Event Organizers

Friction Carolina

Durham, NC

Event Organizer

Friction Carolina is a women-owned lifestyle hotel takeover event organizer operating in Raleigh and other cities across the country. Membership is screening-based, requiring all attendees to meet appearance and hygiene standards, with new single women accepted only by referral from established couple members. Monthly themed events run on a BYOB basis, and the organization also coordinates lifestyle travel and cruise packages.

Friction Parties

unverified

Washington (primary), also Philadelphia, Baltimore, Raleigh NC, NJ, OH, Multi-state (PA, DC, MD, VA, NC, NJ, OH)

Event Organizer

Friction Parties is a women-owned and operated event company founded more than 22 years ago by Lisa Friction, billed as the only nationally recognized hotel party brand in the United States. Operating across the East Coast — with events regularly held in the Washington DC/Maryland area, Philadelphia, New Jersey, North Carolina, and Ohio — Friction takes over entire hotels for the duration of each event, meaning every guest and room belongs exclusively to the lifestyle community. The organizing ethos is welcoming but selective: the crowd skews toward what organizers describe as attractive, well-groomed couples and single women, and all attendees are pre-screened before admission. Events run in two formats. Single-day events are typically held on Saturdays around themed holidays — Halloween, New Year’s Eve, Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day — with check-in from 2 PM and a ballroom dance party running from 9 PM to around 1:30 AM. Weekend two-day events add clothing-optional pool parties and afternoon activities. Ticket prices range from approximately $75–$150 per person; no refunds, only future-event credits. Membership on the platform lets members browse event attendee lists and connect with couples and single females year-round. Once the main dance party ends, the format shifts to an informal hall crawl on a designated party floor where room doors are propped open and guests host themed mini-parties until the early morning. The ballroom features a DJ, dance poles, cages, and themed décor matched to the night’s costume theme. Alcohol is available via full cash bar operated by the hotel; guests may not bring drinks from rooms to the party floor.

Allures Lifestyle

Sacramento, CA

Event Organizer (Hotel Takeover Parties)

Allures Lifestyle is Sacramento's longest-running lifestyle event organizer — a pop-up operation that descends on the DoubleTree by Hilton Sacramento's grand ballroom and transforms it into what the group bills as Northern California's premier swinger dance-play party. Operating under the tagline "the force of irresistible attraction," Allures has run monthly hotel parties for over a decade and draws couples from across the greater Sacramento area and beyond. The setup reads more nightclub than back-room affair: romantic candlelight, fog machines, sensual mood lighting, and two large projector screens broadcasting music videos accompany a state-of-the-art DJ spinning Old School, R&B, Hip Hop, Latin, Pop, EDM, and Classic Rock. The main ballroom floor centers on a full dance floor with a stripper pole and go-go stage, flanked by reserved VIP round tables (seating eight each) and 10-by-7-foot draped VIP cabanas — each fitted with a sofa, loveseat, and coffee table — right on the dance floor. Adjacent to the ballroom, the "Boom Boom Room" play suite provides multiple beds, a double-sided St. Andrew's Cross, a multi-positional sex horse, and a sex swing, staffed by Allures personnel throughout the evening. Guests in the play suite are asked to be in lingerie or less; voyeurs are welcome but may be asked to vacate if space is needed. Overnight sleeping rooms — standard rooms through two-bedroom suites — can be reserved in the Allures hotel block, placing guests on dedicated Allures floors and including a goodie bag at check-in. The event calendar runs to monthly themed hotel dances plus more intimate "Fantasy Fridays" at rotating venues, casual Meet & Greets at nightclubs and lifestyle bars, and an ambitious roster of destination programming: a clothing-optional takeover in Jaco, Costa Rica, Hedonism II Jamaica dates, Bliss and Desire cruise ship charters, Vegas weekends, Gold Country motorcycle runs, boating flotillas, and camping trips. The signature event is the annual New Year's Eve "SEXabration Ball," which drew national news coverage in January 2020 after nearly 1,000 guests filled the DoubleTree. All hotel events are 21+; a full cash bar is on-site.

Young Couples Party (YCP)

Chicago, IL

Event Organizer

Young Couples Party (YCP) is a members-only lifestyle club serving the Chicago suburbs, built specifically around a younger demographic: membership and event attendance are capped to ages 21-42, with the founders explicitly designing the club so that couples in their twenties aren't the only young faces in a room of much older swingers. Membership is open to couples and single women - no single men are admitted under any circumstances - and organizers say attendees run roughly 95% couples to 5% single females, with racial demographics that broadly mirror the Chicagoland area. The club runs two main venues: a recurring twice-monthly party at a private country estate in Chicago's western suburbs featuring 16 beds across 8 bedrooms, an indoor pool, a hot tub, and a dance floor (8pm-2am), plus outdoor pool parties in summer; and an annual (sometimes twice-yearly) full hotel takeover. In total, YCP runs over 30 in-person events and roughly 150 virtual events per year, including HIIT and yoga classes, trivia nights, and quarterly educator-led seminars. A signature feature is a structured speed-dating segment at each in-person event, where couples and single women rotate through 3-minute conversations at numbered stations to break the ice.

616

Grand Rapids, MI

Rotating hotel takeover event organizer - no fixed venue

Club 616 is a members-only lifestyle club serving West Michigan, running themed hotel-takeover events in Kalamazoo, Grand Rapids, and Newaygo. Current hosts took over in January 2012, building on a group dating to the 1990s. Membership welcomes couples, single ladies, and sponsored single gentlemen; the club calls itself BDSM, kink, and LGBTQ+ friendly. Joining requires an application, photo ID, and signed consent forms. Signature parties - Red Carpet NYE, Halloween, and a spring weekend - bring a dance floor, DJ, dance pole, light show, a pool party, and a VIP room with bench swings, a St. Andrew's cross, and a ladies-only bed. A recent Halloween filled a 182-room hotel, dress shifting by zone: lobby street clothes, g-strings/pasties minimum poolside, none in the VIP room. Entry is 21-and-up, reservation-only, ID checked at registration. Consent policy bars unwanted touching; cameras banned at events.

AfterDark Events

San Francisco, CA

Event Organizer (Pop-Up Play Parties)

AfterDark is a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled led org producing curated kink and alt-sex events across the SF Bay Area. Founded 2021 with 10+ years of ethical organizing, running signature parties like SPANK! Pop-ups at Stopgap in SoMa, 100-200 attendees. Each party has zones for socializing, dancing, kink play, and aftercare. Safer-sex supplies, food (vegan/GF/DF), and non-alcoholic drinks provided. Drug/alcohol-free, no phones, no photography, ID required. Consent-centered: dungeon monitors, house safeword, no breath play or open flame.

