagram accounts (@clubchoiceshouston, @clubchoicess) have posted since well before closure, and the @bacchusnightclub_ confusion that occasionally surfaces online is a different venue in Bishop's Stortford, England. The legacy Wix site at choiceslifestyle.wixsite.com/choices is the only piece of the operation still publicly readable — a frozen snapshot of pricing, hours and rules from when the lights were on.

Xtasia

West Bromwich, West Midlands

The UK's longest-running swingers club, established in the 1980s and located in West Bromwich. Features a nightclub, bar, themed playrooms, dungeon, hot tub, cinema, and on-site hotel — voted the number one swingers club in the UK.

The Attic Experience

Derby, Derbyshire

On-Premise Club

A fully licensed, inclusive space in Derby created by swingers, for swingers, with over 40 themed rooms including a dungeon, disco room, and Harry Potter-themed space. A safe, judgment-free environment welcoming all orientations and experience levels.

PX Productions

Little Rock, AR

Little Rock's primary lifestyle club operating through hotel events. Strong emphasis on consent, privacy, and respect. Does not release guest information. On-premise play is allowed.

Fresh Starts Swingers Club

Salt Lake City, UT

One of Salt Lake City's longest-running lifestyle venues, established in 1995. Welcomes couples, females, and select single males.

Exotic Desires Social Club

Knoxville, TN

A Knoxville-based lifestyle group hosting hotel events, typically at the Clarion Inn. Offers food, dancing, and play areas.

Xchange

Memphis, TN

A private members-only social club in Memphis with a large dance floor, live DJ, and a massive 102-inch projector screen. Saturday nights only.

The Meeting Place

Decatur, MI

On-Premise Club

Just off the beaten path near Kalamazoo, The Meeting Place has quietly held the title of Michigan's oldest sex club for more than 37 years. The venue is a sprawling 6,000-square-foot space built for a full night out — a DJ-lit dance floor with a stripper pole, a large hot tub, an outdoor firepit ringed by a 12-foot privacy fence, and 12 separate play rooms with more than 35 beds between them. A complimentary buffet and soft drinks keep the energy up through the night, and the club is BYOB, cigarette-friendly, and 420-friendly throughout. Parties run every Saturday night plus a themed event on the third Friday of each month, generally 8pm to noon the next day, with extended hours during BASH weekends. Entry is address-on-request only: new members call ahead, get walked through the rules and fees by phone, and receive directions to the club — no address is posted publicly. Couples must call and attend together, and single men must call to reserve a spot before every visit, since space for single males is limited and interview-gated. House culture leans toward a relaxed, consent-first vibe: no cell phones anywhere on site, no BDSM play, and street clothes are barred from the play and bedroom areas once inside. A private room and a dedicated "orgy room" for content creation are both available to rent for the night. The club also promotes sexual-health resources and keeps an active FetLife presence for its community.

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Afterdark Edinburgh

Edinburgh, Scotland

On-Premise Lifestyle Club

AfterDark is Edinburgh's premier private members swinging and kink club, originally known as "After Eight" before rebranding and moving to its current larger premises in October 2022. Located in a converted warehouse unit at Bankhead Workspace in Edinburgh's Sighthill area, the venue delivers an unexpectedly polished experience behind its industrial exterior. The spacious social lounge serves as the central hub, with atmospheric lighting setting the tone for the evening. Surrounding it are 9 dedicated play spaces of varying sizes — from intimate private rooms with doors to open play areas — plus a cinema room, dungeon/BDSM area, and a glory hole. Lockers are provided at the entrance (phones must be stored here), and changing rooms with showers and mirrors are available. Towels, condoms, and lubricant are provided throughout. AfterDark operates BYOB — bring your own alcohol and enjoy it in the lounge. Soft drinks are available for purchase via tokens bought at reception. The club runs a varied weekly schedule: Wednesday midweek sessions (8 PM–1 AM), Friday and Saturday main nights (9 PM–3 AM), and rotating Thursday events including TV/CD/Bi & Admirers nights, quiz nights, and rope classes. Themed events rotate regularly — lingerie nights, UV parties, wrestling themes, couples-only evenings, and seasonal celebrations. First-timers are welcomed with a guided tour from staff covering the layout, rules, and etiquette. Many guests attend simply to socialise without participating in play, and the club's 4.6-star Google rating (33 reviews) reflects the consistently welcoming atmosphere. Membership is £20/year (arranged on first visit), with entry fees of £35 for couples and £40 for single males on weekends. Dress code is smart casual — no sportswear, team clothing, joggers, or hats permitted.

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Our Place 4 Fun

London, London

On-Premise Club

London's friendliest members-only swingers club featuring multiple themed play spaces, a dungeon, lounge bar and a no-pressure atmosphere. Hosting weekly events like Frisky Fridays and Butterfly Club nights with real energy and sexy vibes for all experience levels.