Carolina Friends

Charlotte, NC

Event Organizer

One of the longest-running lifestyle organizations in the Southeast, Carolina Friends traces its roots to 1991, when eight Charlotte-area couples pooled resources to throw a discreet monthly hotel party for roughly thirty pairs. Three decades and more than 40,000 couples on the roster later, the club now operates as a full hotel-takeover outfit, booking entire hotels exclusively for members in both the Charlotte metro and the Triad region around Greensboro and Winston-Salem. Charlotte events regularly draw 400-plus couples; Triad nights typically pull 150 or more. Each takeover follows a familiar rhythm: a live DJ and dance floor anchor the social side, while a full buffet, BYOB bar with provided mixers and bartender service, co-ed showers, towels, and lockers keep the logistics covered. Private activity areas, group rooms, and a voyeur/exhibition space make up the play options, and a late-night breakfast gathering caps the evening. During warmer months, pool parties are added to the rotation. Events run Friday and Saturday nights, generally 8 pm to 2 am, and most carry themed dress codes -- upscale and sexy for women, smart casual for men. Admission is couples-focused: single females are always welcome, single males are accepted at most events but capped to maintain balance. A free online profile with your legal name is required before you can purchase event tickets or the optional membership ($13.68/month), which unlocks private chat, passkey photos, and the AutoDate matchmaking feature on the member platform. The club has no public social-media presence; communication flows through the member site and listings on SLS, SDC, and Kasidie.

Private-home party series (off-premise, presumed defunct)

Club E'Lan ran for at least the better part of two decades as one of New England's longest-standing private swinger clubs, founded in 1994 and operated entirely on the old-school NASCA model — phone, mail, and a personal AOL email, with the actual party location never published online or anywhere else. The mailing address was a PO Box in Wakefield, Massachusetts; the parties themselves were held in "a private home located just 20 minutes north of Boston," with the address disclosed only to guests who had cleared screening. The organiser is publicly identified only by the email handle "ladi630@aol.com" — the "ladi" / "Lady" tag is the giveaway: the kind of female host-organiser whose name circulated in the North Shore lifestyle community by word of mouth and by call-back, never in print. The format was tight by design. Each party had a specific theme — the listing language emphasised that the themes were chosen "to fill the evening with fun and laughter, as well as help new couples feel welcome to the lifestyle." The room was hard-capped at 40 couples. A separate quota allowed only 5 single men per party, and only after a phone or mail screening; single women were always welcome with no cap. The minimum age was 25 — unusually high for a US lifestyle club, and a deliberate curation choice. Doors opened at 8pm and ran until 2am, reservations required, no walk-ins, ever. Beyond that, almost nothing about the operation was public. No pricing was ever printed. No dress code was published. No amenity list (no mention of hot tubs, playrooms, dungeons, DJs) ever surfaced — which is itself the story: the club was a curated couples-and-singles social by application, not a venue with a tour. By the time the current New England lifestyle scene started to be written about — Pagan Kennedy's 2008 Boston Magazine feature "Hooking Up with the Joneses" first put the suburban MA scene on the map; later guides documented Club SINZ in Salisbury, The Sterling in Waltham, Illuminaughty Boston, Boston Sex Club, and Club4Play's hotel takeovers — E'Lan had already faded out of the public footprint. Every modern Massachusetts-clubs roundup from 2020 onward omits E'Lan entirely. The phone, email and PO Box remain on file at the Close Encounters Club NASCA directory (the only public listing the club ever had), but appear functionally inactive: no business directory carries them, no social media exists, no website was ever built, no Wayback snapshots of clubelan.com or clubelan.net ever held E'Lan content. The club is presumed quietly wound down sometime in the 2010s, with no public closure announcement. Its market position — discreet, screened, North Shore couples-and-singles — is now held by The Sterling in Waltham (geographically nearest) and Club SINZ in Salisbury (the same North Shore audience), with Illuminaughty Boston covering the curated/by-application niche E'Lan once defined locally.

Friends Night Out (FNO)

Aurora, IL

Event Organizer

Friends Night Out (FNO) runs its parties out of a rented two-level space in Aurora, Illinois known to members as "The Barn" — 2,030 square feet on Jericho Road near I-88 and Orchard Road, styled like a warm pub with conversation couches, chairs and cocktail tables rather than a purpose-built club. It's a licensed, zoned business the group leases for select gatherings, with swinger activity upstairs treated much like private activity in a hotel room; the venue owner supports the lifestyle community and welcomes guests of all orientations and identities. The space holds up to 100 guests, with parking for roughly 50 cars, two restrooms, exterior security cameras and intruder-alert systems. FNO bills itself less as a sex club and more as a friendship club — "we believe in fostering friendships in and out of the bedroom" — and leadership runs games and activities designed to get couples talking rather than just pairing off. Regular parties are capped at 75–100 people to keep the house-party feel intact, with occasional hotel takeovers scaling up to around 300. All events are BYOB with mixers supplied, appetizers are provided, and themed dress is encouraged but optional — guests not in costume are simply asked to "dress to impress." Access runs through paid membership: attending is a donation that doubles as an FNO membership fee, entry requires a prior ticket order number, and the street address isn't released until checkout. New members are marked with a green wristband so regulars can welcome them. FNO does not supply condoms or lubricant for health and liability reasons, so guests bring their own; wipes are provided in the play area, and neither of the two bathrooms has a shower.

Lifestyle Playtime

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DeKalb, IL

Event Group / Hotel Takeover Organizer (no fixed venue)

Lifestyle Playtime is a Chicago-area lifestyle group based in DeKalb, IL that runs low-pressure monthly meet-and-greets alongside larger hotel takeover parties, rather than operating out of a single fixed venue. The format keeps overhead low and lets the group rotate between DeKalb and the wider Chicago suburbs depending on the event. Entry is vetted: single men must apply through the group's "Distinguished Gentlemen" screening process before attending, and all guests sign a liability waiver and show photo ID at check-in. Attendees wear an event wristband, and couples are expected to arrive and leave together, with house rules enforced by volunteer hosts rather than paid staff.

Club Chameleon

Flint, MI

House Party

Club Chameleon is a swingers house-party venue operating in the Flint, Michigan area, run by a self-described "empty nester" couple with 25 years in the lifestyle. The venue spans three and a half floors, with two bars, a dance floor, three private playrooms, a curtained "Peekaboo" room, a dedicated billiards room, and a St. Andrew's cross room stocked with paddles and floggers for sensual play. Outside, an enclosed, heated patio holds an eight-person hot tub open year-round, a second theme bar, a stripper pole, and a bonfire pit with seating. The club leans heavily into theme parties, held roughly once a month, complete with costume contests, prizes, and raffles, alongside icebreaker activities like cornhole, beer pong, foosball, and adult Jenga. Food is served buffet-style, usually tied to the party theme, while all parties are BYOB and BYOC (bring your own cup), and the venue is smoking- and 420-friendly. The organizers position Club Chameleon as newbie-friendly, promoting a "safe, non-pushy, no expectations" atmosphere, with a strict Single Male Expectations Policy available on request; overnight accommodations can reportedly be arranged for guests traveling long distances or planning to drink.

Illuminaughty Denver

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Denver launched in early 2025, selling out its first play party in the Mile High City, and now runs as a curated, application-only private members club for ethically non-monogamous couples and singles in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. Part of a national network spanning dozens of U.S. cities, it hosts a mix of Tease Cocktail Mixers at restaurants and bars alongside private play parties held at rented residences - anything from single-family houses to executive high-rises and country estates, each staffed with private security and dressed with intentional lighting, music, and decor. Membership is free but vetted: applicants are screened for fitness, self-awareness, and respectfulness, and once approved gain access to buy tickets and receive invites via the mobile app. Most private parties draw 40 to 80 members and run 8pm to 2am (or 2pm to midnight for All Day Soirees), with a strict arrival window, a consent-and-safety briefing before play begins, and a formal or themed dress code - cocktail attire or lingerie for women, suits for men, though some nights go casual (Neon, Pajama). No models, performers, or influencers are booked; every attendee is a vetted member.

Lifestyle Playground

Denver, CO

Event Organizer

Lifestyle Playground is a private lifestyle event organization based in Colorado, hosting events in Denver, Colorado Springs, and Thornton rather than operating from a single venue. The group runs a range of gatherings from casual coffee meetups to full hotel takeovers with themed rooms, alongside workshops on sexual wellness. Its community is inclusive of ENM, polyamory, swinging, LGBTQ+, and BDSM members, and access requires a membership application.

Dark Odyssey

Berkeley, CA

Event Organizer

Dark Odyssey is a roving event organization founded in 2003 by Greg, a former Black Rose board chairman, to fuse sexuality, spirituality, education, and play under one roof. Rather than operating a fixed venue, it commandeers hotels and private rural retreats for four distinct annual events: Winter Fire, a luxury hotel takeover in Baltimore running a full President's Day weekend; Fusion, a six-day summer camp in Northern Maryland on a 200-acre private facility with 40 cabins and 400 beds; Summer Camp, a Labor Day week-long gathering at the same Northern Maryland retreat; and Surrender, a pre-Halloween hotel convention in the San Jose Bay Area. Sold-out attendance at Winter Fire has reached 1,400 people. Each event follows the same architecture: days packed with 80-plus workshops spanning BDSM technique, polyamory, Tantra, sacred sexuality, and spiritual practice, taught by national educators; nights given over to fully equipped dungeons, the Sex-O-Rama open playspace (supplied with beds, lube, condoms, and gloves around the clock), and themed parties running until 2–3am. The rural camp events add outdoor suspension rigs, a tennis-court playspace with weather-resistant equipment, a Pavilion for mixers and open play, and a Temple space for ritual and sacred play. Fire spin jams, drumming circles, a Kinky State Fair, and a Saturday night show round out the program. The community self-describes as a melting pot of kinksters, queers, swingers, spiritualists, Pagans, polyamorists, and cross-dressers — pansexual, omnisexual, and explicitly welcoming to all gender identities. Attendee-created ION events let the community add its own workshops and parties to each schedule. A dedicated Incident Response Team (IRT) staffs a help desk at every event to handle consent matters in private.

Shrine Austin

Austin, TX

Event Organizer

Shrine is a monthly BDSM, fetish, and alternative-lifestyle party held on a Sunday evening at colette Austin, a 7,000–9,000 sq ft swingers club at 13800 Dragline Dr. Run by a coalition of Austin-area kink organizations, Shrine bills itself as a sex-positive space that blends a dungeon and nightclub atmosphere, welcoming swingers, kinksters, voyeurs, LGBTQIA+ attendees, and polyamorous folks alike. The venue supplies multiple beds, St. Andrew's crosses, spanking benches, hard points, wrestling mats, stripper poles, a non-alcoholic beverage bar, small lockers, and a smoking-permitted outdoor social area, plus a massage table set aside for fire and medical play. Doors run 6:30pm to 1am (2am on Memorial Day and Labor Day weekends), with check-in closing an hour before close. Entry requires a valid state or federal ID (18+), a free temporary colette-club membership, and a signed waiver; cover is $25 at the door or discounted online. There's no fixed dress code — fetish wear and leather are encouraged, and nudity is fine once inside — but attendees must be street-legal en route, and new attendees take a walkthrough with a Front of House Tour Guide before diving in. House rules lean heavily toward consent and safety: the event safe word is RED, all scenes require enthusiastic consent, and Dungeon Monitors in colored vests patrol to enforce boundaries. The party is explicitly dry — no alcohol or drugs are permitted anywhere on the premises — and phones, cameras, and recording devices are banned inside the club except in designated photography areas.

The O Zone

Toronto, Ontario

Event Organizer

The O Zone is a private lifestyle club in Toronto, Ontario welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

private house party

Club Moist is a private lifestyle house-party series run out of the organizers' personal home in the Manchester, New Hampshire area. The events draw between 20 and 30 screened couples and guests per night, keeping the crowd intimate and intentionally matched — typical age range spans the early thirties to early fifties, with a strong emphasis on couples compatibility over sheer numbers. The hosts pride themselves on a modern, clean home atmosphere that feels nothing like a commercial venue: there's dancing and mood lighting in the main social space, a hot tub open under the stars, snacks and shared mixers, and a genuinely welcoming vibe that regulars describe in their SLS certifications as safe, social, and easy to mingle at. The play layout spans three distinct zones. The main floor holds an open-plan play area with several beds and a sex swing; a lower-level Exploration Den offers a more contained and private environment, including a closeable private bedroom; and the outdoor Island Time pavilion extends the action outside when weather allows. The pink-sheet beds are women-only until 10:30pm, after which the full floor opens to all. Hot tub play is encouraged (with a 6-person cap and a no-sex-in-the-water rule given neighbor sightlines), and discreet outdoor fun in the pavilion area is welcomed. Events are invitation-only and coordinated via SLS (profile: funlaughz). Once invited, an Evite with the confirmed attendee list is sent ahead of the party. Parties run from 8pm to 1am. The crowd skews straight and bi-female: single men are not admitted. Newcomers to the lifestyle are actively encouraged to arrive early, and the hosts make a point of walking first-timers through the space and the social flow of the evening.

Big Mamas Haus

Crimmitschau, Saxony

BDSM & Fetish Event Venue

BMH Event-Club — formerly known as Big Mama's Haus — is a sprawling BDSM, fetish, and swinger event location in the heart of Germany, housed in a converted warehouse in Crimmitschau's industrial quarter. Founded in 2006 by Irmgard Pruka (the original "Big Mama"), the venue combines two worlds under one roof: a ground floor with spacious swinger lounges, sauna, and a cinema room, and an upper floor featuring 11 exclusive SM playrooms with serious equipment — rotating cross, slave elevator, pillory, ball cage, prison cell, and two medieval torture chambers — plus a stylish bar and event space. Rather than opening every weekend like a traditional club, BMH operates as a curated event venue — hosting 2–4 themed productions per month from independent organizers and its own team. Events range from latex passion nights and BDSM play parties to Gorean fantasy workshops and grand slave auctions. Entry typically runs 50–85 EUR per person and almost always includes a full buffet and drinks. An adjacent warehouse and 6,000 sqm outdoor grounds handle the mega-events, with overnight rooms available from 30 EUR. Cash only. Rated 4.8/5 on JoyClub from over 250 reviews with nearly 270,000 total visitors, BMH draws guests from across Germany and Europe. Reviewers consistently praise the cleanliness, friendly staff, excellent food, and the care that's gone into making every room unique. The house motto says it all: "We are everything, just not boring."