Chateau Royal

Bad Honnef, North Rhine-Westphalia

On-Premise Club

Chateau Royal is a couples-only club set in a historic 1903 villa deep in the forested Siebengebirge hills outside Bad Honnef — 870 square metres across three levels with capacity for 120 couples, making it one of the largest and highest-rated Pärchenclubs in North Rhine-Westphalia. Owner Stephan personally greets every guest at the door and gives first-timers a guided tour of the themed rooms, BDSM area with cage, waterbed room, cinema room, fireplace lounge, sauna, and covered outdoor terrace with its own cocktail bar. Two indoor bars serve drinks and cocktails all night, and the buffet — consistently described in reviews as restaurant-quality — is replenished late into the evening. Everything is included in admission: all food, all drinks, towels, and condoms. Cash only at the door, €10 key deposit for lockers. The club opens Fridays at 7 pm (until 3 am, couples €110, single women €40) and Saturdays at 7:30 pm (until 4 am, couples €120, single women €40), with JOYclub members saving roughly €10. Single men are not admitted — this is a strict couples-and-women-only policy, with the sole exception being Trio evenings on the last Friday of each month where one pre-vetted man may attend with a couple. Themed events rotate weekly: FKK naturist parties, Jung & Wild for younger guests, U50 nights, Ladies Night, Königinnen der Nacht, Schamloses Treiben, and masked Venetian galas, each with its own enforced dress code. Saturdays regularly hit waitlist status, so advance registration is strongly recommended. Dress code is strictly enforced — erotic clubwear, leather, latex, lingerie, and heels for women; fitted black clubwear, leather, mesh, or bondage pants for men. No jeans, street clothes, printed t-shirts, flip-flops, or dirty shoes under any circumstances. Phones and cameras are completely prohibited inside. The club holds a 4.9/5 rating across 3,509 JOYclub reviews with 7,909 fans and over a million profile visits, plus 4.7/5 on Google from 120 reviews — #1 of 7 clubs in Bad Honnef. Free parking with overflow shuttle and valet service, tucked into the valley near the colourful landmark chimney. The 10-year anniversary celebration runs May 23–25, 2026, including a Rhine boat cruise.

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Body Shop Pittsburgh

McKees Rocks, PA

Club

Tucked into an industrial pocket of McKees Rocks just minutes from downtown Pittsburgh, The Shop Social Lounge — better known in the lifestyle community as Body Shop Pittsburgh — occupies more than 15,000 square feet of reimagined space on McKee Street. The venue layers nightclub energy with a deliberate sense of community: a dance floor anchored by a vintage-car DJ booth and stripper pole, a heated outdoor patio, and a string of themed play rooms and dungeon spaces designed for guests at every comfort level. Friday and Saturday nights rotate through a calendar of themed events — Latin Heat, Lingerie Night, kink-focused Freaky Fridays with on-site STI testing, and BDSM education workshops. The club draws a notably younger and more LGBTQ+-forward crowd than most Pennsylvania lifestyle venues, and the inclusive ethos is structural: gender-neutral pricing, a vetted online membership process, and Safer Space Monitors present at every event keep the culture of enthusiastic consent woven into the room rather than posted on a wall. Membership begins with a free online application and photo verification; event tickets are purchased separately. The BYOB format — no liquor license, guests bring their own — keeps the atmosphere relaxed and the pricing accessible, with individual memberships starting at $29/month and couple tickets typically around $96 per event. Co-founded by Gelsomino Esplandiu and John Ross, the club holds a 4.8-star Google rating and a reputation for hands-on ownership and consistent cleanliness.

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Missouri Lifestyles Club

Sedalia, MO

Missouri Lifestyles Club is a private lifestyle club in Sedalia, MO welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

SNCTM

Beverly Hills, CA

On-Premise Club

SNCTM is an ultra-exclusive private members club founded in Beverly Hills in 2013 and now headquartered in New York, hosting events internationally. Evenings are structured as curated theatrical experiences — beginning as refined salons and progressing into immersive performances where guests may observe or participate. Membership is tiered (Aurum, Dominus, Deus), recording devices are strictly prohibited, and all attendees agree to confidentiality requirements.

The 1836 Club

Little Rock, AR

On-Premise Club

The 1836 Club is a private lifestyle club in Little Rock, AR welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

Club Red Door

Gastonia, NC

On-Premise Club

Club Red Door is a private adult lifestyle club located in Gastonia, North Carolina, near Charlotte off I-85. The venue features five themed rooms including a theater and dungeon space, with BYOB beer and wine permitted and doors open Friday and Saturday nights. Couples and single women are welcome; single men require prior approval via message.

MW Euphoria (Midwest Euphoria)

Shakopee, MN

Lifestyle Resort

MW Euphoria is a Midwest-based lifestyle event organizer and membership community billing itself as "The Midwest's Leading Lifestyle Party." The organization hosts and promotes hotel takeover parties and travel experiences including cruises and resort packages at clothing-optional adult destinations. Events are couples-focused and access requires a paid membership through their online platform.

Jay-Dees

Colmworth, Bedfordshire

On-Premise Club

Jay-Dees is a purpose-built, stylish swingers club on a secluded property on the Bedfordshire/Cambridgeshire border, near the A1. Facilities include a disco with pole, cinema and playrooms, dungeon area with original beams, hot tub, and sauna in a safe, no-pressure environment where guests can meet and mingle.

Pulse Lounge

Memphis, TN

Pulse Lounge is a private lifestyle club in Memphis, TN welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

FuseX Social Club - North Dakota Chapter

Fargo, ND

Social Club

FuseX Social Club's North Dakota Chapter serves the Fargo and Bismarck markets as part of a national private members' organization founded in Beverly Hills in 2016 and now operating across 23 states. The chapter has no permanent brick-and-mortar venue — consistent with FuseX's model nationwide — instead hosting events at rotating private locations including hotel takeovers, luxury house parties, and Level 1 and Level 2 mansion parties in the Fargo area and, for larger gatherings, in nearby Minneapolis. Larger signature events lean toward themed masquerade parties and curated cocktail dinners with choreographed erotic theatre performed by professional hosts who mingle with members during the evening. The club positions itself as an upscale, approval-only alternative to public lifestyle apps and open swingers venues. Membership is selective — only 1 in 4 applications is accepted — and every prospective member passes a criminal background check, a personal interview, and signs a lifetime confidentiality agreement. Events are BYOB, and event locations are disclosed to confirmed members roughly 30 days in advance via private inbox and phone. Fargo is explicitly listed as a host city on the application event-locations roster alongside Minneapolis. The lifestyle interests catered to span swinging, BDSM and kink, cuckolding, hotwifing, voyeurism and exhibitionism, polyamory, and interracial play. Membership tiers range from a Platinum tier ($3,500/year, couples and single men) through a Circle tier ($18,000/year) and an All Access Elite tier ($25,000/year); single women receive complimentary Platinum membership. Per-event costs are separately priced. Consent is strictly enforced: no means no, always ask before touching, only yes means yes.