Mindbender Parties

Boston, MA

Event Organizer

Mindbender Parties is New England's most traveled adult lifestyle event series, the brainchild of Mizzy Bender — a self-described 41-year-old female entrepreneur who launched the operation with her partner Spencer and has since grown it into one of the region's most recognizable swinger brands. Events rotate across partner venues: most frequently Platforms Dance Club at 165 Poe St, Providence, RI, a proper nightclub with a full bar, dance floor, and purpose-built dungeon. The Electricity Social Club (ESC) in Providence's Olneyville neighborhood hosts BYOB multi-room events with seven themed playrooms; summer months bring a private Long Island property with an eight-person hot tub, outdoor shower, and fire pit — location released to guests after payment. The calendar runs year-round under recurring titles — Candyland, Back to School, Boo (eighth annual run), Naughty in Neon, Shamrocks & Shenanigans, Nuttin for XXXmas, and more — on a roughly monthly rhythm, with occasional multi-day hotel-takeover weekends. Pricing is tiered: couples typically pay $70–$80, single ladies $20–$30, and single males $110–$120. Tickets are advance-purchase only via the website. Every event is professionally produced under the Mindbender Productions banner — DJ, lighting, full staging — with onsite security whose priority is guest safety and comfort. Mizzy's Boutique, a traveling pop-up adult retail shop, vends at every event alongside sponsors One Condoms, Spunk Lube, Naughty Indulgence, and SDC. Play spaces include open group areas, private rooms, and dungeon setups. The Instagram presence (76K followers) and the companion podcast Mornings with Mizzy reflect a community-building mission well beyond the door — educational content, judgment-free conversation, and a genuine inclusive ethos baked into the Mindbender brand.

Saints & Sinners AC

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Atlantic City, NJ

Event Organizer

Saints & Sinners AC anchors the Diving Horse entertainment complex at 18 S. Dr. Martin Luther King Blvd, a sprawling 55,000-square-foot multi-use building in Atlantic City. Guests enter discreetly from the back of the Diving Horse complex rather than the main boulevard-facing door — a deliberate design choice that sets the tone for the whole experience. Inside, four floors hold an impressive inventory of spaces: 15 open, air-conditioned play rooms, additional private and semi-private rooms, 11 showers, 2 BYOB bars stocked with mixers, 2 dance floors fitted with stripper poles, an outdoor heated pool, an outdoor deck, and a food buffet that runs through the night. Erotic movies play throughout the venue to set the mood. The club pitches itself as a new-age, modern lifestyle destination rather than a classic swinger haunt, and the crowd — primarily couples in their late twenties to late forties — dresses to match. Women tend toward fitted dresses; men wear button-up shirts and jeans. Saturday theme nights are a recurring feature, with prizes and costumed dress codes announced in advance. The adjacent Diving Horse Inn (30 rooms, many with jacuzzi tubs and balconies overlooking the deck and pool) lets members extend the evening without leaving the building, while the neighboring Diving Horse Cabaret and Luxx Lounge nightclub round out the complex. Doors open Fridays and Saturdays from 9 pm, with Fridays running to 3 am and Saturdays to 4-5 am. The club is closed Sunday through Thursday.

Valentines in Niagara (VIN)

Niagara Falls, Ontario

Event Organizer

Valentines in Niagara is an annual adults lifestyle convention held in February in Niagara Falls, Ontario, marketed as Canada's largest swingers convention. The multi-night hotel takeover event features themed parties, pool events, workshops on intimacy, burlesque entertainment, and designated play areas. Running since 2007, the event consistently sells out and draws attendees from across Canada and the United States.

Illuminaughty Portland

Portland, OR

Event Organizer

Illuminaughty Portland is the local chapter of a national members-only lifestyle events network, hosting curated cocktail mixers and private play parties for couples and singles since 2023. Rather than operating out of a fixed clubhouse, the group rents out private residences around the Portland metro for each event — past parties have used a hillside home in the Goose Hollow Hills with skyline views, while cocktail mixers have taken place at bars and restaurants in neighborhoods like SE Buckman. The community skews toward couples and singles in their 20s, 30s and early 40s, and membership is free but requires an application; organizers describe the vetting process as intentional curation meant to keep the group welcoming, low-pressure and free of hired performers or influencers. Events fall into two main formats. Tease Cocktail Mixers are lower-key social gatherings held in a reserved area of a local bar or restaurant, typically running a couple of hours and used as a low-commitment way to meet other members before attending a party. Private parties, such as the recurring City Nights events, are held overnight at rented houses or upscale properties featuring multiple play spaces, massage tables, mood lighting and music, and sometimes amenities like a hot tub; venues are rated on the site using a sliding "Venue Vibe" and capacity scale, with most parties drawing roughly 30 to 100-plus members. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, non-alcoholic drinks, cups and champagne flutes supplied by the hosts, and the group's own security staff checks tickets and IDs at the door. Parties generally run Saturday nights from about 8pm to 2am with a strict arrival window (doors close roughly 90 minutes after opening for a mandatory rules-and-consent orientation), while mixers run shorter early-evening slots. Admission is ticketed and restricted to couples, single women, non-binary attendees, and a limited, gender-balanced number of vetted single men; the exact address of each rented venue is withheld until the morning of the event and sent only to confirmed ticket holders. Dress codes are enforced per event, generally cocktail attire or suits for larger parties and classy-casual for mixers, and refunds are typically available up to a matter of days before an event, minus a processing fee.

TABOTA Monster Bash

Niagara Falls, Ontario

Event Organizer

TABOTA Monster Bash is an annual Halloween-themed adult lifestyle hotel takeover held in Niagara Falls, Ontario, typically in late October. The event spans a fully secured hotel venue with multiple themed play spaces including a Voodoo Lounge, Kinky Playroom, and Kink Garden, alongside live DJ performances, a costume fashion show, and a clothing-optional waterpark area. Attendance requires registration; a Halloween or themed costume dress code is enforced, and the event is 19 and over.

Monde Ose

Toronto, Ontario

Event Organizer

Monde Ose is a Montreal-based lifestyle brand and event organizer producing theatrical erotic entertainment events, most notably the Royal Burlesque Ball held at venues such as Theatre Rialto. Events feature local and international burlesque performers in an upscale, glamour-focused setting with a mandatory dress code and explicit consent guidelines for attendees. The organization also offers membership programs and a curated online community in both English and French.

Joyride

London, London

Event Organizer

A queer, sex-positive event series in London blending rave culture, art and sexual expression. The dancefloor is a liberatory space embodying freedom, pleasure and experimentation, with a genre-blurring mix from uplifting house to techno.

Lifeinstyle STL

St. Louis, MO

Event Organizer

Lifeinstyle is a lifestyle entertainment company in St. Louis, Missouri, hosting swinger events and themed parties throughout the year. The group organizes gatherings ranging from intimate social events to their annual National Swinger Week celebration. Open to couples and open-minded adults.

Richmond Rondezvouz

Richmond, VA

Event Organizer

Richmond Rondezvouz is a lifestyle event organizer based in Richmond, Virginia, hosting swinger parties at least twice a month as well as themed events. The group welcomes couples and singles, with a separate set of rules for single attendees. Events are listed on the website and members connect through the SwingLifestyle platform.

Event Organizer

Riposte is a boundary-breaking queer rave in London, mixing techno with art across multi-room venues featuring over 20 performers, immersive theatre, and roaming performances. A vibrant celebration of unapologetic self-love and the diverse expressions of the queer community in a sex-positive play space.

Event Organizer

Kinky Campers Canada is a kink-friendly outdoor retreat and campground experience in New Brunswick. The venue brings together the camping and alternative lifestyle communities for immersive nature-based gatherings.

The Playground RI

Providence, RI

Private House Party

The Playground RI is a weekly lifestyle house party run out of a converted three-family home in Providence's Oakland Avenue Historic District, operated by hosts Eddy and Viv Badd of BBadd Entertainment. Spread across four floors and roughly 4,000 square feet, the venue mixes themed social spaces with dedicated play areas: the ground floor opens with a meet-and-greet lounge alongside a Wild West room, a Pirate room, and a kink-themed Red Room. The second floor holds a dance floor with a stripper pole and four more playrooms. The third floor is towel-and-robe only, with two private rooms, a glory hole, and an open group play area; the dungeon is fully equipped with two sex swings, a massage table, a Sybian, and a doctor's office with two exam tables. Saturday nights (8 pm-2 am) are the main weekly event, open to couples, single women, and a limited number of single men (21+), with the host managing ratios carefully. Friday Fusion nights run the same hours but tilt toward BDSM and kink and are open to all genders. The hosts personally tour first-timers through the space, answer questions, and make guests feel at home; reviewers consistently describe the atmosphere as friendly and community-driven rather than nightclub-cold. All parties are BYOB, with ice, refrigerators, snacks, sodas, and water provided at no charge. Every room is stocked with condoms, lube, and clean sheets. Lockers are available on the third floor. The venue is 420-friendly outdoors. Attendance is RSVP-only — no walk-ins; the full address is shared only upon booking confirmation.

Escapades New England

Providence, RI

Event Organizer

Escapades New England is a Providence-based lifestyle event group that has built a loyal following across Rhode Island and Massachusetts since its founding. Rather than operating a fixed club, the organizers take over Platforms Dance Club — a nightclub at 165 Poe St in Providence — for recurring themed parties, blending a nightclub energy with on-site play spaces including an open play area and a dungeon setup within the venue. The calendar runs on two tiers: regular takeover parties throughout the year, priced at $60–80 per couple (never more), and two flagship annual events that draw attendees from across New England. The Annual Midsummer Nights’ Wet Dream Foam Party, held at the end of July, is billed as the largest summer lifestyle event in New England and described by the organizers as a ‘Hedo-style’ party. The Erotic Masquerade Ball follows every September or October. Events are listed and ticketed through the SLS, SDC, and SwingTowns platforms. The organizers emphasize a newcomer-friendly atmosphere, noting they actively work to make first-timers feel at ease — a philosophy shaped by their own experience attending their first party. The ethos is summed up on their site as ‘confidence, class, and respect.’ Payment is accepted as cash or Venmo at the door, and attendees must present a verified screen name from one of the partner lifestyle platforms.

Hungry Cat Promotions

Belfast, Northern Ireland

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Belfast-based events company offering the boldest social events for open-minded souls. Hungry Cat Promotions invites you to connect, explore and indulge in unforgettable, sex-positive nights with style and intention, welcoming straight, bi, gay, trans, swingers, kinksters and poly folk alike.

Camelot Social Club

Charlotte, NC

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Camelot Social Club is a Charlotte, North Carolina lifestyle organization built around monthly hotel-takeover parties rather than a fixed clubhouse. Founded to bring the swinging lifestyle "back stronger than ever" to the Charlotte area, the group holds affordable, safe, and controlled parties where couples and like-minded singles can dress as sexy as they want and socialize freely. Events rotate through area hotels and venues — recent parties have included takeovers at properties like the Comfort Inn in Kings Mountain, NC — with themed nights such as the "Erotic Summer Luau," a tropical-attire party pairing a room block with an evening of lifestyle socializing. The club's long-term goal is to establish a permanent, on-premises venue that members can call home; in the meantime, it relies on turnout and word-of-mouth at its monthly events to build toward that goal. Entry to events requires a signed liability waiver on file for every attendee, completed once via an online SmartWaiver form before a person's first party, and tickets are typically sold in advance online. Camelot Social Club maintains an active web presence with a running events calendar, a news/updates section, and a links/deals page for partner venues and discounts. The organization is reachable by email and Instagram rather than a listed phone line, and communicates event logistics — including hotel booking links and room blocks — directly through individual event pages on its site.

IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG)

New York, NY

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IntimatePartiesGroup (IPG) is a Northeast-based lifestyle event production outfit run by couple-hosts Maddy and Joe, drawing on a roster of experienced DJs, performers, comics, and venue operators whose sensibility blends Brazilian, Latin, Caribbean, and American swinger culture. Rather than maintaining a fixed club, IPG takes over entire hotels -- typically in Scranton, PA, conveniently off Highway 81 -- for full two-day weekends, regularly drawing 150-200 couples per event. Hotel room blocks are negotiated at roughly $119-139 per night with a two-night minimum, and the hotel staff are described as extremely lifestyle friendly. The all-day format means guests checking in Friday afternoon have access to the heated indoor pool and surrounding amenities well before the night main events begin. Each event weekend follows a structured rhythm. Friday evening opens with naughty trivia (6:30-7:45 PM), a meet-and-greet, then a DJ dance party running to midnight, followed by a pool party until 2-3 AM. Saturday layers on afternoon speed dating, kink demos, poolside games, and Swingo (a bingo variant), before a pre-party gathering at 6 PM and a main event -- typically a comedy show or costumed contest -- at 8:45 PM sharp, with themed playrooms and a potluck after-party floor-crawl from midnight onward, closing with a pool-and-desserts wind-down at 4 AM. The crowd skews friendly and repeating; reviews consistently flag the hosts personal floor presence and the unusually respectful atmosphere among attendees. Preference bracelets issued at check-in (green: full swap; yellow: soft swap; purple: tame; red: bisexual) take the guesswork out of navigation. IPG also co-hosts at external venues, including a recurring bi/lingerie night at The Kink Lair, and an annual Pride Fest kink/fetish hotel takeover.

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Happy Hedonist is a private lifestyle club in Mississauga, Ontario welcoming couples and open-minded adults. The venue provides a comfortable, discreet setting for socializing and intimate encounters.

Illuminaughty Albuquerque

Albuquerque, NM

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Illuminaughty Albuquerque is a membership-based lifestyle event organizer that hosts exclusive cocktail mixers and private swinger parties in Albuquerque, New Mexico. It operates as part of the national Illuminaughty network, which runs events across more than 40 U.S. cities. Attendance requires an approved membership application, and members gain access to a referral program and a dedicated mobile app.