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Black Diamonds Swinger Club

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Alexandria, VA

Event Organizer

Black Diamonds Swinger Club is a sex-positive lifestyle community rooted in Alexandria, Virginia, and operating across the broader DMV region — Washington DC, Maryland, and Northern Virginia. Founded as a space primarily targeted towards those of African American descent and other people of color, it occupies a rare and intentional niche in the DMV lifestyle scene, centering Black and POC attendees within a safe, consensual, and sane environment. The club's promotional partner is DNAKinks LLC, and its events are coordinated via a centralized Linktree that links out to ticketing, social media, and booking channels. Unlike a fixed brick-and-mortar venue, Black Diamonds operates as an event-based club, hosting parties at rotating or private locations across the DMV rather than from a single permanent address. This pop-up model keeps the community tight-knit and screened. The Instagram account (@blackdiamonds6219) maintains over 24,000 followers, while the Facebook page has accumulated more than 4,100 likes from the Alexandria and wider DC metro community. All booking and event discovery is handled through the Linktree hub (linktr.ee/BlackDiamondsSwingerClub) and associated social channels, with no walk-in or permanent physical storefront publicly listed.

Incognito

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Catoosa, OK

on-site club, private venue

Incognito sits in Catoosa, Oklahoma — just east of Tulsa along the I-44 corridor — operating as a fully on-site lifestyle club in a privately owned venue. The club is the Oklahoma arm of LS-Adventures, the operator behind Arkansas River Valley Couples (ARVC) in Fort Smith, Arkansas, giving it roots in an established multi-venue lifestyle network that spans the state line. Access is by prior arrangement only — no walk-ins. Prospective attendees connect via lifestyle platforms like SwingTowns before arriving. The private-venue format and lack of a public website underscore a deliberate emphasis on discretion that is characteristic of the LS-Adventures brand. The club welcomes swingers, fetish enthusiasts, and LGBTQ guests alike, positioning itself as inclusive across the full spectrum of the lifestyle community. Its on-site status means play happens within the venue itself, distinguishing it from ARVC's off-premise model across the border in Arkansas.

The Green Door

Las Vegas, NV

On-Premise Club

Occupying 18,000 square feet inside the Commercial Center strip mall on East Sahara Avenue, The Green Door has been a Las Vegas fixture since owner Joey Cavaretta opened the doors in 1998. The two-storey venue sits beneath an emerald-green sign about ten minutes from the Strip and operates as an adults-only sex club rather than a traditional swingers club, drawing a broad, international mix of couples and singles from all walks of life. The ground floor and upper level hold a maze of open play areas and themed rooms -- a dungeon, a doctors office, a jacuzzi room, a shadow-box room, a blue room and a voyeur room among them -- many fitted with glass walls or chain-link doors that invite watching but limit access. A couples-only section upstairs contains five small doorless rooms bounded by roughly six-foot walls, plus a two-way mirror viewing area; a separate couples-plus-one zone requires an escort invitation from the hosting couple. Multiple non-alcoholic bars are scattered across both floors, a game room and a chill lounge offer decompression space, and the dimly black-lit interior keeps the atmosphere more anonymous than performative. No cameras or recording devices are permitted inside, towels are freely available, and an all-male staff patrols the premises to enforce consent and house rules.

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PolyUrban Studios

Carmichael, CA

PolyUrban Studios is a home-based adult lifestyle space on North Avenue in Carmichael, California, run by owner Rey Bonilla and open to singles, couples, and polycules of all orientations. The venue operates as a donation-funded club with lockers, showers, a hot tub, beds, a sling, play benches, a massage table, a rimming chair, gloryholes, and an outdoor play area with a separate shower. Towels, condoms, and lube are provided, and fetish wear is welcomed. The weekly calendar runs seven days: Sunday through Thursday the doors open at 11:30 a.m. and close at 10 p.m., while Friday and Saturday sessions run from 2 p.m. to 2 a.m. Themed parties rotate through the week — Sunday gloryhole and gangbang sessions, Monday-through-Thursday afternoon playdates, a Wednesday evening afterparty, a Thursday couples night, Freaky Friday parties, and Saturday dance nights with a DJ and a full bar on select evenings. Membership contributions start at $25 per person, $40 for couples, and $60 for triads, with a $10 happy-hour rate between noon and 1 p.m. The atmosphere is explicitly pressure-free: no participation is required, and the posted house rules lead with No means no — ask for consent. Cameras and recording devices are banned, smoking is permitted outside only, and the doorman reserves the right to refuse entry. Guests must be 18 or older, and drugs and prostitution are strictly prohibited. Contact is by text or voicemail at (916) 410-6550.

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Alaska Club Kink (ACK)

Anchorage, AK

BDSM/Kink Community Club

Alaska Club Kink (ACK) is Anchorage's one-of-a-kind kink and comedy community club — the rare venue that pairs BDSM education with open-mic nights, karaoke, and stand-up comedy under one roof. Founded by Surge Kulikov after the closure of ACAL in 2019, ACK operates out of subSpace, a 2,000+ sq ft LGBTQIA2S+-friendly, veteran-owned event space at 2217 E. Tudor Road, Suite 3. The club is built around an education-first philosophy. Monthly Kink 101 classes welcome complete beginners, a companion educational website (alaskakinkeducation.com) provides a public library of kink resources, and Dungeon Monitors are present at all events to ensure safe, consensual play. The weekly schedule is packed: Mystery Munches every Thursday (7:30–9:30 PM at The Raven Bar, open to the public), Tuesday Rope Jams and board game nights at subSpace, Friday Open Dungeon (7–10 PM, $20 drop-in), and monthly themed play parties on Saturdays (7 PM–1 AM, $40 general / free for All Access members). Play parties are potluck-style — the club provides finger foods, desserts, and non-alcoholic drinks, and attendees can bring dishes to share. The venue is fully dry: no alcohol is served or permitted, which removes consent complications and makes the space accessible to those in recovery. The 1,000 sq ft open dungeon floor is equipped with a large suspension frame, St. Andrew's crosses, bondage horse, massage tables, and more — all available for member use. Membership is free to join online (processed within a few days), with a paid "All Access Pass" tier that waives event fees, eliminates equipment rental deposits, and grants 50% off play parties. Comedy, theater, and public events are also hosted at subSpace separately from the kink programming, normalizing the space within the broader Anchorage community. In a state where alternative lifestyle spaces are rare, ACK is the community hub.