Killing Kittens

London, London

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A global brand celebrating 20 years of female sexual empowerment through exclusive parties and unforgettable hedonistic experiences. Women — known as Kittens — are firmly in control, challenging gender stereotypes in a safe, consent-first environment.

Illuminaughty Seattle

Seattle, WA

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Illuminaughty Seattle is the local chapter of Illuminaughty, a national curated lifestyle brand that has hosted private swinger parties and cocktail mixers since 2022. Rather than operating from a fixed clubhouse, it runs monthly events for the Seattle and Tacoma area, drawing an ethically non-monogamous crowd of couples and singles roughly in their 20s, 30s and 40s. Attendance is restricted to approved members: applicants submit photos and a written application, and there is no membership fee, though not everyone is accepted. Events fall into two formats. Tease Cocktail Mixers are held in reserved sections of local bars or restaurants as a low-key way for members to meet. Private parties — the core of the brand — take place at rented private residences ranging from houses to high-rise apartments to larger estates, decorated and lit to set an intentional mood, typically hosting 40 to 80 members with professional security on site. Rooms are set up for a range of experiences, from massage tables and group-play spaces to light bondage or kink setups, though kink is described as a secondary element rather than the main focus. Most night parties run from around 8pm to 2am, with an arrival window (roughly 8:00–9:30pm) after which doors close for a mandatory opening talk on consent and house rules; latecomers are turned away. Parties are BYOB, with mixers and non-alcoholic drinks supplied, and towels, wipes, condoms, lube and massage oil provided. Each event has a set dress theme that members are expected to follow. Tickets and the private venue address are released only to approved, logged-in ticket holders, with the exact location shared on the day of the event.

X Club Winnipeg

Winnipeg, Manitoba

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X Club Winnipeg is an adult lifestyle and social club spanning over 10,000 square feet across three floors at its Winnipeg, Manitoba location. The facility includes multiple play rooms, a hot tub room, sauna, steam room, and a range of locker and private room rentals priced per visit. Annual membership is available for couples and solo members and provides room reservations, event discounts, and reduced room rates.

Stopgap

San Francisco, CA

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Opened in April 2024 inside the SoMa building that once housed the SF Citadel, Stopgap is a turnkey kink venue that bridges San Francisco's leather history with its present-day scene. The fully accessible ground floor holds social areas, lockers, two bathrooms, and open play spaces fitted with hardpoints, while a staircase descends to a 3,100-square-foot basement dungeon stocked with equipment recovered from the Citadel's collection alongside newer pieces -- crosses, benches, tables, bondage chairs, cages, and at least 20 suspension hardpoints with floor mats for rope work. The venue is run by the AfterDark Events team, a POC, femme, queer, neurodivergent, and disabled-led organisation, and doubles as a rental space for third-party producers. Stopgap's own flagship is House Party, an inclusive open-play night held on the first Friday of every month, alongside weekly open-dungeon sessions, the Wrapt rope jam on fourth Mondays, Society of Janus play parties on second Saturdays, and rotating themed events such as Board Games & Bondage.

Arouse Vegas

Las Vegas, NV

Private Event Series

Arouse Vegas operates as a members-only adult lifestyle club in Las Vegas, billing itself as 'Private Las Vegas Special Events.' The exact venue is an upscale building disclosed only to ticketed members; arriving guests text or call from the lobby and are escorted up — a deliberate layer of discretion that sets the tone for the whole operation. On-premise play is permitted under Nevada law, and the club situates itself on the more curated end of the Vegas lifestyle spectrum, requiring a photo-and-essay application from anyone wishing to join. Membership is open to couples, single ladies, and single men, though single ladies occupy a place of particular emphasis in the club's community standards — stalking or harassment of solo female guests carries the threat of membership suspension. The application process requires 2–6 high-resolution photos (lingerie and smart-casual shots preferred; heavy filters and cartoon overlays explicitly discouraged) plus a written 'About us' introduction. Accepted applicants are notified by email. Social networking integration runs through the Modern Lifestyle platform, with Arouse Vegas cross-listed on SDC, Kasidie, and SwingLifeStyle for member discovery. Event details, ticketing, and the venue address all sit behind the member login — walk-in access or public-facing schedules are not offered.

Nightshade Halifax

Halifax, Nova Scotia

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Nightshade Halifax is a kink-themed costume party event series operating in downtown Halifax, Nova Scotia, since February 2013. Events feature DJ-driven dance music, a BDSM play area with bondage furniture overseen by trained dungeon monitors, and professional photography. Costumes are encouraged but not required, and personal cameras are prohibited; the series is open to all types of adults, including those new to alternative lifestyles.

Illuminaughty LA

Los Angeles, CA

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Illuminaughty LA is a members-only lifestyle event organizer operating in the Los Angeles area since 2022, hosting private swinger parties in luxury estates and upscale private residences. Events span Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Bel Air, and surrounding areas, with membership required through an application process. The club is part of the national Illuminaughty network operating in over 40 U.S. cities.

Black Diamonds Swinger Club

unverified

Alexandria, VA

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Black Diamonds Swinger Club is a sex-positive lifestyle community rooted in Alexandria, Virginia, and operating across the broader DMV region — Washington DC, Maryland, and Northern Virginia. Founded as a space primarily targeted towards those of African American descent and other people of color, it occupies a rare and intentional niche in the DMV lifestyle scene, centering Black and POC attendees within a safe, consensual, and sane environment. The club's promotional partner is DNAKinks LLC, and its events are coordinated via a centralized Linktree that links out to ticketing, social media, and booking channels. Unlike a fixed brick-and-mortar venue, Black Diamonds operates as an event-based club, hosting parties at rotating or private locations across the DMV rather than from a single permanent address. This pop-up model keeps the community tight-knit and screened. The Instagram account (@blackdiamonds6219) maintains over 24,000 followers, while the Facebook page has accumulated more than 4,100 likes from the Alexandria and wider DC metro community. All booking and event discovery is handled through the Linktree hub (linktr.ee/BlackDiamondsSwingerClub) and associated social channels, with no walk-in or permanent physical storefront publicly listed.

The Swirl Events

Seattle, WA

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The Swirl Events is a lifestyle and swingers events group serving the greater Seattle, Washington area, founded in 2021. A 2022 community profile described it as one of the Seattle area's first lifestyle groups owned and operated by people of color and allies, positioning itself as a culturally diverse, inclusive space within the regional non-monogamy and swinger scene. That same account placed the group's members-only venue in Kent, WA, describing a compact space with nine designated play spaces and a sex swing, alongside in-house programming such as karaoke nights, an erotic poetry open-mic, and kink-themed nights. Guests were encouraged to dress to impress rather than dress down, giving the space a glammed-up, party-first atmosphere alongside its play areas. Historically, parties ran on a biweekly Friday/Saturday schedule: Friday nights mixed members and non-members at a themed social before shifting to a members-only afterparty after midnight, while Saturdays ran as a members-only dance-and-play night. Membership was listed at $10 per month or $90 per year in a December 2025 snapshot of the group's own site. As of mid-2026 that site is no longer serving its normal content, so current hours, address, and pricing should be treated as historical until independently re-verified.

PLUR Productions / Studio PLUR

Vancouver, British Columbia

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PLUR Productions is a sex-positive event production company based in Vancouver, British Columbia, serving the LGBTQ+, swinger, kink, and burner communities under the ethos of peace, love, unity, and respect. Monthly themed events and bi-monthly meet-and-mingle nights are held at various venues, with clearly marked play areas, on-site consent staff called Cupids, and complimentary safer-sex supplies provided. Membership is required for entry; the club is open to all orientations and gender identities at identical admission rates for adults 19 and older.

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A multi-genre, queer, sex-positive rave with activism at its core. POC and sex worker-led, centring historically marginalised communities with play spaces, workshops and performances across genres including Dancehall, Afrobeats, House and UKG.

Jo & David's Swingers Parties

Chamcook, New Brunswick

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NBSocials.ca is a New Brunswick-based adult lifestyle social event organizer hosting casual meet-and-greet gatherings for swingers, kinksters, and others in alternative lifestyles. Events are free to attend with no membership fees, held at venues where attendees purchase their own drinks, and are open to all genders, orientations, ages, and relationship structures without discrimination. Photography is prohibited at all events to protect attendee privacy.

Sinn-Ergy Events

Washington, DC

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Sinn-Ergy Events has been running members-only lifestyle parties across the Washington D.C., Virginia, and Maryland area since 2008. The organization operates on a roving model — there is no fixed venue. Instead, the exact location of each event is disclosed only to paid ticket holders, approximately one week before the date. Depending on the event and venue secured, gatherings range from intimate meet-and-greets to full-scale productions hosting 50 to 500-plus guests, drawing attendees from across the country and internationally. The event mix spans several formats. Sip & Sinn Meet & Greets serve as lower-key social mixers, while the flagship themed events — Halloween, Midsummer's Night Dream, New Year's Eve hotel takeovers — are styled as immersive productions with custom decor, themed dress codes, and sets from national and international DJs. BYOB is standard across events, with bartenders on staff to pour and provide drinkware. VIP table packages are available at select events. The crowd skews younger than many comparable lifestyle events — the site describes the core demographic as mid-20s to mid-30s, within a broader age range. Single women are admitted on a selective basis; single men are not accepted. The organization also runs educational seminars and workshops for members on lifestyle topics.

The Menagerie

Brighton, East Sussex

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The Menagerie is a private event series in Brighton for the ethically non-monogamous and kink communities, centred on connection, consent, and curiosity. Welcoming all genders and sexualities, it offers sensual socials open to everyone and curated play parties for vetted guests in a queer-positive, body-positive, judgement-free space.

Orlando Swingers Club

Orlando, FL

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Orlando Swingers Club has been running lifestyle parties since April 20, 2000, and now operates as a mobile event host rather than a single fixed venue, staging its gatherings at rented clubs, resorts, and hotels around the Orlando area — most recently based out of 727 Conley St, with a move to the 32801 zip underway (unconfirmed). Party themes rotate through swingers nights, gang bangs, meet-and-greets, orgy and group-sex events, and BDSM sessions, alongside recurring BBC/BWC/BCC theme parties, giving the calendar a broader spread than a typical single-room club. The operation doubles as a lifestyle travel agency and promoter, cross-promoting other hosts' parties for free in exchange for an invite, and runs an affiliated adult store alongside the event side of the business.

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Illuminaughty Colorado Springs is a pre-launch chapter of the Illuminaughty lifestyle network, a members-only community for couples and singles in their 20s-40s. As of mid-2026, no events have yet been held in Colorado Springs — the brand's own site states it is still building its local membership base and will schedule its first party once enough members have signed up. There is no fixed venue: consistent with Illuminaughty's model elsewhere, future events would be hosted at private residences rather than a dedicated clubhouse. Once launched, programming is expected to follow the format used in other Illuminaughty cities: Tease Cocktail Mixers at bars with a reserved private area, and private house parties with themed decor and on-site security, typically drawing 40-80 attendees. Membership is free but requires an application and photo-based approval; approved members get event access through the Illuminaughty mobile app. Because no parties have been scheduled in Colorado Springs, prospective members should apply and RSVP through the official site to be notified once the first event is announced.

Eros Events

Seattle, WA

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Eros Events is a private, members-only, on-premise lifestyle group based in Redmond, Washington, operating continuously since early 2003 under its original name, Redmond Ranch. The club describes itself as an inclusive community that welcomes members regardless of race, gender, gender identity, or sexuality, and builds its culture around explicit, enthusiastic consent. Parties are held at a home-like retreat center set on several acres, combining a heated indoor pool and hot tub (swimwear optional) with a DJ-driven dance floor and brass pole, a voyeur room, and semi-private and open group play areas. Two detached cabins supplement the main house — a cozy, semi-private cabin with a loft and king beds, and a larger cabin used for bigger groups and light BDSM play. The property has recently been refreshed with a new roof, paint, carpet, and a renovated pool and hot tub. Evening parties run on Saturday nights roughly once a month (with occasional Fridays), 8pm to midnight with newcomer orientation at 7pm, while swim parties happen on Sundays one to two times a month from 1 to 5pm with orientation at noon. Entry requires annual membership ($30 per person, or $10 for a single-party pass) plus a per-party charge of $70 per couple or $40 per person, with identical rates for all singles since 2023; cash only. First-timers must complete an orientation and show valid state ID, and alcohol, marijuana, phones, and cameras are all prohibited on the property.

Lavish Lifestyle Events

Hauppauge, NY

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Lavish Lifestyle Events is an off-premise lifestyle event company run by Cynthia and Ron, the couple who operated Club Manor -- Long Island's premier off-premise swingers club -- for over a decade before closing it in September 2015 and pivoting to a travelling event format. The operation has since been fully rebranded as Lavish Lifestyle Events, expanding from its Long Island base to South Florida, with events now targeted across Palm Beach, Broward, and Dade counties at rotating private venues. All events are RSVP-only with no walk-in admittance. An online form collects names, email, and phone number; couples must list both partners. A discount applies to early RSVPs but expires at noon on the day of each event. Event dates are announced via the website and a newsletter, and the schedule rotates -- prospective guests are encouraged to check back regularly as upcoming parties are revealed on a rolling basis. Both couples and singles are welcome. The tone throughout is upscale and low-drama: themed soirees with crafted cocktails, curated music, and a no-nonsense social atmosphere. Cynthia and Ron position the brand on nearly two decades of community-building credibility from the Club Manor years. Personal information collected at RSVP is kept strictly confidential per the site's privacy policy and never shared with outside parties.

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Daytime lifestyle parties for couples and select singles, held in upscale hotel suites. Parties typically run from afternoon into early evening with intimate guest lists of 20 or fewer, offering a relaxed and sociable alternative to late-night events.