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Syn in Tulsa

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Tulsa, OK

Syn in Tulsa is a female-focused lifestyle club founded in 2014 by Troy and Christy Hamilton and operates from a discreet suite at 5553 S Peoria Ave with the deliberate look of a regular office building. The entrance opens into a social area with bar-style seating, couches, a dance floor, a kitchen stocked with complimentary soda and water, unisex bathrooms, a selfie wall, cubby storage, and an outdoor smoking area. Behind that sits the main playroom with four beds, several couches, and a St Andrews cross, plus the Brat Realignment Center equipped with an obedience chair and spanking bench. Parties run Saturday nights only, doors at 8 pm and the party in full swing by 9 pm until 2 am. The venue operates a full-service bar and is not BYOL. Cover is $20 per couple, $40 for single males, and free for single women. All attendees must be 21+ and receive a bracelet at check-in. The club averages 100-200 guests per party with a wide range of ages, body types, and orientations. Owner Troy Hamilton built Syn around a safe place for women to fulfil their fantasies philosophy. Single males cannot enter the playrooms unless escorted by a couple or solo woman. A dedicated floor manager circulates the play areas. Solo women can arrange a staff escort from the parking lot. The club encourages regular STD testing and offers a $20 cover discount on presentation of a recent test receipt.

The Swirl Events

Seattle, WA

Event Organizer

The Swirl Events is a lifestyle and swingers events group serving the greater Seattle, Washington area, founded in 2021. A 2022 community profile described it as one of the Seattle area's first lifestyle groups owned and operated by people of color and allies, positioning itself as a culturally diverse, inclusive space within the regional non-monogamy and swinger scene. That same account placed the group's members-only venue in Kent, WA, describing a compact space with nine designated play spaces and a sex swing, alongside in-house programming such as karaoke nights, an erotic poetry open-mic, and kink-themed nights. Guests were encouraged to dress to impress rather than dress down, giving the space a glammed-up, party-first atmosphere alongside its play areas. Historically, parties ran on a biweekly Friday/Saturday schedule: Friday nights mixed members and non-members at a themed social before shifting to a members-only afterparty after midnight, while Saturdays ran as a members-only dance-and-play night. Membership was listed at $10 per month or $90 per year in a December 2025 snapshot of the group's own site. As of mid-2026 that site is no longer serving its normal content, so current hours, address, and pricing should be treated as historical until independently re-verified.

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Mile High Club Chalet (MHCC)

Denver, CO

Social Club

Mile High Club Chalet is not a swingers club in the traditional sense — it is a network of private, kink-friendly rental suites scattered across Denver, Glendale and Centennial, available by the time slot for couples or small groups who bring their own company. Founded in 2019 by Denver-area realtor Teresa Grasmick, MHCC grew out of a single Airbnb repurposed for daytime trysts and now spans four properties in quiet residential neighbourhoods, each tastefully furnished and stocked with condoms, towels, mouthwash and a riding crop, with a sex sling and dishwasher-safe toys available on request. Booking runs through the website or by phone (720-799-6654), with three daytime slots available Sunday through Saturday from 9 am to 10 pm, plus overnight "moonlight" sessions. Same-day reservations are accepted by phone. Access is keyless: guests text on the day of their appointment for a one-time door code, and a cleaning crew turns each unit over in roughly fifteen minutes between visits. Packages range from a single visit at $120 to a five-visit bundle at $400. The model is strictly BYOP — bring your own partner. MHCC does not facilitate introductions, provide companionship or operate communal play areas; it simply offers a discreet, well-equipped space and gets out of the way.

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Club Hedonism

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Pompano Beach, FL

Club Hedonism was, for decades, the oldest and longest-running swingers club in South Florida — a private, members-only, BYOB on-premise lifestyle nightclub tucked into a low-slung commercial strip at 1000 E Sample Rd in Pompano Beach. It kept a deliberately discreet, no-smoking, members-only door and ran Wednesday through Saturday from the evening into the early-morning hours, drawing a couples-and-singles crowd to its bar, lounge, dancefloor, locker room, and on-premise playrooms. During the COVID pandemic the venue was rebranded and remodeled under new management, reopening as Defy Lifestyle Club ("Club Defy"). The club's own Facebook announced it had "taken this opportunity during the Covid Pandemic to Rebrand and make some upgrades to one of South Florida's most historic lifestyle clubs," and the original clubhedonism.com address now greets visitors with "The oldest Swingers Club in South Florida has a NEW LOOK!" before forwarding them to the Defy site. As Defy, the same address still operates as South Florida's premier lifestyle club: a bar/lounge/dancefloor up front, a locker room, and a large open group playroom with beds plus several private playrooms off the main floor — including a multi-person shower in the play area. It remains BYOB (bartenders mix your own alcohol with provided mixers; tip the bartender), open Wednesday–Saturday roughly 9pm–4am, with couples, single women, and (on select nights) single men admitted. The Club Hedonism name is effectively retired; anyone searching for it today is pointed to Defy Lifestyle Club at the identical Pompano Beach location.

PLUR Productions / Studio PLUR

Vancouver, British Columbia

Event Organizer

PLUR Productions is a sex-positive event production company based in Vancouver, British Columbia, serving the LGBTQ+, swinger, kink, and burner communities under the ethos of peace, love, unity, and respect. Monthly themed events and bi-monthly meet-and-mingle nights are held at various venues, with clearly marked play areas, on-site consent staff called Cupids, and complimentary safer-sex supplies provided. Membership is required for entry; the club is open to all orientations and gender identities at identical admission rates for adults 19 and older.

YKW (You Know Where)

Fayetteville, NC

Lifestyle Resort

YKW (You Know Where) is a well-known lifestyle club in the Fayetteville, North Carolina area with over 40,000 registered members. The club is currently rebuilding at a new 27,000-square-foot location targeting a summer 2026 reopening, with hotel takeover events held in the interim.

colette New Orleans

New Orleans, LA

On-Premise Club

colette New Orleans is a private, membership-only, on-premise social club at 822 Gravier St in downtown New Orleans, for couples, single men, and single women who are active in or curious about the swinging, polyamorous, or open-relationship lifestyle. It operates under the wider colette clubs brand, which also runs locations in Dallas, Houston, and Austin, and describes itself as an upscale, European-style swingers venue. The venue spans more than 6,000 square feet across two floors: a main level with a dance floor, DJ, and lounge seating, and a second-floor lounge. The space includes lockers, a beverage cooler, and a non-smoking policy throughout. Alcohol is not sold on-site — the club is BYOB, with free mixers, ice, and setups provided (plastic and styrofoam coolers are not permitted at the door). Members range roughly from their twenties to sixties and skew professional, with staff and security on hand. colette is open Wednesday and Thursday from 9pm to 2am and Friday and Saturday from 9pm to 4am, closed Sunday through Tuesday. Membership is required for entry in addition to nightly door fees, with a one-night trial ($30), 3-month ($100), and annual ($200) plan available. Door pricing runs roughly $30–70 for couples, $10–20 for single women, and $100–120 for single men; single men are not admitted on Saturdays, which are reserved for couples and single women. Dress code calls for upscale, dress-to-impress attire (fetish, leather, and gothic wear welcome), photos are limited to designated photo-op areas, and entry is restricted to guests 21 and older.

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The Ecclesia

Glasgow, Scotland

On-Premise Club

Based in the heart of Merchant City in Glasgow, The Ecclesia strives to build a safe kink environment which overlaps with swinging. Born from the closure of Glasgow's historic dungeon, they exist to fill the void left by clubs shutting down across Scotland, providing a fantastic space that offers something for everyone.

Within Temptation

Torquay, Devon

On-Premise Club

Within Temptation is a swingers and fetish club in Torquay, Devon, celebrating freedom and exploration as more than just a club but a community. Facilities include a licensed bar, heated indoor pool, sauna, dungeon, gloryholes, orgy bed, pole lounge, and private rooms, with full disabled access to the lower grounds.

Monkey Business

Wickford, Essex

On-Premise Club

Monkey Business is a private members-only lifestyle party organisation in Wickford, Essex, inviting guests to step out of the vanilla and into a life full of erotic excitement. Events range from intimate gatherings to lavish parties with a bar, hot tub, heated pool, and newly refurbished social and play rooms.

colette Dallas

Dallas, TX

On-Premise Club

colette Dallas is the chain's high-energy Texas flagship — a private, members-only on-premise lifestyle club spanning 8,000+ square feet across two floors in northwest Dallas, near Love Field. The aesthetic is modern warehouse meets nightclub: a dance floor anchored by stripper poles and a stage, high-tech lighting and sound, and a curated upscale crowd that takes the dress code seriously. The Dallas Observer ranked colette first in its "Best Swingers Clubs Dallas" feature, and SwingerLifestyle.com puts it at #2 across all of Texas — the most prominent on-premise lifestyle venue in Dallas–Fort Worth. Play spaces are tiered three ways: semi-private rooms with sheer curtains, fully private rooms with blackout curtains, and a centerpiece group play room with a round bed and spectator seating. There's also an in-club movie theater showing adult films, a quieter second-floor lounge, and a VIP room rentable for private parties of up to 30 ($500–$1,000) — a perk Texas reviewers consistently call best in the state. The bar is BYOB — no liquor license, but free mixers, ice, and setups are provided, plus a beverage cooler for member use. Newbie Night runs every Wednesday with the membership fee waived for first-timers; staff give every newcomer a guided tour on arrival. colette is a national chain founded by John and Jackie Melfi (who also run the OpenLove101 lifestyle blog and podcast). The Dallas location opened in 2012 and connects into a 250,000+ member network across five cities — Dallas, Austin, Houston, New Orleans, and San Antonio. One membership works at all of them. Single men are welcome Wednesday through Friday; Saturdays are reserved for couples and single women only. Recurring themed nights include Pantiless Fridays, Thirty Dollar Thursday, and rotating fetish, lingerie, and costume parties — and i.Candy Parties hosts large monthly events at the venue throughout the year.

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Vault72

Plymouth, Devon

Off-Premise Club

Vault72 is Plymouth's premier alternative, LGBTQ+ friendly bar with a passion for kink, celebrating diversity and liberated alternative lifestyles. Founded by a group sharing a common interest in alternative and kink lifestyles, it offers swingers, kink, and social events in a safe, welcoming environment with a social bar area and well-equipped dungeon.

Minglers Social Club

Daytona Beach, FL

Social Club

Set inside 8,500 square feet on South Ridgewood Avenue, Minglers Social Club bills itself as Volusia County's largest private adult lifestyle club and Daytona's only members-only social club of its kind. The space is built to feel more upscale nightclub than back-room swap club: an exquisite dance floor with a state-of-the-art sound system and laser lighting, comfortable lounge seating and cosy couches, a pool table, and a magnificent juice bar for mixers since the club runs BYOB. Beyond the mingling floor sits a run of private and themed play-rooms with custom furniture, a dedicated fetish room stocked with amenities, public and private play areas, lockers, an outside lounge, and a separate outdoor smoking area. Entry is members-only - there's no walking in off the street without registering, and every guest must show photo ID at the door regardless of membership status. Single men are capped in number and must generally be sponsored by a couple, while couples and single ladies make up the bulk of the crowd; the club describes itself as accommodating all experience levels in a non-pressure, safe and sane DRAMA FREE environment. The dress code is strict 'Dress to Impress' - business casual to sexy dresses for ladies, collared or tailored shirts and dress pants for gents - with athletic wear, ball caps, cargo pants and backpacks explicitly barred, though guests are welcome to change into club attire on-site. House rules lean heavily on discretion and consent: no cell phones, cameras or recording devices anywhere on the premises, no drugs, no prostitution, and a 'no means no' policy enforced at every stage of an encounter. Groups of 30+ couples can book the whole venue for a private Thursday-night party with custom menu, theme and music, and the club also runs milestone packages for birthdays and anniversaries, complete with decorations, a themed cake and reserved seating.