Illuminaughty Phoenix

Phoenix, AZ

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Illuminaughty Phoenix is an upscale curated swinger lifestyle event series operating in Phoenix and Scottsdale, Arizona, active since 2023. The organization hosts members-only events for couples and singles, with an emphasis on sophisticated, consent-focused experiences. Membership requires a formal application, and members have access to an events calendar, referral programs, and community resources.

Illuminaughty (San Francisco)

San Francisco, CA

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Illuminaughty is not a fixed-address club but a roving, invitation-only party series that has been lighting up the Bay Area since early 2024. Events land in private residences — member-owned homes, upscale rental estates, even multi-thousand-square-foot Victorian mansions — with the exact address released only to ticket holders on the day of the event. Capacity ranges from intimate 40-person gatherings in single-family houses to 150-plus blowout mansion parties, and each one is themed: past concepts have included Great Gatsby, Neon, Masquerade, and Jungle, with outfit inspiration posted on the event page beforehand. Membership is free but selective. Applicants submit four clear photos, a bio, and essay-style answers on consent and intentions; approval typically comes within three days, and rejections arrive as silence. The crowd skews young — mostly late twenties to early forties — and events are open to couples, single women, non-binary guests, and a small, carefully balanced number of single men. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, water, snacks, and champagne flutes provided. Protection is stocked in every play area. Doors open for an arrival window (typically 8:00–9:30 pm for night parties), after which no one is admitted. A mandatory consent talk kicks off the evening before any play begins; phones are forbidden once it starts. Multiple bedrooms are staged for open-door play, and rooms may include massage tables, group-play beds, or light BDSM equipment. Private security staffs every event, and a coat-check area is provided.

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A friendly swingers club in Loughborough, Leicestershire, with a great atmosphere and regular themed party nights. Doors open at 7pm with affordable annual membership, offering a welcoming environment for couples and singles alike.

Club SINZ

Salisbury, MA

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Perched on the second and third floors of Ten's Show Club on the North Shore of Massachusetts, Club SINZ has carved out a reputation as New England's premier couples lifestyle destination since its founding in 2004. The windowless, 4,000-plus square-foot ultra-lounge on Salisbury's North End Boulevard sits about an hour north of Boston, drawing a membership base that now numbers over 15,000 couples from across the region. The club's motto — La Passion Avant Tout, Passion Above All — is backed by multiple top-shelf bars, luxurious lounge seating, video screens, dance poles, a dance cage, and a pocket billiards table. Events run on a bi-weekly Saturday schedule, doors opening at 8:30 PM through 1:00 AM, with larger holiday parties drawing 300 to 500 guests. The club is strictly off-premise: no sexual activity is permitted on-site, keeping the atmosphere in meet-and-greet territory. Membership begins with a free Basic Membership application; Gold Members receive discounted cover charges and may bring a guest couple or single female for free. A members-only inner sanctum called SINZ Black — a custom-built invitation-only lounge with an eight-person circular bar and 300-year-old Chinese door decor — exists for the most loyal regulars. SINZ.NET, the club's private social network, allows prospective members to connect with thousands of New England couples before committing to their first visit.

SOP Lifestyle Productions

Vancouver, British Columbia

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SOP Lifestyle Productions is a Canadian-based event production company specializing in lifestyle hotel takeovers, group cruises, and international travel experiences for the swinger and open community. Signature events include seasonal takeovers in Whistler and abroad, Virgin Voyages group sailings, and curated pop-up adventures in destinations such as Iceland. The organization welcomes singles, couples, and all experience levels, with a strong emphasis on enthusiastic and continuous consent.

Illuminaughty Austin

Austin, TX

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Illuminaughty Austin is the Texas capital's chapter of Illuminaughty, a multi-city lifestyle event brand that hosted its first private Austin party in 2024. Rather than operating a fixed clubhouse, the chapter runs invitation-only cocktail mixers and play parties for a curated community of couples, single women, non-binary members, and a limited number of vetted single men, generally in their 20s to 40s. Membership is free but application-based: prospective members submit photos and a bio for staff review, and approval is required before anyone can purchase tickets or receive event invitations. Events take over rented private residences around the Austin area rather than a single dedicated venue — past parties have used a multi-play-room house in the heart of Austin and a six-bedroom, three-story home in Central East Austin, each redressed with theme-specific music, lighting, and decor. Every party includes multiple designated play spaces, massage tables, and a coat storage area, with private security checking IDs and monitoring the event. Parties are BYOB, with mixers, champagne flutes, cups, and non-alcoholic drinks supplied by the organizers. Austin parties typically run Saturday nights from 8pm to 2am, with a fixed arrival window (usually 8:00–9:30pm) after which doors close for a mandatory opening talk on rules and consent; latecomers are not admitted without prior arrangement. Dress codes are theme-specific and enforced (examples include masquerade formalwear and 1960s Summer of Love attire). For privacy and security, the venue address is not published in advance — it is emailed only to confirmed ticket holders on the morning of the event. Ticket refunds have historically been offered up to 5 days before an event, minus a non-refundable credit-card processing fee of about 5%.

Play Champagne (The Champagne Club)

Columbus, OH

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Play Champagne is one of the Midwest’s largest lifestyle event organizers, operating as a traveling party producer rather than a fixed-address club. Founded and still run by owners Melissa and Eric, the operation specializes in complete hotel takeovers — booking every guestroom, the convention space, restaurant, and bar — at full-service Hilton-brand hotels across Ohio, Michigan, Indiana, and Illinois, with regular Las Vegas editions and annual trips to Hedonism II in Jamaica. Flagship venues have included the Embassy Suites in Blue Ash (Cincinnati), Livonia MI, Indianapolis, Glenview IL, and Las Vegas. Typical weekends draw 1,200–1,600 attendees and span two nights, with a Friday check-in at 3 pm and checkout Monday morning. The programming is unusually dense for a hotel event: a five-story atrium main stage with award-winning lifestyle DJs, professional sound, lighting, and laser rigs; a 24-hour indoor pool (topless optional); a vendor showcase; meet-and-greet karaoke; drag shows; live bands; and a 360-degree video photo booth. Educational content includes couples sensory, Kama Sutra, and NURU massage classes, plus BDSM demonstrations, all with separate sign-up slots. Play areas include group and semi-private themed playrooms (typically in dedicated ballrooms), a Porn Play Escape group room, and an expanded Impact room for impact play opening nightly from around 11 pm. The famous top-floor afterparty runs from 1 am to dawn. Complimentary drinks are served nightly during a comp-bar window, and a full hot breakfast buffet with omelet station is included each morning. The crowd skews inclusive and body-positive, spanning roughly ages 28–55, and Play Champagne explicitly welcomes all body types and demographics. The vibe is upscale nightclub rather than underground party: VIP table service with reserved front-and-center seating is available, and off-duty police officers are stationed throughout the hotel. Dress code is dress-to-impress rather than enforced, though themed costume participation is strongly encouraged. The whole-hotel BYOB policy means guests bring their own alcohol to guest rooms and carry it in a covered tumbler into event spaces; a hotel cash bar is also on site.