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Orlando Swingers Club

Orlando, FL

Event Organizer

Orlando Swingers Club has been running lifestyle parties since April 20, 2000, and now operates as a mobile event host rather than a single fixed venue, staging its gatherings at rented clubs, resorts, and hotels around the Orlando area — most recently based out of 727 Conley St, with a move to the 32801 zip underway (unconfirmed). Party themes rotate through swingers nights, gang bangs, meet-and-greets, orgy and group-sex events, and BDSM sessions, alongside recurring BBC/BWC/BCC theme parties, giving the calendar a broader spread than a typical single-room club. The operation doubles as a lifestyle travel agency and promoter, cross-promoting other hosts' parties for free in exchange for an invite, and runs an affiliated adult store alongside the event side of the business.

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Tease Party Scottsdale

Scottsdale, AZ

Private, referral-only lifestyle party series in the Scottsdale area. Events vary by venue and theme, always offering a steamy, erotic vibe in a safe and respectful environment.

Tennessee Temptations

Johnson City, TN

Lifestyle Resort

Tennessee Temptations is a couples-focused lifestyle membership and ticketing platform based in Johnson City, Tennessee. The organization hosts private events and coordinates travel experiences including adult resort getaways and lifestyle cruises. Members can create profiles, purchase event tickets, and connect with others in the community through the online platform.

The Hellfire Club

Sunbury-on-Thames, Surrey

On-Premise Club

The Hellfire Club is a well-established lifestyle club in Sunbury-on-Thames, London, hosting swingers, fetish, and BDSM parties for discerning couples and limited singles since 2008. Facilities include 9 lockable playrooms, one of London's largest dungeons, a schoolhouse, grope maze, and elegant wood-paneled lounge areas with Chesterfield seating.

The Red Chair

Birmingham, AL

On-Premise Club

The Red Chair is a nonprofit BDSM and alternative lifestyle club and educational organization based in Birmingham, Alabama, serving the Central Alabama community. Established as Alabama's oldest organization of its kind, it operates as a 501(c) nonprofit and hosts educational seminars, classes, group discussions, and regular events. The club is inclusive of all sexual orientations and consensual relationship styles, and is a coalition partner of the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom.

The Idaho White Rose

Post Falls, ID

On-Premise Club

The Idaho White Rose is a house party-style swingers club located in Post Falls, Idaho, between Spokane and Coeur d'Alene. Monthly themed events run Saturday evenings from 8 PM to 1 AM, with past themes including Pajama Party, Leather and Lace, and Hawaiian Party. Membership is required for RSVP access, and the venue address is not published publicly — attendees must contact the club directly.

Club Labyrinth LA (Hollywood)

Hollywood, CA

On-Premise Club

Club Labyrinth LA is an on-premise swingers and kink club set in a private Hollywood building, welcoming couples, single women, and single men. The venue offers group playrooms, semi-private areas, lounge spaces, and a refreshment bar; condoms, lubricant, and towels are provided. The club operates BYOB with a one-bottle limit and, as of early 2025, is temporarily closed while relocating to a new location.

The Cottage Social Club

Orrtanna, PA

Social Club

Tucked into the rural Adams County countryside near Orrtanna, Pennsylvania — just a short drive from Historic Gettysburg — The Cottage has been running as an on-premise lifestyle club since 1981, making it one of the longest-established members-only swinger venues in the mid-Atlantic. The property at 1534 Old Route 30 has grown into a sprawling multi-room complex with a live-DJ dance floor, mirrored stage with stripper pole, two pool tables, a full BYOB bar with mixers provided, and a large hot tub area with towels supplied. The club runs themed parties including Cottage Invasion and DIVA Rouge events, with finger foods and soups on Fridays and a full hot-food and salad bar on Saturdays. The playspace includes a large group room, observation room, six single-play rooms, a BDSM room, and twelve private party rooms. Overnight stays span multiple VIP room categories, from a VIP Suite with king bed, private bathroom, balcony, and kitchen access, down through standard Club Rooms assigned after the party ends. Showers are on site; checkout is 11 AM. Membership tiers run from a $10 one-night temporary pass through annual rates to Gold ($450 couples, $600 single men) and Platinum ($900/$1,200, two years). Friday door fees are $51 for couples; Saturdays $71. Single women pay $15 both nights. The average member age is 30-55.

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Townhouse

Birkenhead, Merseyside

On-Premise Club

An established lifestyle venue on the Wirral hosting events for the swinging, BDSM and LGBTQ+ community for over 20 years. Known for setting the bar high with quality events and a welcoming atmosphere for brief encounters and lasting connections.

Eros Events

Seattle, WA

Event Organizer

Eros Events is a private, members-only, on-premise lifestyle group based in Redmond, Washington, operating continuously since early 2003 under its original name, Redmond Ranch. The club describes itself as an inclusive community that welcomes members regardless of race, gender, gender identity, or sexuality, and builds its culture around explicit, enthusiastic consent. Parties are held at a home-like retreat center set on several acres, combining a heated indoor pool and hot tub (swimwear optional) with a DJ-driven dance floor and brass pole, a voyeur room, and semi-private and open group play areas. Two detached cabins supplement the main house — a cozy, semi-private cabin with a loft and king beds, and a larger cabin used for bigger groups and light BDSM play. The property has recently been refreshed with a new roof, paint, carpet, and a renovated pool and hot tub. Evening parties run on Saturday nights roughly once a month (with occasional Fridays), 8pm to midnight with newcomer orientation at 7pm, while swim parties happen on Sundays one to two times a month from 1 to 5pm with orientation at noon. Entry requires annual membership ($30 per person, or $10 for a single-party pass) plus a per-party charge of $70 per couple or $40 per person, with identical rates for all singles since 2023; cash only. First-timers must complete an orientation and show valid state ID, and alcohol, marijuana, phones, and cameras are all prohibited on the property.

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Angel of Love

Roth, Bavaria

On-Premise Lifestyle Club

Angel of Love in Roth, Bavaria, is one of Germany's largest and most established lifestyle clubs, operating since the early 2000s in a sprawling 1,000–2,000 sqm venue near Nuremberg. Under new ownership since Spring 2025 (Jasmin & Markus Herrmann), the club has been freshly renovated and continues to operate from its original address at Gildestraße 15 in Roth. The venue features 13 individually themed rooms — including African-inspired, Egyptian, mirror, and dark-room areas — plus a dedicated dungeon/BDSM zone with St. Andrew's crosses, slings, a gynecological chair, and a suspension frame (Galgen). Additional facilities include a sauna, solarium, adult cinema, glory hole area, massage area, and a large dance floor. The on-site bar and kitchen serve drinks and food throughout the evening. Events run Thursday through Saturday with varying atmospheres: Thursday is more relaxed and affordable, Friday is intermediate, and Saturday is the flagship night with the strictest dress code and highest admission. Special events include Dark Intimacy (gothic atmosphere), Die Nacht der O (D/s and BDSM-themed), and Herrenüberschuss nights. The club has a strong community presence on JoyClub with a 4.9/5 rating from over 1,860 reviews and more than 5,000 followers, making it one of the most highly rated clubs in the German lifestyle scene. A dedicated first-visit (Erstbesuch) page on their website helps newcomers understand what to expect — the house philosophy is "Alles ist möglich, nichts ist Pflicht" (Everything is possible, nothing is required). Dress code is strictly enforced on Fridays and Saturdays: lingerie, erotic wear, or evening attire required; jeans and sneakers are not permitted. Changing facilities are available on-site. Single women pay the lowest entry; couples pay a moderate fee; single men pay a premium. All adults 18+ are welcome.

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My Secret House Party Club

Mesa, AZ

Off-Premise Club

My Secret House Party Club is an invitation-only private lifestyle event space in Mesa, Arizona, operating since 2006. Events are held in a private home setting and are open to couples and single women, with some events including single men. The host personally vets all guests and the format emphasizes discretion, consent, and a no-pressure environment.

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Club 101

Dayton, OH

On-Premise Club

Club 101 has been Dayton's oldest on-premise members-only lifestyle club for roughly 25 years, anchored at 101 Avondale Drive in a discreet building with private parking. The layout centres on a large open main room with a dance floor, DJ booth, pool table, and adult movie lounge with couches — the club takes evident pride in its DJ show, billing it as the best of any area lifestyle venue. Off the social floor, the space branches into five private rooms sized for one or two couples, two semi-private rooms with windows designed for optional exhibitionism, one large open group room, a slightly smaller group room with a mirrored wall, and a massage table room with BDSM possibilities. Showers, lockers, and a cooler for BYOB drinks round out the practical amenities, with free snacks and soda on hand throughout the night. The crowd skews toward mature, consenting adults — beginners and veterans alike — and the no-pressure ethos is reinforced at every level, from signage to staff. The club is active on Swingtowns, SDC, SLS, SZC, and Fetlife, and maintains a lively theme-party calendar (past events include a Denim & Diamonds Glowy Party and Pasties & Panties nights). In a public-health gesture, management partners with Shameless Care to offer members a free STI education course and supplies.

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Penthouse Playrooms

Dunstable, Bedfordshire

Penthouse Playrooms is an exclusive members-only swingers and fetish club in Dunstable, Bedfordshire, inspired by the hedonistic spirit of Studio 54. The luxurious venue features 12 communal play areas, 8 private lockable rooms, a BDSM dungeon, Jacuzzi, wet room, and a huge dancefloor accommodating over 300 guests.

Sugar Lounge

Denver, CO

Described as Denver's finest lifestyle club, Sugar Lounge is an open-minded venue hosting a wide range of events in a safe, clean, and friendly environment.

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Sea Mountain Inn Nude Resort & Spa

Desert Hot Springs, CA

Lifestyle Resort

Sea Mountain Inn is an adults-only clothing-optional lifestyle resort and spa in Desert Hot Springs, California, approximately ten minutes from Palm Springs International Airport. The property features 24-hour heated mineral water pools, whirlpools, a cedar sauna, spa and massage services, on-site dining, and guest rooms. The resort is open year-round and hosts regular themed lifestyle events for couples and singles.

Mon Chalet

Aurora, CO

Lifestyle Resort

Sitting behind an iron gate on East Colfax Avenue in Aurora — fifteen minutes from Denver International Airport — Mon Chalet is a 22-room adults-only fantasy motel that has been catering to lifestyle couples since the 1960s. Every suite wraps a king-sized bed in floor-to-ceiling mirrors and pipes twelve exclusive adult channels through a 4K TV; tiers run from Basic rooms with fireplaces and bubble lights up to Deluxe suites outfitted with in-room whirlpools, steam showers, the ceiling-hung 'Swing,' and the resort's signature sculptured 'Love Machine.' The decor leans unabashedly retro — think mirrored canopies, holographic glass panels etched with nudes, and moody LED lighting — but the rooms are well-maintained and unapologetically over the top. The main social hub is a heated, fully enclosed clothing-optional pool area housing a medium-sized pool, two hot tubs, and poolside lounging. Guests who book a suite have all-hours access; couples and single women can also purchase a standalone pool pass (daytime 11 am-4 pm for all; evenings 5 pm-5 am for couples and single women only — single men need a room at night). A colour-coded wristband system signals each guest's interests at a glance, keeping approaches low-pressure and consent front and centre. Reservations are made by phone only — no online booking engine — and a valid photo ID (driver's licence, passport, or state-issued ID) is required at check-in. Matinee stays run noon to 4 pm; overnight check-in is 6 pm with an 11 am check-out. Alcohol is permitted in the pool area in cans or plastic only — no glass. Cameras and phones are banned from the pool, and the gated property keeps the vibe secure and discreet despite the gritty stretch of Colfax outside.

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Night Pleasures

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Lombard, IL

Night Pleasures is a Chicago-area lifestyle club run by hosts Lloyd and Sharon out of a Lombard, IL mailing address, though the parties themselves are held off-premise at rotating partner venues rather than a fixed clubhouse. According to the club's own listing, events have been hosted at two locations: Couples Choice in Chicago and Private Affairs in Dekalb, giving members access to established on-premise spaces -- Private Affairs alone offers roughly 5,000 square feet with a bar, DJ and dance floor, social area, shower rooms, themed back playrooms and a jacuzzi. Night Pleasures bills itself as a club "of true lifestylers" catering to couples who want to be at "the very pinnacle of this lifestyle," and it is strictly couples-only, with no single men or single women admitted under its own banner. The schedule runs on a two-tier rhythm: Saturday parties are described as charged, high-energy affairs for more experienced lifestylers, while Sunday parties are pitched as more relaxed and better suited to couples new to the scene. Entry is by interview -- prospective members are asked to call ahead to be screened before attending -- which keeps the group curated rather than open to walk-ins.

The Sanctuary (Tabu Swingers Sanctuary)

Lansing, MI

The Sanctuary (Tabu Swingers Sanctuary) is a private lifestyle club in Lansing, MI welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

Sinners Den

Indio, CA

On-Premise Club

Sinners Den is an on-premise adult lifestyle club in Indio, California, featuring more than 15 play rooms, a fully equipped bondage dungeon, a heated saltwater pool, poolside cabanas, and a dance floor with pole dancing. The club is open Saturdays from 9 PM to 2 AM and welcomes adults 18 and over of all backgrounds and experience levels. On-site amenities include showers, towels, food, and drinks.

Wicked Grounds

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San Francisco, CA

BDSM Club

Wicked Grounds was a kink-friendly cafe, boutique, and education space located at 289 8th St in San Francisco's SoMa neighborhood, operating from September 2009 until the permanent closure of its brick-and-mortar location at the end of June 2023. Founded by Ryan Galiotto and Rose White and later owned by Mir Bilodeau (Miriam Green), it combined a coffeehouse and fetish boutique with an upstairs workshop space. Citing roughly $80,000 in debt and reduced foot traffic post-pandemic, the owner closed the physical venue in June 2023 and pivoted to an online-only model, now operating as Wicked Grounds Annex.

Saints & Sinners Philly

Philadelphia, PA

On-Premise Club

Saints & Sinners Philly operates two locations across the city - the original spot tucked behind an unmarked building on Emery Street in Port Richmond, entered through a back door and sitting in the shadow of I-95, and a second venue on Frankford Avenue in Northeast Philadelphia. The Emery Street location spans 6,000 sq ft across three floors: upstairs is the nightclub proper with a bar, dance floor, stripper pole, flat-screen TVs, and a food buffet; downstairs is a warren of private, semi-private, open, and group play areas with a full bar, lockers, and showers. The Frankford Avenue outpost has a 45-foot main bar, multiple bottle bars, a dance floor, pool tables, and VIP seating. The weekly calendar runs Friday and Saturday 9pm-3am, last entry 1am. Fridays go under the Fishnet Fridays banner. Monthly Newbie Nights welcome first-timers and regulars, and Kinky Karaoke Nights invite guests to bring their own bottles. Wed-Fri the door is open to couples, single ladies, and screened single men; Saturdays are couples and single women only. The crowd is diverse in age and experience with a vibe that leans more party-house than clinical sex club. Free parking sits across the street at Emery and right out front at Frankford.

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Thad's

San Diego, CA

On-Premise Club

Thad's is a private social club in San Diego that has operated since 1973, making it one of the longest-running lifestyle clubs in Southern California. The club hosts couples-focused events Thursday through Saturday and on select Sundays, with entry by invitation — prospective guests call a hostess to confirm availability. Themed events throughout the year include Ladies Night, Mardi Gras, and Valentine's Day gatherings.

Couples Playhouse In Paradise

Naperville, IL

On-Premise Club

Set on three wooded acres in Chicago's western suburbs, Max and Eva's Couples Playhouse in Paradise has been a cornerstone of the Midwest lifestyle scene for over thirty years. The lodge-style private residence trades neon for cathedral ceilings and bonfire pits, with nine play rooms spread across multiple floors, a dance floor with a pole, two bar areas (strictly BYOB -- the hosts supply soda and a full buffet), and an outdoor spread that includes two pools, a hot tub, a sand volleyball court, and a large sun deck. Saturday nights are the marquee event: themed costume parties that draw couples and single women from across the region, with gates opening at eight and locking at ten-thirty sharp. Summer adds daytime Sunday sessions built around the pools and volleyball court. First-timers phone ahead for a joint screening call with both partners present, and the exact address is shared only after approval -- a layer of discretion the club has maintained since its founding in 1996. The vibe leans social-first: a big living room under the vaulted ceiling doubles as a decompression zone, and house rules emphasize consent, sobriety, and arriving-and-leaving-as-a-couple. Phones are banned on the play-room floor, no glass is allowed near the pool, and the hosts are quick to enforce boundaries -- creating a space that feels more backyard gathering among friends than anonymous nightclub.